Amanda wants to go home now.

[trainerlady]

She said she called her mom the other day and her mom was telling her stuff that was going on, and Amanda just started crying. Missy said they were crying and saying, "I miss you, I miss you." David is MAD and I don't know what to do.

TEENAGERS!!!AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[GAnneB]

Oh my goodness!!! You and I seem to be living out the same story!

I am so so so so so tired of dealing with my crazy teens. My SD spent 4 days last week hating us and demanding a plane ticket to leave to go back to her mom. (Who can't take care of her due to her illness) She made endless threats about running away etc. It all began because she says her grades are her business not ours. Stupid argument. Our home was in total turmoil for 4 awful days. She was absolutely crazy~! Unfortunately, her mom means well, and tries hard to support us, but really wants her daughter back with her. So she really adds to the problem by not wanting to put her foot down and tell SD to work it out. Instead she says "I love you and support you and feel bad you are going through this and if you want to come back to me it will be okay". Basically she validates my SDs lunacy! Anyway, on Sunday morning SD was all better and finished hating us for now. Back to her happy self..... no ryhme or reason. I really want to give the SDs a good life and the stability they deserve. I really do love them and try hard to be a good stepmom to them. BUT I am frankly sick and tired of them threatening and demanding to leave all of the time. One part of me wishes they would just go! My three year old told me "I hate you" the other day when he was having a tantrum....copying his sisters' words. I am tired of the drama!!! I am sorry... this post turned into a post all about me! My point was that I can really relate. Right now I don't have any advise at all because my heart just says "put the ungrateful little twerps on a plane!!!".... I know that is not the right thing, but it is how I feel... and I am sure how you have felt this way too. Please keep me posted on how you handle this and how you are all doing. You are a great mom... hopefully I can draw some much needed inspiration from you. I am just hanging on for dear life right now... trying to do whats right when I am too tired to do it!
I am not sure how much longer DH and I can stand the rollercoaster ride with my SDs. Teens are just irrational 90% of the time!

((((((HUGS)))))
Anne

[trainerlady]

I say teens are irrational 99.9% of the time! LOL

I'll keep you updated on the drama... I'm "rallying" the troops and providing support from whomever she trusts (her bf's mom/church/, etc...). I also told her that her "threat" of leaving w/o permission would lead us to legal action, and that wasn't a THREAT but a PROMISE.

We'll see, I'll keep you posted.

[Sym2]

Id say what I tell my skids when they turn into punks...LOL
EARN the fare, and go wherever you please.
This would NEVER get them far bc they can't do ANYTHING unless it is self serving and instantly gratifying.

Sorry your dealing with this again

[scoute]

Stacy,

Thats a really tough situation. Part of me says let her go with the knowledge that she is not allowed to come back to live with you guys again. But...what happens the next time her mom has a meltdown (and from past experience it sounds like her mom is very unstable). Justin's mom was so good at this behavior too. Justin would never want to see her again and then she would make him all kinds of promises and say she misses him so much and guilt him back into her life. Will they ever put their kids first?

[Hollie_Joyous]

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this Stacy. To add some humor to the situation, I remember threatening to run away one time. Even had my bags packed and was heading for the door, when my Dad said to me, "Who's going to feed you?" I headed right for my bedroom to unpack my bags. Food has ALWAYS been an issue for me if you can't tell. LOL. Hang in there! Hopefully Amanda will come to see that taking care of her Mother is not her responsibility and that she is better off with you and dh. Good luck!