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    Engaged and Wanting to Adopt... can we??

    My DF and I are 43 and 50. Met late in life and thought we could have a baby. We are having problems, went the Femara route and would rathers adopt then try IVF. Can we adopt in the US while engaged? Thanks.


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    Probably not, but you should check with your adoption agency.
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    Are you planning on using an agency or going through the state Foster/Adopt program? In my state, you have to be married for an agnency, but can go through the state.


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    The only way to adopt when you are engaged is for one of you to adopt as a single. Then, when that person completes the adoption, the other member of the couple can (in certain states) do a second parent adoption to have the same rights, or can get some legal documents to allow him/her to have certain rights until the marriage occurs and a stepparent adoption is done.

    Be aware that, even if one person adopts as a single, the other person, if living in the same home, will have to be part of the homestudy. As a result, adopting as a single cannot be used to exempt the other person from having an investigation of his/her criminal, health, or financial situation.

    Likewise, if one person adopts as a single, but the fiancé(e) lives in the same house, you will need to work with an agency that is open to cohabiting people. Some faith-based agencies will not accept cohabiting couples, even if they intend to marry after the adoption.

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