Old friend calling....Hmn!

[Sym]

Remember the friend who decided she didn't want to be my friend after she broke up with her dh but I refused to fire him??

She is calling now.((!@#$%^&*?@^^$@%#^))
What???
What for??
I'm a little peed that she is calling me frankly!
I don't even know whst she wants. I called her back (a day after she called me), but left a quick, businesslike msg b/c she was out.
She called back when I was at the vets I guess.
I haven't returned her call again yet. Might tomorrow.
Might not-

See....she dumpped on me for a stupid thing. She attacked my character and tried to back me into a wall to get her boyfriend fired, then shi* on me when it backfired on her.
I didn't fire him, but I did stop looking at her the same b/c I saw she was not a good friend for what she was doing to me.

Now I just feel like...I'm not ready to be all huggy huggy life is good again, with her. Don't know that I ever will be. Now I know there are ALOT of things I cannot tell her b/c I can't trust her at all.
She is vindictive, and immediately looks foir the jugular vein in a silly little spat, and I have too much to lose to her immature anticts if we should ever bicker again.

I DID miss her. Sure I did. She was like my sister.
But I got over the missing. It turned to angry, and I am over that.
Now I am at the - I just don't think your the kind of person who deserves to be my friend- stage!
Sounds terribly egotistical I know, but I have standards for my friends. They can't be backstabbers, threaten me, shun me, and talk S* about me for months while they grow up and realize they have been sucky whiny children, and then think it is just OK now b/c THEY feel better.
What about me???

I don't think I want to talk to her, you know that??
I'm not a forgiver. I don't think I even know how to forgive (as I think I ment. here before), but I am **** sure I will NEVER be able to forgive her even if someone gives me a step-by-step ahndbook with instructions on HOW to forgive her.

Should I see what she wants then tell her I have moved on, or just ignore her calls?
Seems rude to ignore her, and I don't want to be rude, but I don't really want to be mean either and say hey...I don't think I like you anymore... either.

Advice please.

Sym

[Sym]

Well, Maybe if I keep writing on this, someone might respond???

I called old friend back 2 days after her 2nd call back. I am in no hurry to speak to her (as I said), but she hasn't returned my call again. Feels like sje is just bored and trying to toy with me. I should just forget about it all and if it is so all-fired important, she can come to my door or call when she knows I am home right?

Just forget it or what??
I don't like to leave things just hanging in the wind.

Sym

[davesgirl]

Hey Stacey,

I would just stop calling her...ignore her. Who cares about being rude when she treated you like garbage!!! I ignore my SIL's calls--it's the same sh*t every time! Blah, blah blah.... she even said I was mean to my face. I just smiled. I'm polite to her when she calls but we're definitely not close! she has MAJOR issues...... must run in the family! LOL

Well, I know you're probably curious on why she's calling.....if she calls and you answer, then that's different. You can figure out why she called and you didn't have to make the effort! LOL

I'm feeling a little "not nice" right now, so maybe I'm not the person to take advice from! LOL

Let us know how it goes!!

Stacy

[scoute]

stacey, ive been in similar positions as I always want to give people a chance. I had a "friend" who was like a sister to me. She is single and after I got married I heard from her less and less. well, after 2 yrs of IF and finally getting pg from IVF i invited her to my baby shower, this was the last straw. She couldnt even bother to respond nor return my phone calls so that was the end of that friendship. She has never once called to ask about my children but had the nerve to send me a xmas card which I threw away.

Its taken me a long time but i have learned that I have to show people how i deserve to be treated and this old "friend" of yours is not treating you with the respect you deserve. I say let her go and move on.

hugs,
Lisa