Question: what would be your ideal day spending time with your parents?

[Ronen]

If you had a day all to yourself with your parents - what would you have liked to do with it?

[Cathy]

I asked Rylan ( 5 years old) what his ideal day would be and he said it would be to spend the day with me and his dad and to go to the toy store to pick out a present for Ian. Then he said his dad and I could take Ian out to the toy store to get a present for him. (He's too young to type his response himself.)

[Natasha63]

Because my parents are habitually caught up with the difficulties surrounding my brother Marc, i often times feel like when i am with them they are distant and somehwere else.
So my perfect day would be an outing with just the three of us, where we could have normal conversations about everyday things not having to do with autism. But more importantly I would want my parents to be present both physically and mentally.

[Big Sissy2002]

The perfect day with out Elijah is for me my mom and my older brother to go go carting minigolf ect...

[Lori]

Originally Posted by BC-Natasha63

Because my parents are habitually caught up with the difficulties surrounding my brother Marc, i often times feel like when i am with them they are distant and somehwere else.
So my perfect day would be an outing with just the three of us, where we could have normal conversations about everyday things not having to do with autism. But more importantly I would want my parents to be present both physically and mentally.

Can't ask my 4 year old what she would say...but, I wanted to say that when I am with Natalie (Chase's NT twin sister) I am often not with her. Just like you say...I am in my head thinking about Chase and how his therapy is doing and whether or not he is stimming or whatever. I worry non stop about Chase and I know Natalie can tell that I am thinking about him when I am with her.

I wish I knew how to stop thinking about autism and Chase all the time!!!!

Lori

[cellogirl911]

Originally Posted by Lori

I wish I knew how to stop thinking about autism and Chase all the time!!!!

Lori

Try to remember how special your daughter is, Chase is imporant too. But you want your daughter to know that she has just has much of your heart as Chase. Try to find Chase a sitter or leave when he has therepy,send the time with your 4 year old.

My parents didn't do this. they were so swept up in trying to get my brother "better" that they ignored me, for 2 years. In those 2 years my best friend dumped me and turned all the girls in a small private school against me. I couldn't tell my parents because I never felt like I had enough of thier attention to tell them anything. I was sad, depressed and needed help. We all went on vacation together and through a series events I finally blew up at my parents, telling them how I really felt and how my life had gone down hill. They hadn't realized how much I was hurting without them.

You realize how close you are to this point, seperate time for your daughter so that she never feels like I did. It has been 5 years since that vacation and now my relationship with my parents is wonderful, but I think it is possible to skip the worst part, you can do it- she doesn't need much just your attention and pressence!

-Michelle
God is eternally faithfull.