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MrsDavis · 04-29-2008, 03:09 PM

I was a member on this site a few years ago but I cant remember what my screen name was.

My name is Hope, im 27 years old. My husband Donald is 39 years old. A few months after we got married I found out that I have PCOS. Then a year after we were married, I had lap surgery & the dr found & removed 17 implants of endo, they said it was only mild. They also did a D&C & HSG & my tubes were unblocked, no problems at all. In Aug of 2007 I went to see an RE to try & get pregnant. After all kinds of testing, I was told that I have unexplained infertility. Even thought I have 2 diseases that cause infertility, he said that my body is working correctly & they cant find a reason as to why I havent gotten pregnant. So my husband & myself decided to keep trying to get pregnant on our own thinking we just hadnt given it enough time. So we tried another 6 months & still no pregnancy. We went back to the RE & made plans for an IUI with no medications since I ovulate fine on my own. I had my first IUI in March of this year & it didnt work. I had my second IUI in April of this year & still no pregnancy. We will be doing our third IUI in May & praying for a miracle from God. I forgot to add that my husband has had several sperm counts done & everything is normal with him. When we had the 1st IUI done, his count was a little low due to some sinus medications he had been taking. After the meds were out of his system, his count went back up again.

I have had many emotional ups & downs over the past 3 years & 3 months but the one this month has been extremely hard on me. I just cant seem to snap out of it.

kore561 · 05-02-2008, 10:37 AM

Hi Mrs Davis!
I completely feel for you. I am in a very similar place. I am also unexplained and i didn't even have PCOS. I've had normal periods my whole life. I'm 33 and my DH is 32. He has a slight motility issus, but nothing to write home about. So the diagnosis is unexplained. I'm almost at the end of my 2ww for our second IUI and i'm pretty positive it will be negative. I've tested 2x (today is 14dpiui), so im going to wait a few more days and then if nothing, i stop the progesterone and wait for AF to come. We will be doing our 3rd iui in May as well.

But yeah, this month is extremely hard for me. I pretty much cry every day. I just don't understand. I often wish i had an actual explanation as to why its not working. We tried naturally for 1 year.. But b/c im in my 30s i wanted to start treatments asap..

I'll keep you in my thoughts. Where are you in your cycle? Are you doing medicated IUIs?

lrorrio · 05-02-2008, 10:55 AM

Hi. I am in the same boat as both of you. Have been going to an RE for about 2 1/2 and all tests come back normal along w/ HSG & saline sono. I have done Clomid w/ timed intercourse or IUI & injectibles w/ IUI. I am going to do one more cycle of injectibles w/ IUI then we have decided to move onto IVF. Currently waiting for AF to show up so I can get this next cycle moving. I also sometimes wish they knew WHY I wasn't getting pregnant so they knew how to treat it.

littlelilac · 05-02-2008, 07:53 PM

I can relate to a bit of what you are all saying. DH and I have been ttc for 7yrs. We actually did get pregnant but sadly lost the pregnancy at 6 weeks. The most heartbreaking experience of my life. We have tried Clomid and IUI's but for the last yr have been taking it easy, saving money (no benefits thru work to date) and trying to value what each day brings. I struggle with not knowing why we are infertile. The doctors went into our treatment with Clomid saying they were pretty sure that was all it would take because there is absolutely nothing wrong with me as far as they can see and only slight motility issues with my husband. I feel like screaming at times especially when the woman I sit beside at work complains that she is so frusterated with ttc and when I ask her how long shes been struggling with it she tells me 2 and a half months. I feel like I am being punished but just can't figure out what I did that was so bad. I know that is irrational but those thoughts keep on surfacing. Thanks for letting me rant.

Elisa.

kore561 · 05-03-2008, 05:38 AM

Elisa - wow. 7 yrs. im so sorry! i can imagine that finally seeing a bfp and then having a m/c was the hardest thing. i think that pain would top all of the frustration we have in not getting a bfp..also, i've felt that too, about being punished. i feel like - " what did i do so wrong to make this happnen to me" ? --- but you can't do that to yourself. you are not being punished. this is just crappy luck. really. but your attitude about trying to take each day for what it is worth is really the way to go. i struggle with that weekly, sometimes daily.. thanks for sharing your story.

Ruby711 · 05-06-2008, 07:09 PM

Hi all!
I am in the same situation as you guys...I've never been pg (besides one chemical). The only issue I've had was a intracavitary fibroid which was successfully removed in Oct 07, RE thought I would be pg in no time, still not pg. I've done 3 IUI's (2 w/ clomid, 1 w/inj)....I was on a break because of cysts, but I think I've decided to take a few months off because of timing and to get my bod free of meds...I'm really thinking about getting a second opinion, but dont want to go through all the tests again.....It's very frustrating, but I know in my heart God is going to give me a baby, so I try to stay positive....

Like someone said on another thread, God has a baby for all of us, he/she just hasn't found our belly yet...

Baby dust to all!!!

04-29-2008, 03:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
MrsDavis Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Alabama Posts: 2	Newbie I was a member on this site a few years ago but I cant remember what my screen name was. My name is Hope, im 27 years old. My husband Donald is 39 years old. A few months after we got married I found out that I have PCOS. Then a year after we were married, I had lap surgery & the dr found & removed 17 implants of endo, they said it was only mild. They also did a D&C & HSG & my tubes were unblocked, no problems at all. In Aug of 2007 I went to see an RE to try & get pregnant. After all kinds of testing, I was told that I have unexplained infertility. Even thought I have 2 diseases that cause infertility, he said that my body is working correctly & they cant find a reason as to why I havent gotten pregnant. So my husband & myself decided to keep trying to get pregnant on our own thinking we just hadnt given it enough time. So we tried another 6 months & still no pregnancy. We went back to the RE & made plans for an IUI with no medications since I ovulate fine on my own. I had my first IUI in March of this year & it didnt work. I had my second IUI in April of this year & still no pregnancy. We will be doing our third IUI in May & praying for a miracle from God. I forgot to add that my husband has had several sperm counts done & everything is normal with him. When we had the 1st IUI done, his count was a little low due to some sinus medications he had been taking. After the meds were out of his system, his count went back up again. I have had many emotional ups & downs over the past 3 years & 3 months but the one this month has been extremely hard on me. I just cant seem to snap out of it.

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05-02-2008, 10:37 AM	#2 (permalink)
kore561 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Madison, WI Posts: 1,772	Hi Mrs Davis! I completely feel for you. I am in a very similar place. I am also unexplained and i didn't even have PCOS. I've had normal periods my whole life. I'm 33 and my DH is 32. He has a slight motility issus, but nothing to write home about. So the diagnosis is unexplained. I'm almost at the end of my 2ww for our second IUI and i'm pretty positive it will be negative. I've tested 2x (today is 14dpiui), so im going to wait a few more days and then if nothing, i stop the progesterone and wait for AF to come. We will be doing our 3rd iui in May as well. But yeah, this month is extremely hard for me. I pretty much cry every day. I just don't understand. I often wish i had an actual explanation as to why its not working. We tried naturally for 1 year.. But b/c im in my 30s i wanted to start treatments asap.. I'll keep you in my thoughts. Where are you in your cycle? Are you doing medicated IUIs?

05-02-2008, 10:55 AM	#3 (permalink)
lrorrio 200-299 post 4 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Pearl City HI Posts: 281	Hi. I am in the same boat as both of you. Have been going to an RE for about 2 1/2 and all tests come back normal along w/ HSG & saline sono. I have done Clomid w/ timed intercourse or IUI & injectibles w/ IUI. I am going to do one more cycle of injectibles w/ IUI then we have decided to move onto IVF. Currently waiting for AF to show up so I can get this next cycle moving. I also sometimes wish they knew WHY I wasn't getting pregnant so they knew how to treat it.

05-02-2008, 07:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
littlelilac Registered User Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 6	I can relate to a bit of what you are all saying. DH and I have been ttc for 7yrs. We actually did get pregnant but sadly lost the pregnancy at 6 weeks. The most heartbreaking experience of my life. We have tried Clomid and IUI's but for the last yr have been taking it easy, saving money (no benefits thru work to date) and trying to value what each day brings. I struggle with not knowing why we are infertile. The doctors went into our treatment with Clomid saying they were pretty sure that was all it would take because there is absolutely nothing wrong with me as far as they can see and only slight motility issues with my husband. I feel like screaming at times especially when the woman I sit beside at work complains that she is so frusterated with ttc and when I ask her how long shes been struggling with it she tells me 2 and a half months. I feel like I am being punished but just can't figure out what I did that was so bad. I know that is irrational but those thoughts keep on surfacing. Thanks for letting me rant. Elisa.

05-03-2008, 05:38 AM	#5 (permalink)
kore561 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Madison, WI Posts: 1,772	Elisa - wow. 7 yrs. im so sorry! i can imagine that finally seeing a bfp and then having a m/c was the hardest thing. i think that pain would top all of the frustration we have in not getting a bfp..also, i've felt that too, about being punished. i feel like - " what did i do so wrong to make this happnen to me" ? --- but you can't do that to yourself. you are not being punished. this is just crappy luck. really. but your attitude about trying to take each day for what it is worth is really the way to go. i struggle with that weekly, sometimes daily.. thanks for sharing your story.

05-06-2008, 07:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ruby711 500-599 post 7 of hearts Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 531	Hi all! I am in the same situation as you guys...I've never been pg (besides one chemical). The only issue I've had was a intracavitary fibroid which was successfully removed in Oct 07, RE thought I would be pg in no time, still not pg. I've done 3 IUI's (2 w/ clomid, 1 w/inj)....I was on a break because of cysts, but I think I've decided to take a few months off because of timing and to get my bod free of meds...I'm really thinking about getting a second opinion, but dont want to go through all the tests again.....It's very frustrating, but I know in my heart God is going to give me a baby, so I try to stay positive.... Like someone said on another thread, God has a baby for all of us, he/she just hasn't found our belly yet... Baby dust to all!!!