Phone Confrontation w/EO Today (VENT).....

[Blsed4Life]

I need to vent......I feel awful, but trying to remember that it's OK to be short, to the point and not chatty......

The EO called today...and by her surpise, I answer the phone. We have not spoke in a long time (IRL or on the Phone). She was caught by surprise, I could tell in her voice she was not expecting me to answer. She started out with some LIE and some weezly explaination to her calling (I hate when she feels like she needs to EXPLAIN WHY SHE IS CALLING...regardless, she already called, just get to the point already). I just listened and then I answered, I guess I sounded CRABBY as I was short, to the point and got of the phone without making idle conversation. I am sure she called for another reason, but once she heard my voice she made something else up to discuss. I am sure it's uncomfortable for her to, however, I am just tired of the same ole games and excuses to why she is really calling.....she has to know what SS is doing 24/7 and if she doesn't.....it makes her nuts.

I am the kind of person who is generally always nice and personable, and have always taken the high road, even when I didn't want to...but these past few weeks have just been stressful, she has put DH and I in some situations that we can no longer tolerate, and we are at the end of the rope. It seems to always get here...and in the end, she is the one doing the and doesn't understand what's wrong. DH and I had to finally make the decision to stand our ground and to stop playing these stupid A$$ games with her!!!!

I guess I was not very nice on the phone, because she called DH and asked "if I was in a bad mood" (why in the hell would I be in a bad mood, she has been a pain in our ARSES for weeks now", anyway, I was just not overly friendly and chatty, I was short, to the point got off the phone as fast as I could. DH just said, "no, but lets not get into it now". She didn't say anything, so I am assuming her DUMB A$$ is wondering what's up???? It did bother me a bit that I might have been rude, because that is NOT my nature to say the least....and I would rather get along rather than be nasty...but the EO doesn't know the difference in being nice and cooperative, unless it's all on her terms....so we have just decided to just say what I have to say, get off the phone or out of the conversation and LET IT BE.

DH and I are both trying to have as little contact with her as possible. Its one of those relationships, which I think I have mentioned before, "there are no boundaries" when things are nicey nice and someone always gets there feelings hurt or crosses the line.....so if it's just short, direct and to the point, there shouldn't be any room for any interputation either.

So anyway....I guess I am feeling a bit bad that I was rude...I hate being that way, and I could have been nicer, but it wouldn't have mattered in the end. Am I making any sence????

I just needed to vent......I am no longer going to SUGARCOAT words and I am going to stand my ground and so is DH. Thanks for letting me vent. I know I am going to read this later and say "what, why did I feel bad", but that is JUST ME...I am not generally rude or mean, but when you keep explaining something over and over and the person on the other end pretends not to get it....IT'S FRUSTRATING. She didn't get the past 3 years of me being nice, so maybe she will get it when I am not so friendly.

[Camel01]

Blsed,
Stop feeling guilty. Why should you be 2nd guessing your actions every time you do something that involves her? If you want to be short to be mean, be short to be mean. If you want to be short to get to the point then do it. I'm surprised that she thought about it enough to call your dh and say something about it.
Stick with your decisions and don't feel bad about it.
So, not to stir up a hornet's nest but does she know that you and dh are a united front on the school $?

[Blsed4Life]

Thanks Camel.....

Your right.....I shouldn't feel guilty. I have tolerated enough of her BS and I didn't think about it until you mentioned it, but I am not too suprised that she even gave it a second thought and called DH....I am sure it bothered her....especially when I answered the phone, I know she was caught off guard. I guess she thought it might start something between he and I...but little does she know...that most of the time....we are on the same side and I am the backbone in his final decisions (meaning that we discuss everything and I have been a very strong force in him seeing what's right and wrong with this entire picture). She has tried to play one of us against the other before when we were all at that "nicey nice" stage...unsuccessfully of course.....and she SHOULD know that are a united front on the School $, but who knows....SHE IS SUCH A LOSER and tonight was a BIG REMINDER OF THAT.

We went to a school function tonight (that was lame) and she didn't acknowledge us (which we didn't really care we didn't acknoweledge her either)....and as I looked around, everyone who send there kids to that school are loosers too. HONESTLY, it's the whole area of that part of the city....it's trashy people who think because they send their kid to a private school they have something. I bet most of the people there are on welfare, as none of them work, DH and I were wondering how they heck the can affor tuition to send their kid and some of them have 2 or 3. Anyway....the whole senerio and environment was just a reminder that I have no reason to feel bad about what happened yesterday.....I was straight, to the point, and if she can deal with it...then too bad....because this is now the way it is now.