How was your holiday?

[KelliAnn]

For the ones that ahd to be around family pg women, how did it go? Just thinking about us all!
Kel

[ashcas]

I actually got lucky. My sister, 6mos pg, had to work. Then I just did not go to dh's family thing...way to many babies. I told him he could tell them I was sick, busy, or just tired of getting stuck watching all their kids while they go off some where b/c I am not in the 'mommy club'!

I did have to deal with the newest baby in the family for a few hours but it is a little easier b/c her parents tried for years before they had her. Still hard to be around them but I can do it a little longer.


How was yours?

[Hollywood126]

I spent my holiday with my DH's grandparents. Not that it was a bad idea until FIL and SIL showed up with her three kids...

DH's grandparents have always supported us in our TTC efforts, no matter what road we decided to go down. They've always said, "Do what you need to do".

Picture FIL. Now, according to FIL, we couldn't make a baby and wouldn't know how to do it right even if he gave us a million dollars.

Here's the doozy...SIL shows up with her three kids. Youngest is whiney beyond belief and no one could even talk to the youngest without him freaking out for his mom. SIL found it necessary to constantly kiss him throughout the whole time we were there.

Now, picture the dinner table and the conversation that follows:

FIL: Looks like someone's never going to give me grandchildren. (Motions to SIL) They've got it together - what's the matter with you?

SIL: You can always adopt - that way, you're guaranteed a baby.

Me: Why should I adopt?

SIL: Well, it was soooo hard when I struggled with infertility for three months between my second and my third.

DH: I don't think this is the time or the place to discuss this

FIL: What's the matter? You don't know how to do it right?

Me: This is NOT the time or place to discuss this.

This conversation ended when grandpa had to step in and tell everyone that enough was enough already. FIL and SIL were upset and SIL continued to kiss her youngest constantly. I had to leave the room because it was starting to be irritating already.

Really, I was a guest in someone else's home. I really didn't think it was appropriate for this subject to be brought up.

What would you have done?

[Little fluff]

Hi Hollywood, just barging in ! I would have told me father in law to go do not nice things to himself and smacked my SIL in the mouth ! I hate that your hubby's family are such cruel nasty people to you, except the Grandparents bless their hearts. If I was there my friend I would have slapped them both for you.

Don't take any notice of those cruel people you are so far above them, pity them for their simplicity and pathetic nasty minds and mouths.

Hugs to you
Debbie

[Hollywood126]

Call it self-preservation, but that's why I don't tell them anything about our treatment Debbie. Do I really need the stress?

[Little fluff]

No mate you don't at all. If they were supportive yeah share with them and draw on their support, but they are so far from supportive it is pathetic. I believe in karma, they will reap what they have sown !

You just take care of you and bugger them.

[KelliAnn]

I spent my holiday with my DH's grandparents. Not that it was a bad idea until FIL and SIL showed up with her three kids...

DH's grandparents have always supported us in our TTC efforts, no matter what road we decided to go down. They've always said, "Do what you need to do".

Picture FIL. Now, according to FIL, we couldn't make a baby and wouldn't know how to do it right even if he gave us a million dollars.

Here's the doozy...SIL shows up with her three kids. Youngest is whiney beyond belief and no one could even talk to the youngest without him freaking out for his mom. SIL found it necessary to constantly kiss him throughout the whole time we were there.

Now, picture the dinner table and the conversation that follows:

FIL: Looks like someone's never going to give me grandchildren. (Motions to SIL) They've got it together - what's the matter with you?

SIL: You can always adopt - that way, you're guaranteed a baby.

Me: Why should I adopt?

SIL: Well, it was soooo hard when I struggled with infertility for three months between my second and my third.

DH: I don't think this is the time or the place to discuss this

FIL: What's the matter? You don't know how to do it right?

Me: This is NOT the time or place to discuss this.

This conversation ended when grandpa had to step in and tell everyone that enough was enough already. FIL and SIL were upset and SIL continued to kiss her youngest constantly. I had to leave the room because it was starting to be irritating already.

Really, I was a guest in someone else's home. I really didn't think it was appropriate for this subject to be brought up.

What would you have done?

OMG.....
Is FIL crazy or what???

[Hollywood126]

LOL...nahhh...his precious little "daughter" starting having kids with a man twice her age at age 22 and he can't understand why I didn't.

Now she's a pampered little diva who gets everything handed to her.

My biggest worry at age 22 was getting through school and finding a good job...which I did.