I hate "unexplained"

Familyof2 · 05-16-2006, 01:14 PM

As I sit here enduring the beginnings of AF cramps (she'll be here tomorrow, no doubt), I am thinking that what frustrates me the most about my IF is that it is "unexplained". I wonder if it would be easier to cope with it if I knew what the heck was wrong.

marie carla · 05-16-2006, 01:18 PM

hi familyof 2--I HEAR you totally. I wish I had a small issue then I would KNOW what we could correct!

its sucks. i am 28 and dh is 29 and i have always had regular cycles, never been on bcp, only been with my husband since I was 15 yrs old. and never evern been preg. i have been TRYING for just over 4 yrs! I didnt seek help until awhile ago though....I have done 4 iuis and all bfn. had an hsg and that was fine. husband is also fine.

I JUST started preparing for IVF and I HOPE this u/e business goes away!
good luck to you!

Familyof2 · 05-16-2006, 01:38 PM

marie carla, I know what you mean. My cycles have always been regular. They can't find any hormonal issues. There are no structural issues. DH's sperm is fantastic. We are both in great health. There seems to be no reason why this isn't working. We've never had a conception, either, so I'm not even sure our egg and sperm can unite! It's so frustrating!

I haven't been ttc for as long as you, so I haven't been through the same amount of procedures. I can only imagine how hard the past four years have been for you.

Sending you BFP wishes for your IVF!

marie carla · 05-16-2006, 01:40 PM

thank you family...it just sucks.
i am now nervous when I DO the IVF the retrieval and transfer that they come back and say--something like i cant ever use my eggs or something awful!

Familyof2 · 05-16-2006, 01:44 PM

Let's hope not! IVF does seem to work for lots of unexplains. I hope it works for you, too!

Jenn · 05-16-2006, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Familyof2

As I sit here enduring the beginnings of AF cramps (she'll be here tomorrow, no doubt), I am thinking that what frustrates me the most about my IF is that it is "unexplained". I wonder if it would be easier to cope with it if I knew what the heck was wrong.

I'm so sorry!!! I can imagine it is beyond frustrating not to know why you aren't getting pg.

Jenn

Ginachka · 05-16-2006, 05:40 PM

Hello everyone
I am Gina and I have been TTC for 4 years and in treatments on and off for 3 years. I am almost 32 and dh is 31. RE can't find anything wrong with me or with him. I had 5 IUI 3 with clomid and 2 with Gonal-F. The only thing that happens is the weight gain! My period always regular and 3 days and no cramps. I guess you can say I have miracle periods. Every cycle I had 6 follicles and more and nothing happens. The only bad thing I do is that I smoke which reduces fertility, but since I had so many follicles it does not effect me. Now I will start IVF probably ET will be somewhere aroung July 4th weekend. You know I work with babies and I am very good with them. It is hard for me to believe that I will never be a mommy!
Gina

marie carla · 05-17-2006, 06:50 AM

hi Gina
thanks for posting. yes it does suck. so have you had your IVF consult yet? I go next tues and i cant wait. i am currently on bcp as part of the protocol. which i have never been on...so i think i am looking at late June for ER/ET.

my first and hoping last IVF

Familyof2 · 05-17-2006, 07:08 AM

Hi Gina,

I can imagine how frustrated you must feel after 5 IUIs and no explanation for their failures. I hope that you have better luck with IVF!

I am currenly angry with my ob/gyn bc he told me last year (before I started seeing an RE) that he just didn't think I had a problem bc nothing was obviously wrong, except the fact that we weren't conceiving (that's kind of a big clue that something is wrong!) Then when I went in for my annual exam this past January, I updated him on my hysteroscopy and laporoscopy and he said he was "sure" IUI would work for me. We haven't done IUI, yet, but I'm already mad at that dr for putting that hope in my head! He should have just kept his big trap shut!!!

marie carla · 05-17-2006, 07:29 AM

Hi family-
I see you havent done any IUIs at this point. are you planning to do one or visit with an RE to get a plan?

05-16-2006, 01:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
Familyof2 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: TX Posts: 2,322	I hate "unexplained" As I sit here enduring the beginnings of AF cramps (she'll be here tomorrow, no doubt), I am thinking that what frustrates me the most about my IF is that it is "unexplained". I wonder if it would be easier to cope with it if I knew what the heck was wrong.

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05-16-2006, 01:18 PM	#2 (permalink)
marie carla 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 3,827	hi familyof 2--I HEAR you totally. I wish I had a small issue then I would KNOW what we could correct! its sucks. i am 28 and dh is 29 and i have always had regular cycles, never been on bcp, only been with my husband since I was 15 yrs old. and never evern been preg. i have been TRYING for just over 4 yrs! I didnt seek help until awhile ago though....I have done 4 iuis and all bfn. had an hsg and that was fine. husband is also fine. I JUST started preparing for IVF and I HOPE this u/e business goes away! good luck to you!

05-16-2006, 01:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
Familyof2 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: TX Posts: 2,322	marie carla, I know what you mean. My cycles have always been regular. They can't find any hormonal issues. There are no structural issues. DH's sperm is fantastic. We are both in great health. There seems to be no reason why this isn't working. We've never had a conception, either, so I'm not even sure our egg and sperm can unite! It's so frustrating! I haven't been ttc for as long as you, so I haven't been through the same amount of procedures. I can only imagine how hard the past four years have been for you. Sending you BFP wishes for your IVF!

05-16-2006, 01:40 PM	#4 (permalink)
marie carla 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 3,827	thank you family...it just sucks. i am now nervous when I DO the IVF the retrieval and transfer that they come back and say--something like i cant ever use my eggs or something awful!

05-16-2006, 01:44 PM	#5 (permalink)
Familyof2 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: TX Posts: 2,322	Let's hope not! IVF does seem to work for lots of unexplains. I hope it works for you, too!

05-16-2006, 05:40 PM	#7 (permalink)
Ginachka 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 2,293 Blog Entries: 18	Hello everyone I am Gina and I have been TTC for 4 years and in treatments on and off for 3 years. I am almost 32 and dh is 31. RE can't find anything wrong with me or with him. I had 5 IUI 3 with clomid and 2 with Gonal-F. The only thing that happens is the weight gain! My period always regular and 3 days and no cramps. I guess you can say I have miracle periods. Every cycle I had 6 follicles and more and nothing happens. The only bad thing I do is that I smoke which reduces fertility, but since I had so many follicles it does not effect me. Now I will start IVF probably ET will be somewhere aroung July 4th weekend. You know I work with babies and I am very good with them. It is hard for me to believe that I will never be a mommy! Gina

05-17-2006, 06:50 AM	#8 (permalink)
marie carla 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 3,827	hi Gina thanks for posting. yes it does suck. so have you had your IVF consult yet? I go next tues and i cant wait. i am currently on bcp as part of the protocol. which i have never been on...so i think i am looking at late June for ER/ET. my first and hoping last IVF

05-17-2006, 07:08 AM	#9 (permalink)
Familyof2 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: TX Posts: 2,322	Hi Gina, I can imagine how frustrated you must feel after 5 IUIs and no explanation for their failures. I hope that you have better luck with IVF! I am currenly angry with my ob/gyn bc he told me last year (before I started seeing an RE) that he just didn't think I had a problem bc nothing was obviously wrong, except the fact that we weren't conceiving (that's kind of a big clue that something is wrong!) Then when I went in for my annual exam this past January, I updated him on my hysteroscopy and laporoscopy and he said he was "sure" IUI would work for me. We haven't done IUI, yet, but I'm already mad at that dr for putting that hope in my head! He should have just kept his big trap shut!!!

05-17-2006, 07:29 AM	#10 (permalink)
marie carla 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 3,827	Hi family- I see you havent done any IUIs at this point. are you planning to do one or visit with an RE to get a plan?