FertileThoughts.com - Infertility, adoption, pregnancy and parenting discussions
Has anyone started out single and added their partner to the mix?

Thanks Thanks:  0
Likes Likes:  0
Dislikes Dislikes:  0
Results 1 to 4 of 4
  1. #1
    JeanieBeanie
    has no status.
    Registered User
    JeanieBeanie's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2002
    Location
    Boston, MA-Go Sox!!
    Posts
    9,147
    Post Thanks / Like
    Blog Entries
    7
    My Mood
    Doh

    Has anyone started out single and added their partner to the mix?

    I guess I'm trying to figure out if you all started out together and then had a family, or if any of you started out solo with a child and then met someone. Did your relationships move quickly or what. This is all pretty new to me, but I don't know where time has gone and we're already talking about moving in together and it hasn't been all that long. I guess I'm kind of confused and don't even know what the norm is, ya know?

    Thanks for any advice/input!
    Jean
    Mom to Meghan a/k/a Meggles-8


  2. Advertisement


  3. #2
    AmyP
    has no status.
    Registered User
    AmyP's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2002
    Location
    Brookline, MA
    Posts
    1,388
    Post Thanks / Like
    Blog Entries
    10
    so the joke goes - what does a lesbian bring on a second date - answer - a U-Haul!!

    I think the stereotype is that things tend to move somewhat faster with two women - because women are natural nesters and I think there is something to it!

    Dp and I started our family together - but I know plenty of people who had their kids first and their partner second - I don't think there is a norm there.


    Does your friend have kids too? Is she also just coming out?

    I'm sure this is all really confusing for you - but we are all here to help!
    Amy

    Mom to Mia
    born Guatemala 4/2/2000
    home to Boston 7/5/2001


  4. #3
    wintak
    has no status.
    Registered User

    Join Date
    Jan 2004
    Location
    Denver, CO
    Posts
    3,993
    Post Thanks / Like
    OMG...Amy beat me to it...I was going to say the same thing...2nd date...bring a Uhaul.

    No help from me, either. I do know that we started out as friends first...no joke..we were best friends first (and drinkin buddies) and then moved on from there. I understand that is a great foundation on any relationship...friends, then lovers.

    If RiTay comes on again, she might be able to give some insight. I think (and I could be wrong) there was a child involved before they got involved...but I"m not sure.

    And RiTay..forgive me if I got that wrong.

    Amy


  5. #4
    RiTay
    has no status.
    Registered User

    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Posts
    3,504
    Post Thanks / Like
    oh so sorry i haven't been on much!!

    yes, dp had her son as a single mom before we met. ds was 5 when we started dating (and yes, I think I was practically moved in within the month!)

    pm me if you'd like and we can chat about it!
    Dec 2005
    Sept 2014
    March 2015 BFP!! It's twins!! EDD 11/27/15


Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DISCLAIMER: Fertile Thoughts allows advertisers to publish information about their services. Fertile Thoughts does not provide medical advice or endorse any particular service or approach to treating infertility. We encourage people to learn as much as possible about the range of options available before committing to any one. We also encourage users to share their thoughts on all fertility options on our forums.

Forum Stats

  • Forum Members: 97,616
  • Total Threads: 352,307
  • Total Posts: 4,534,779
There are 285 users currently browsing forums.

Advertisement

Visit Our Partner Sites: Fertility Treatments