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View Poll Results: Before you were married did you think marriage would be like it is?

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  • A fairytale where you would never argue

    11 23.91%
  • arguments but where you usually got your way

    12 26.09%
  • like your parents marriage

    7 15.22%
  • exactly as it is

    17 36.96%
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    before you were married?

    Did you have other thoughts of what marriage would be like?


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    this anonymous


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    None of the above.

    I knew it wouldn't be a fairytale.

    I KNEW it wouldn't be like my parents' marriage or I would have never gotten married. LOL.

    I knew I wouldn't always get my way in arguments.

    And there was no way I could predict it would be exactly how it is.

    I would say I had a pretty realistic view of what it would be like, but there are things you can't predict, like how some of the core issues are NEVER resolved because they stem from how the partners feel differently about things or have different values or beliefs.

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    I couldn't really pick any of them, so I didn't vote.
    I knew that marriage was difficult. I knew that it took work. I also knew that it had its romantic and "fairytale-like" moments.
    However, I never expected to be living the perfect life and have my husband one day come home and tell me that he'd decided he wanted a divorce and that was that.
    Sometimes life is like that You just never know what you're gonna get.
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    smiling so you are saying it is like a box of cracker jacks... you get what you get. LOLi guess i need to think through the options again. thanks for answering!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Carol J
    smiling so you are saying it is like a box of cracker jacks... you get what you get. LOLi guess i need to think through the options again. thanks for answering!
    LOL. I think sometimes you just have to be prepared for the surprises. You just never know...
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    It is being afraid and continuing on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CrystalAZ
    None of the above.

    I knew it wouldn't be a fairytale.

    I KNEW it wouldn't be like my parents' marriage or I would have never gotten married. LOL.

    I knew I wouldn't always get my way in arguments.

    And there was no way I could predict it would be exactly how it is.

    I would say I had a pretty realistic view of what it would be like, but there are things you can't predict, like how some of the core issues are NEVER resolved because they stem from how the partners feel differently about things or have different values or beliefs.
    Once again, Crystal takes the literal words right out of my mouth (that line about the parent's marriage is DEAD on, woman!)

    I will say this, though. I was married before and even that didn't prepare me for this one - not only is the spouse different but I am different in relation to Vini than I was in relation to the ex. I happily, blissfully, was NOT prepared to still be so physically attracted to one another after seven years of marriage. I had never had the "spark" last more than a few months in any relationship before. My best expectation of a good marriage was solid love and affection but gradual loss of sexual tension. SO FUN to find that is not the case in my marriage to Vini!
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    He drives me nuts

    He drives me crazy

    Somedays I want to kill him.....lol

    But I knew he was my best friend, someone I couldn't live without.

    (Yea, the part about living your parents marriage....so true.)
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    I couldn't answer any of those. I was scared and unsure. I was raised by a single parent and didn't know what a successful marriage was. Marriage was an unknown. I hoped marriage would be an equal partnership.
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    child ment

    I did not vote, but I will say that my marriage is good. We rarely argue. I just keep it in b/c I know if I let it go things would be said that can't be taken back. I do know that our marriage is much different after childern than before children.

    Jen
    Last edited by OurFirst; 04-02-2008 at 03:44 PM.


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