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  • Multiple- True love absolutely strikes more than once

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    SmilingHelps
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    Do we get only one true love?

    During a lifetime, can "true love" strike more than once?

    Is it possible to have more than one soul mate/real true love during one's life?
    Last edited by BC-SmilingHelps; 04-20-2008 at 08:09 PM.
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    No, I think it is possible to have more than one love out there. I am saying that even though I have been with dh for 17 and 1/2 years!


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    I kinda believe only one, but it isn't necessarily the first
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    Me fifty-freakin' eight! DH 38, Max 25, Cole 20
    The only choice in life is love vs. fear. I choose love. ALWAYS.

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    I am torn on the question because I believe that we love each person differently... We may love multiple people throughout our lifetime, but each one is a unique relationship... I like to believe that we get many "true loves" during our lives, but it's hard to really know...
    Courage is not freedom from Fear.
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    Well, I am not an expert but I hope the answer is yes, you can have more than one great love. I still remember my first love and the 2nd, and the 3rd......




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    All I know is, I thought I loved before only to learn it wasn't really love - not grown up love, not unconditional love. And what I have now is so real it makes every past relationship pale in comparison.
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    I agree about the grown up love - nothing like it!

    I also think you can fall in love with anyone and its all about timing, chemistry, pheromones, and nature's inclination to build families (so the species wont die out). The lust period leads to monogamy and then the babymaking (ideally of course). The lasting love and bonding ensures the family is strong & stable. And of course our our head over heels love for our children ensures we will take care of them for life
    Married almost 9 years, together 11 years

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    Multiple. In different stages of our lives, we love people for different reasons and in different ways so I don't believe in one true love. I had my first true love at 17. He chose to take a bad path for his life, became a different person with different goals, and we split up after 5 years.
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    i thought my soon to be ex hubby was the love of my life. he was my whole world till the day he walked out on my children and me. i do love him still but it's different now. he doesn't know that and never will


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    I don't belive in there is only "one" love for someone. I think love is based on a lot of things. You can truely think you are married to the "one" and then they die. Then what? You can't have a true love again? I think you can.
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