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    How to decide...

    Hi everyone. My husband and I are at the point where we need to decide if IVF is the route to go. We know it's the next step but it's such a tough decision to make...mainly because of the cost. How did you decide on IVF? Whether it was a yes or a no.

    Thank you so much.

    Ps. Little info about me: 32y, endometriosis, ovarian insufficiency, have had polyps removed twice along with an endometrioma, no male issues, been trying almost 2 years, never been pregnant.

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    Hi Bransie2011,
    IVF is such a strange and frustrating journey and it's normal for you to feel this way. For my DH and I it was the next step in our journey to have a baby, and thankfully our insurance covers most of the costs, except for the embryo freezing and sperm freezing and PGD genetic testing. Looking back on everything here is what I would have done differently (we have done 3 fresh IVF cycles and 3 frozen cycles). First, make sure you know what the underlying issues are that you cannot get pregnant and deal with those issues in whichever way you can if there is something you can do to 'fix' them. If there is no way of making them better than don't stress over it. You will do enough stressing and second guessing along the way so there's no point of doing that now. Next make sure that you are 100% comfortable with your RE. Have as many questions as you want at your consultation and ask all of them, no matter how silly you think they are. If you do not feel 100% with your doctor go for another consultation to someone else. If you don't feel comfortable with their practice, do not use them. You will be going to that office many times and you want to make sure that you trust them all the way and that you believe they are truly there to help you succeed. You may also want to seek the help of an acupuncture specialist and try acupuncture if you have not. I did it for one of my fet's and it did relax me, but my insurance does not cover it and it does add up fast. they can also give you natural herbs to take to make your uterus more 'welcoming' for the embryos. The cost of the IVF procedure and the medication is very expensive, but if you possibly can do the genetic testing to get the best possible outcome I would recommend that too. Once the eggs are retrieved and you have a good number of them fertilize, I would suggest that you spend the extra money and do the testing, that way you know that the embryo you transfer is the best one to optimize your results. If you don't have a good number of fertilized embryos, or if they are a poor grade, you don't need to waste money on the genetic testing, you can transfer what you have so that the cycle does not completely go to waste, and you might end up with a BFP anyhow. If you have any questions please let me know. The most important advice I can give you out of all of this is that you and your DH need to be sensitive towards each other and allow each other to go through this journey together as well as by yourself. Communication throughout this entire process is most important and make sure you are on the same page when making decisions. He should go with you to as many appointments as he can and I also involved my hubby during the shots as well. You will feel hormonal, fat, hungry, etc. and hopefully he will understand and try to help you anyway he can. Good luck!
    Me - 34 healthy
    DH - 43 low sperm count
    5 IUIs BFN
    06/13 IVF/ICSI1 BFN
    08/13 IVF/ICSI/AH2 BFP son born sleeping@32wks
    07/14 FET1 BFN
    09/14 FET2 BFN
    12/14 IVF/ICSI/AH3 BFP chemical
    09/15 FET/AH3 w/endo scratch & HCG BFN
    12/15 IVF4 w/PGS 18 retrieved, 16 fertilized w/ICSI, 6 PGS, 3 normal
    01/16 FET4 ET 1/13 2 PGS embryos BFP Joseph 09-21-16 7lbs8oz

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    Hi, bransie!
    I'm 49, almost 3 years trying to conceive - without success. I've got endo case. No serious symptoms except pelvic pain during menstruation. No male fertility issues. The latest fact was stated - poor egg quality. Seems enough for becoming candidates for DE ivf. At the moment we feel rather desperate and at a loss, because haven't decided yet where to go and apply for the treatment. Because of my age it must be an abroad clinic. Of course willing to save money, do not have them to burn as are not sure in a positive result from the first attempts.
    Cannot say when was the moment we simply decided to do that. You see 3 years is a pretty long period of time for getting used to the things...
    So this is obviously DE for us. We've already heard from the people on forums about a fertility center biotexcom in Ukraine. For us it was rather strange idea first. But then everything changed as we got to know more about it. Seems rather attractive.
    You see we're just pressed for time. I believe we'll make our final decision soon.
    May God help all us!
    Also big hugs for everyone facing this painful path X

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    Hi, of course, if there is a financial opportunity, then you need to try. Because, time flies so fast and you need to make decisions quickly. But, it is important to discuss this issue with the doctor. What about the cost? Yes, it's quite an expensive service. For example, we flew for surrogacy in another country. We managed to save money, despite the fact that we paid for the VIP package. You just need to look at information and prices in other countries. Perhaps you will find an acceptable option for you. If you are interested in where we were, then write. I can tell you more about our trip and the reproductive center in which we were. At first, it was also very difficult for us to make a decision. We talked for a long time about different clinics, about different countries. But nevertheless, we decided to try. And I want to say that it's better to try and make it wrong. Than to fear of possible failure and miss your chance.

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    I fully agree with Ririand. If you want to save and have top notch treatment, I would recommend considering your treatments abroad. I am happy with my clinic Inv**cta in Poland, nothing but praise.
    ME - 36, DH - 45
    IVF #1 - 2017, BFN, no implantation
    IVF #2 - 2017, BFN
    changed clinics, 1st consulting - Gdansk, Poland

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