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    What are some things that NEED to be worked on in your relationship?

    DH and I are doing good and he is doing everything to make up for it. I told you guys about my DVD gift and then he come home on my Birthday Thursday with Flowers and a card that brought me to tears. He has NOT bought me Flowers in 15 YEARS!!! Last l=night he came home with the meat tenderizer I had been wanting. With all the gifts he keeps bringing me I really wish he would just sit down and TALK to me about what is going on what went on and how to get through it. I love the gifts, who wouldn't BUT I would love good old fashion communication!


    Communication is the number one issue we need to work on.


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    DH needs to be home more and take on the responsibilities he said he wanted. Needs to stop spending money on recreation!!!
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    dh needs to watch what he spends money on.
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    our biggest issue is communication also. i'm an attacker, he's a runner. BAD combination. we're attending a marriage class together (oddly, it's initiated more fights, but i guess that means we're talking) and both attending 12 step meetings to aid in his ____ addiction recovery. slow slow progress. i'm so impatient!!
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    I have to find some wood to knock on, because right now we are in a really, really good place. We will celebrate 8 years of marriage on Valentine's Day. The first two years we dealt with overt jealousy and insecurity issues, the next two years I thought everything was perfect, but the insecurity had just gone underground. It blew up in the 5th year and we separated for a few months. Since we got back together spring of 2006 it has honestly just gotten better and better.

    Yea, where is that wood?!
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    Angel at least you know your styles and are working with it - that puts you guys lightyears ahead of most couples!
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    well, i know what our communication styles are. dh refuses to accept his responsibility in our issues. classic "runner". he thinks running from issues is a healthy way to handles things.
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    I would have to say that our biggest problem is probably ME and insecurity. He'll come home from a rough day at work and because he's quiet, I have a tendency to automatically assume that he's upset with me or that I've done something to anger him.

    I know that I shouldn't assume, but I came from a long relationship where I had similar stuff and he WOULD be mad at me. I would just have to tread lightly until I found out why. It was a scary situation to be in, waiting for the fight and throwing stuff to start.

    Lucky for me, J seems to sense when I start to tense up like that and says that I have annxiety in my eyes, and makes sure that I realize that he's not angry or otherwise, he's just stressed and tired.

    I really try to work on that, and not just assume, but some days, its difficult.
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    Well, DH and I made some progress this wknd. We talked and talked and yes, it has allot to do with work and the puppy who is constantly pooping ALL over the house and eating EVERYTHING. I am sure there is more but that is what he shared. He has to fire two guys today(1 day shift 1 nights) and that is always hard on him. He feels so bad when he lets somebody go ...even when it is LONG over due!

    He stopped into work for a bit on Saturday and did a spot check on a few machines and he found that TWO SHIFTS didn't check their parts after changing a cutting tool and now there are over 150 bad parts on a job that only puts out 1 per 20 minutes and job is due to go out tomorrow! He is just not happy with any of them right now and but at least he telling me and venting to me about it instead of keeping it in!

    Now that is improvement!!


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    My gut response is "communication", but I fear that we have fundamental differences in what we want and what we think marriage should be.

    I don't know what is going to happen. Some days are great, some not so much.

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