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    New to here - feeling hopeless

    Hi,

    I am feeling hopeless, my husband and I have been married for 5 years this summer and have not been on birth control all 5 years. We were not really trying for the first 3 1/2 years because I was in school and we were not financially or emotionally ready for a child.

    We are now, we recently bought a house with bedrooms I want to fill. We have been trying for over 2 1/2 years and in the last 6 months got our referral to the fertility doctor.

    My husband and I were both checked and were given the explanation of unexplained infertility, and pills for Clomid.

    We have had two rounds of 100mg and timed intercourse, I have had two positive opks. I took all the prenatal and vitamin d... Clomid gives me this weird clumpy cm that I can't explain and the doctor didn't really have an explanation for either.

    I'm scared that I'll never have a baby, I'm scared that our extra bedrooms won't have a smiling baby or crying baby or fussy baby for me to take care of. I'm scared that the one thing I have always wanted will never come true. I'm afraid that I've done something wrong in my life and I am being punished.

    This month was extra weird, I had dark sludge like period that lasted barely 2 1/2 days. This just makes me more afraid because what if something is terribly wrong and the doctors just aren't looking hard enough because I'm under 30.

    I'm not sure what to do, I see my doctor tomorrow and feel like I have no questions, but I have a million, but they all feel stupid.

    Does anyone have any suggestions?


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    How did your appt go? I hope you were able to come up with tons of questions and rightfully so you should inquire. You want to get to the bottom of things BEFORE you are in mid 30's! If you are not confident with your RE, send me a PM and I can recommend some top fertility doctors close to you. Second opinions are never a bad idea ..
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    The appointment went okay, we changed my medication from Clomid to fermara, but I have taken 2 months off to relax and hopefully get the Clomid out of my system.

    The doctor has sent me and my husband for more tests, so hopefully we will find some kind of answer.

    I don't know what to do. I'm just hoping the tests come back or the new medication will work better and not screw up my system.

    I have also decided to always bring someone with me, so when I get emotional they can ask my questions for me, stupid or not.

    Thank for for responding.


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    There is possibility of infertility with unknown reasons...you better change the doctor and consult an best infertility specialist and proceed as per they said...


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    Hi knew it. ... I am in a similar boat...married almost 5 years....didn't really start trying until 15 months ago. Finally went to an re last October. Did 3 rounds of Serophene with timed intercourse...as there are no fertility issues with either of us. We then did an iui...bfn. in my 2nd iui cycle right now. I am 28 and overweight...but my re says the weight isn't really an issue because I am ovulating. I think our next step is IVF which scares me...but fingers crossed for this month. One day at a time!


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    Quote Originally Posted by babymakingtime View Post
    Hi knew it. ... I am in a similar boat...married almost 5 years....didn't really start trying until 15 months ago. Finally went to an re last October. Did 3 rounds of Serophene with timed intercourse...as there are no fertility issues with either of us. We then did an iui...bfn. in my 2nd iui cycle right now. I am 28 and overweight...but my re says the weight isn't really an issue because I am ovulating. I think our next step is IVF which scares me...but fingers crossed for this month. One day at a time!
    ***sorry I meant kdewit. ...darn autocorrect lol


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    I just finished a two month break( our decision). I feel ready to start again... We are trying a month of letrozol. I am meeting with the Doctor in June and if the letrozol doesn't work these two months then I will be asking to start IUI, and then after 3 months of that IVF.

    I feel like being 28 means that I'm not "old enough" to have issues yet, except I am having issues... So my doctor needs to help me.

    I hope someone for you and good luck this month! I hope for the bfp for the both of us!


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    I have an appointment in June as well in case this iui fails. I was really hoping to conceive naturally with the help of meds but if iui works....well then so be it! But you are right. .. my re has said numerous times...oh your still young... or taking these meds are okay because your young...it makes me feel comfortable in one way but worried in another. ..because if being young is a good thing. ...why isn't it happening! !! Anyhow. ..will keep u posted! Goodluck


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    Hello, dear kdewit! firstly, let me give you a strong hug. As this all is VERY tough, I know it myself and probably thousands of women here. You should know you aren't alone with your problem, here are lots of understanding people. So welcome to the crowd, dear.
    I can't agree with you on the point God punishes you in such a way. I'm convinced he gives us this challenge to learn how to survive, to get to know how the people around you are, to take lessons from everything to become devoting, extremely loving parents in future. So you shouldn't think this is forever. Moreover never let such thoughts come to your head. Take this like you simply need a little bit more time.. This is the way I'm taking things now and believe me it really helps!
    We're currently passing our DE IVF treatment in Biotexcom, Ukraine. Have so much hope for this time
    I've also got some thoughts as for your situation. They say you're in the case of unexplained infertility. Is this 100% verdict?? I know this commonly happens to women. But as far as we're staying in Biotexcom we've experienced the following thing. A couple once having come to them with unexplained infertility went on being diagnosed on absolutely clear disease. So further they've got a treatment plan due to their new diagnosis!!
    Here I just wanna say, if you aren't satisfied with what your doc says, or you just doubt something, find another expert. Get the 2nd and 3rd point of view if necessary. Believe me, your being under 30 yo mustn't be the reason for your turning away with such undistinguished results!!
    Any way, whatever you decide, I wish you all the best of luck. Take good care and feel free to chat whenever you'd like to


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    Quote Originally Posted by marty123 View Post
    hello, dear kdewit! Firstly, let me give you a strong hug. As this all is very tough, i know it myself and probably thousands of women here. You should know you aren't alone with your problem, here are lots of understanding people. So welcome to the crowd, dear.
    I can't agree with you on the point god punishes you in such a way. I'm convinced he gives us this challenge to learn how to survive, to get to know how the people around you are, to take lessons from everything to become devoting, extremely loving parents in future. So you shouldn't think this is forever. Moreover never let such thoughts come to your head. Take this like you simply need a little bit more time.. this is the way i'm taking things now and believe me it really helps!
    We're currently passing our de ivf treatment in biotexcom, ukraine. Have so much hope for this time
    I've also got some thoughts as for your situation. They say you're in the case of unexplained infertility. Is this 100% verdict?? I know this commonly happens to women. But as far as we're staying in biotexcom we've experienced the following thing. A couple once having come to them with unexplained infertility went on being diagnosed on absolutely clear disease. So further they've got a treatment plan due to their new diagnosis!!
    Here i just wanna say, if you aren't satisfied with what your doc says, or you just doubt something, find another expert. Get the 2nd and 3rd point of view if necessary. Believe me, your being under 30 yo mustn't be the reason for your turning away with such undistinguished results!!
    Any way, whatever you decide, i wish you all the best of luck. Take good care and feel free to chat whenever you'd like to
    ii


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