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[runnergirl]

Hi. I was recently diagnosed with unexplained infertility. DH and I have been trying for one year (using fertility monitor and Fertility Awareness method). All of our tests come back normal (DH has a very high sperm count) and I ovulate regularly. I had an HSG done a couple of weeks ago (ouch!) and my tubes are not blocked. I am trying to cope but having a hard time. I would rather something be wrong so that we could "fix" it. This not knowing sucks! My gyn is ready to start me on meds with ultrasound to determine O, HCG shot, and IUI. DH and I are saving up the money to start this and will hopefully do our first cycle in November. I'm just looking for others who understand and who maybe can shed some light. I mean, if we haven't gotten pg yet, something must be wrong, right?

[Lauren2005]

Hello,

I'm sorry that we have to meet here of all places! We're all in the same boat so you will find dozens of women here who can relate exactly to your frustration, self-doubt, anger, grief... you name it, we've all been there (and may still be there.)

it sounds like your dr is good but please know that if you ask anyone here they will tell you go ASAP to an RE. OB/GYNs are great and there are a million reasons why we tend to stick with them too long, but IF is a speciality field. It's true that seeing an OB/GYN for IF is like seeing a general physician for Cancer. Of course you'd immediately see a specialist! So should it be with IF.

Also, watch out for thinking that an dx would be your answer because you could just "fix" it. Many women here (myself included) have many, many IF problems. In my case, I was dx with endometriosis years ago, so I naively assumed that everything I did in IF should be geared toward fixing endo issues. HAHAHAHAHAHA. I later learned that I had LPD, PCOS, and immune issues.

(If you don't know this already, the acronyms key can be found in the lowest blue bar at the upper right corner of the screen.)

So despite a dx in 1986 of endo, I was only dx with the other issues in 2005 (thankfully, I haven't been ttc all that time!)

Anyway, I just wanted to 1) say hello!, 2) let you know we can ALL relate -- you are in a safe haven here!, 3) say that this can be a long road, so the sooner you get to an RE the better, and 4) encourage you to keep looking for answers even if and after you get a specific dx.

Best wishes to you!!
Lauren

[Daviso]

Runnergirl:

Dh and I are also unexplained (see profile for details). I am currently on 100mg of Clomid/HCG/IUI. I agree with Lauren, I would try to find an RE if that is at all possible in your location.

The feelings of wanting to know that something is wrong so you can fix it are normal, but deep in my heart I am thankful that I don't have other issues to worry about on top of "unexplained." There are so many women on this site that have been through so much with different IF issues -- I hope you find that this site brings you as much comfort and help that it has brought to me!

[Cat Mom]

Hi there!

I can totaly relate to your feelings. Unexplained, or whatever is causing us not to get pg b/c medical science hasn't come along far enough, is so **** frustrating. You keep thinking, everything is fine, why is it not happening.

DH and I have been trying for 19 months now. We have done 3 cycles of Clomid and IUI with my gyn before moving on to a RE. With our RE, we have done 3 cycles of Follistim (injectible drug) and HCG shot along with two IUI's per cycle, all BFN. Just yesterday we had our consult for IVF and I will begin meds 10/22/05 and hopefully transfer mid November if everything goes well. Last year at this time, the thoughts of IVF terrified me and now I am actually seeing some light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm with Lauren, get with a RE if your gyn can't help you. I stayed with mine for only 3 months, actually she was the one that recommended I move on to see a RE if she can't help me in 3 cycles. And I feel a lot better after seeing an RE. Learn as much as you can about what could possibly be wrong with you and push for answers and ask lots of questions here and to those helping you in the medical community.

Good luck to you and pls keep us updated!

Tiffany

[runnergirl]

Thanks so much to all of you for the welcome. I have been so upset lately and was in tears again last night. No one understands as everyone in my and DH's family are extrememly fertile (like getting pg while on the pill fertile). Even though they don't mean to, they make me feel like it is my fault by saying things such as "if you would relax it would happen" or "maybe God is trying to teach you patience." Of course, at this point I feel that if God were using infertility to teach lessons the world would not be so densly populated. But somehow I feel guilty about starting fertility treatments b/c 1)maybe I should be patient and 2)we don't have the money. DH said we would come up with it somehow (he is wonderful), so it looks like we will be starting treatment the next cycle instead of waiting until November.

Anyway, I know AF must be on the way b/c I am depressed and grumpy. I am ready to get started on these treatments, but am also a little nervous. I have heard horror stories about the Clomid, and of course I worry about getting someone else's sperm (although I know this is rare). Anyway, thanks again you guys!!!

[Lauren2005]

Runnergirl, please see this thread:

http://www3.fertilethoughts.com/foru...d.php?t=357884

Hugs,
Lauren