17 weeks and sinlge!

[naty_16]

I am 23 years old and 17 weeks pregnant. I was engaged to my ex boyfriend and when i was 3 weeks that i found out I was pregnant he left and never came back home. He calls once in a while but he went back to his ex girlfriend and he doesnt want to come back. I feel so lonely here. I cry all day everyday is just so hard for me. i dont have family here my family is in PUERTO RICO. I was thinking of going back home and start all over again. But im so confussed that i really dont want to make the wrong decision.. Someone help me! Any of you moms that went through this situation let em know how you did it cause honestly I dont think I can.

[hadouni]

My situation is not the same as yours, I chose to have a baby on my own, but I did move back toward my family before I got pregnant. Having the support of family and long-time friends is a huge help for a single mom.
If you do want to move home, think about going before the baby is born so you don't end up in a custody battle with your ability to move restricted by the courts. Getting some legal advice might not be a bad idea either.
I'm sorry you're in this situation. I found myself in a similar situation in my late 20s and it was incredibly intense and painful. You can only do what you feel is best for you and for your pregnancy. Stand by your decisions and trust yourself.
Best of luck to you-

[SC-Sherb]

This happened to my sister when she was around your age. She was dating a guy, got pregnant and he wanted her to have an abortion. An abortion was out of the question for her and she chose to keep the baby and he left. Luckily for her, she was living with our parents at the time and that helped her get through it. She stayed with my parents until she met her now DH (my niece was almost 5 when she met him) and it was the best decision for her.

All I can say is that if you are really feeling so alone, you need to think about being closer to your family. If they can help you, take the offer. My sister never had the real father sign the birth certificate because he didn't want to. To this day, he's never shown any interest in his daughter and my sister is happy with the way it has worked out.

I think that you really need the support of your family right now just to get through your pregnancy and get on your feet. Once your baby is here and you get more comfortable, you may feel ready to start a new life again with just you and the baby.

Take care and I hope that you find some peace and comfort soon. You don't need to be stressed right now.

[rellym]

Hello, five years ago I was in the same situation, except the guy who I was pregnant by just up and left and changed his number and address and I never heard from him again. Abortion was not a option because of personal beliefs, I was in my third year of nursing school and already had two children with my ex husband. I chose adoption because I wanted my baby to have a good start and wonderful life. The adoption was open and the mom I selected was single and in her forties but had wanted all her life to have the child that to me seemed like the end of the world to me. I'm not telling you to go the same route just saying that as women we are stronger than we know, and capable of surviving all types of situations. Now I'm happily married and my husband and I are expecting our first child together. I don't have any regrets and know in my heart I made the right decision for my baby. You will be okay have faith and whatever you decided whether you go back home or stay just know that this isn't the end or the hardest challenge you will face in motherhood, just one of the many speed bumps that life gives us. Best wishes for you and your baby