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    Quote Originally Posted by AmHeinz View Post
    sure, it's a very personal decision grounded on our believes, faith and perception of the world in general and parenting in particular. when we faced multiple miscarriages, we were also thinking about surrogacy. I was very hesitant about it. I even had night dreams when I saw a woman who was carrying my child and it terrified me. i woke up in cold sweat. Probably, this is not for me. I know that thanks to IVF and surrogates, a lot of couples all over the world finally became parents. this is absolutely great. Maybe I'm just too emphasizing. If i had to face this choice, I'd better choose adoption and help someone who is already in need.
    But this is MY choice. it's RIGHT FOR ME.
    obviously, for any other infertile couple, surrogacy is a clue.
    Absolutely agree. This question arises in every family facing infertility. The same about me. I share the idea that it depends on individual perception of the world and attitude towards it. In my case my hb persuaded me totally to follow surrogacy route speaking in favour of genes which child would have. He said that we would never know what lies in the genes of adopted children. And that's really so. Of course, realizing the fact that some other woman would carry your baby is not really pleasant. BUT you are aware of her state of health and some other details unlike orphaned children mothers. That's my point.


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    adoption or surrogacy is probably the toughest questions for infertile couple like mine. initially opting adoption, we faced a lot of obstacles and limitations on our way. very sadly, we found no options for us to adopt a single healthy caucasian baby/toddler. we traveled to Ukraine with aims to adopt but were poked as they always prefer ukrainians to foreigners. from the other hand, our journey led us to a very good reproductive medicine clinic who said they will help us. now we're 15 weeks pregnant (surrogacy). we didn't even expect the process to be so quick and stress-less. i don't know if i can say surrogacy was my choice. it wasn't actually. it was our mutual decision, me and hubbie. we weighted all ups and downs and chose what was best for us.


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    Quote Originally Posted by AmHeinz View Post
    adoption or surrogacy is probably the toughest questions for infertile couple like mine. initially opting adoption, we faced a lot of obstacles and limitations on our way. very sadly, we found no options for us to adopt a single healthy caucasian baby/toddler. we traveled to Ukraine with aims to adopt but were poked as they always prefer ukrainians to foreigners. from the other hand, our journey led us to a very good reproductive medicine clinic who said they will help us. now we're 15 weeks pregnant (surrogacy). we didn't even expect the process to be so quick and stress-less. i don't know if i can say surrogacy was my choice. it wasn't actually. it was our mutual decision, me and hubbie. we weighted all ups and downs and chose what was best for us.
    I am confused why you didn’t get the success with adoption, for me that seemed like the easiest way because when you think about how many kids have been adopted throughout the years from Ukraine or nearest countries... But everything is for the better, if you have not succeed with the adoption you were able to get your kid by using surrogacy option. And that's a miracle. But can I ask you, why did you opt for Ukrainian centers in the first place? Thanks.


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    It seems to me that you should think about surrogacy. After all, it will be your own baby. Yes, surrogacy is certainly not a simple matter, but nevertheless, not as hard as it seems. When we were told that we need to try a surrogacy, we decided not to doubt and begin the process. And even in spite of the fact that at the first attempt there was a complete failure, we did not despair. Our desire to become parents became even stronger. And we started looking for other clinics abroad. We flew to Ukraine, where we could realize our dream. At first, we did not place much hope for a clinic in this country. But, for some reason we were helped at a professional level in this country. We were provided with apartments and food. We were provided with an experienced interpreter. In addition, we spent much less money than in the first attempt. Therefore, I advise you to first try a surrogacy, and then think about adoption. But there is only one important condition. Tell me, are you married? After all, this is one of the conditions for entering the process of surrogacy.


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