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    Would you say that your attraction to your spouse has changed over the years??

    Curious question.

    I've been married 13 years and when I met my husband he was the cutest, skinniest little blonde surfer you ever saw...a far cry from the toned brunette soldier he is today. A friend was over looking at old pictures with me and noticed just HOW different my DH has become and asked my if I though he was more attractive now or then. And even though I knew instantly that NOW was my answer, I spent a long time thinking about just what it is now that makes him so much more attractive to me. I think that the comfort of knowing what an exceptional man he is, what a great provider he is, how much he really adores me, etc..all adds to his attractiveness for sure, but the changes in him physically (he's gained about 45 lbs of solid muscle since he enlisted 7 years ago) are certainly attractive as well.

    What do you ladies think?? How do your spouses stack up now compared to then?? How has your attraction to them changed? Is it better? worse? just different?
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    Vini was 21 when we met, with a Marine-style fade haircut. He is now 28 years old with hair longer than mine. He is devastatingly handsome with a killer smile and a perfect soccer-player body. Maybe someday he will be ho-hum to me but I just can't see it happening. Of course I know him much better now, we have been through the fire together and come out the other side, which only deepens the bond, both physical and otherwise.
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    When I met my dh he was 185 lbs. SO handsome! When we married 4 years later he was 280 lbs! It didn't bother me - I loved him no less. Today he is 206 lbs and still hot to me. Like the previous poster mentioned, we had a really tough year and I think that that truly did deepen the bonds we have (emotional and physical). Heck, after the year we've had, we're back in the honeymoon phase - where we're both just so hot for one another!

    PS - I didn't mention his weight for any other reason other than to say that no matter his appearance he was always hot to me! And YES, I did do some yo-yo'ing too!
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    It was love at first sight over 21 years ago. I think my dh is an incredibly handsome man. When I look at old pictures I think he's much more attractive now than he was.

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    We've been together for 6 years. The attraction is still there and still as strong. The love however has deepened and has become much stronger.

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    My DH is strikingly handsome, friends and family say so (I agree, but am biased). We are still newlyweds, but I have that lust type of thing still..... we have been together 2.5 years. The way his shirt shows his back muscles, the way he walks - everything...... he doesn't have the chissled body he used to have, but I like him much better with a few pounds on him....

    I hope I think so in another 10 years, 20 years, etc.


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    I am extremely attracted to my husband, but not for his physical characteristics. The good qualities within him make me attracted to him as opposed to his outer appearance. Dh and I are both phsycially attracted to different kinds of people than we are. He is attracted to only brunette women, and I am attracted to mostly darker men with black hair, dark eyes and tanned skin.. Dh and I are neither of these things.
    I am a blonde with very pale skin, and dh is very very white with a shaved head.

    As time goes on, my feelings don't change. I am still as attracted to him as I was when I met him. I think he's beautiful...
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