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    Losing hope...

    I'm in need of some sort of encouragement. We have been trying for 2 1/2 years. Since May I started having what feel like multiple miscarriages. Only one was confirmed. (July 4th). After so many times of being multiple days late (i keep track by temping and taking ovulation tests), then having horrible pains and bleeding and feeling like I've been torn apart emotionally, I didn't even bother to test this month when I was 4 days late...I just waited, and sure enough...

    So now, I'm feeling hopeless. That first positive pregnancy test brought so much relief and happiness. ..but since I miscarried, I've felt hopeless. I can't help but wonder if I'm just suddenly fertile mertyl but my body can't keep a baby. I told my Dr and she just acted like no big deal. It sucks when the doctors don't seem to care if you get pregnant or not. I feel at a loss. I don't even know what to do next. Do I give up? Do I waste more time, tears, and money? I don't even have any hope that anything would even make a difference.


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    Shannon,
    You should go get a second opinion. There are tests that can be done to give you some answers. I'm not very knowledgeable on this type of stuff, but if your body is rejecting the pregnancy they can test to see if there is an antibody that's causing it. One of the BC or board coordinators might have better answers but I just wanted to say your in my prayers and I pray that you get done answers soon. Don't give up.


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    Are you currently working with a RE? Fertility Doctor- if not, I would be more than happy to recommend someone. Multiple miscarriages is heartbreaking and at the same time a good sign you are able to get pregnant. You just need to pinpoint why it's happening and then hopefully go on to a healthy pregnancy. Could be something as simple as low progesterone which is super easy to fix.
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    I am seeing a fertility doctor but we have ran into a dead end. There are no RE'S where I live. There is an infertility specialist 3 hours from me that I'm going to look into...I just hadn't had time because it requires I take off work. Somehow the miscarriages make me more hopeless. Last labs they took say I have good progesterone. I have high blood calcium, but once again, doctors won't do anything about it so I gotta get a new doctor to get a second opinion. I read that high blood calcium causes miscarriage, and it's never normal. It's just so frustrating. They want to take my money for treatments that won't work, but they don't want to take the time to pinpoint the actual problem.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Patient-One View Post
    Shannon,
    You should go get a second opinion. There are tests that can be done to give you some answers. I'm not very knowledgeable on this type of stuff, but if your body is rejecting the pregnancy they can test to see if there is an antibody that's causing it. One of the BC or board coordinators might have better answers but I just wanted to say your in my prayers and I pray that you get done answers soon. Don't give up.
    Thank you. I do need a second opinion. I don't like knowing there's more that can be done, but the dr refuses to do it. Even if it's not likely, this is worth it to me just in case it is...


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    Yes, another opinion. It could be complicated it could be simple. Mine was complicated - took a 4th RE (I am in a city with many) to help us. My 2nd RE was not impressed by my pg losses; ditched him fast. On the other hand I've had two friends inexplicably go from IF to RPL to live births. OK, well, they both had hysterocopies, and failed treatment cycles, so something there may have been "reset" - but nothing they could put a finger on. Even in my case we can't say what made the difference: was it my surgery or DH's "prescribed" vitamin regimen? Just that there was a difference. Wishing you find the key, or that inexplicably the door is unlocked for you ... and your sweet babe sticks and stays and is in your arms soon!


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    Hey, Shannon1284! I am so sorry about your problem. When I first discovered that I was infertile, I felt overwhelmed and confused! Why me? I couldn't find the answer to this question. This problem had been influencing on my family for a long time. I was so emotionally exhausted! After some reconsideration, my husband ensured me that everything would be all right and we were going to struggle this problem! You see, I wasn't in poor health or else. I used to visit my doctor frequently. Since there was no hope anymore to get pregnant by myself, we chose to try surrogacy. Nevertheless, the frightful feelings were following me! First, we've tried Georgian service, but experienced failure. Then, we found the clinic BioTexCom situated in Ukraine. As distinguished from other clinics, the service of BioTexCom was satisfying in accordance with the price it proposes. We were met nicely at the airport. Our package included comfortable accommodation and food as well. I was positively impressed with the doctor examination! The clinic's doctor assured us that we should try a special package. And we got interested, since it was an advantageous proposition. As far as I remember, this package included egg donation first. Then, if something didn’t work out, we would be transferred automatically to surrogate package without losing money. It seemed great for us! I didn't know that it was possible to choose such option! And then we decided that it was totally for us! The doctor confirmed that egg donors are healthy. We were also glad to know that medical care was also included. The doctor fertilized the donor's egg with the semen of my husband. After this procedure, he transferred the embryos to my uterus! And I got pregnant! From the first attempt! I couldn't believe that! Anyway, I am so grateful to everybody in the clinic. I am so happy at the moment! We have a healthy daughter and feel inspired! And now we are thinking about our second one! The more children we have in our family, the better for us! I wanted to share this story in order to inspire you! Never stop trying! No matter what, the hope is the most essential. And it doesn't matter what is better for you (surrogacy, adoption, or egg donation). You might just have to enhance your health, who knows. The result is the most valuable, since the result is your own baby. Wish you all the best!


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    have you thought on undergoing additional tests to fidn out why you can't get pregnant. If it is chromosomal issues, then you might be advised to undergo ivf treatment with PGS NGS to increase yr chances of having a problem- free pregnancy.


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