Who are you telling and when?

[smiles06]

Just curious:

Who are you telling about your BFP and when?

OR

Who have you already told?

[smiles06]

I have told my boss, my best friend, and the teacher I share a room with. I am actually good friends with my boss and the teacher I share a room with. Also, it is really hard to keep secrets with all the phone calls and dr appts.

We plan to tell our parents after we see the heartbeat. We will let others know after 13 weeks. (At least this is the plan....)

[ldmmd2]

The evening of my birthday, December 30th, we got our BFP. DH was chatting with a friend of ours on Facebook when I called him in to verify the blue line. I then couldn't help but share the news with her (the friend he was chatting with) as well. She confessed she was suspecting she may be pg as well (she has since confirmed it)!

I expected I'd tell two more close friends and he might tell one of his, but it didn't work out that way. At the New Years Eve party we attended, DH got pretty sloshed and excitedly told everybody there. I was a little embarrassed. Then I found out he told everyone he worked with, so I've given up on containing the big news. I've shared the news with my father and step-mother, mother-in-law, brother-in-law and a few close friends. Monday is my first OB appointment, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed. I've had a couple miscarriages, and it might be sensible to be hesitant, but I've decided I no longer want to hide my excitement. Assuming everything is fine Monday, I expect I'll go ahead and tell everyone then. Suffering in silence hurts and I don't want to be living in fear to be excited any longer.

My biggest fear is either my friend or I will lose our baby and not the other. She's had a history of infertility problems as well, and I know it would be very heartbreaking if one of us "succeeds" and the other does not. I think even moreso than otherwise.

[melanie37]

I have told about 5 people who are close to me. I have many close friends and last time told about 20 and both sets of parents. Because I miscarried I will not do that again, it was awful having everyone ride the rollercoaster with me...... I plan on telling my mother-in-law after our first u/s on the 28th b/c she is going to FL for the winter and I don't want to tell her over the phone. Everyone else, I plan on waiting to the 12-13 wk mark...unless I happen to show in some way before then.

[lucysmom]

I've only told my husband, mom & sister.... I SOOO want to tell other close friends, but I don't want the news to spread this early. I take an exercise class that is pretty popular with pregnant ladies and it kills me because there have been a couple of "announcements" this week... ladies who are like 3 to 4 months pregnant and I can't exactly tell them, "well I'm 4 weeks!!" LOL.

[daisymae]

I've only told my Dad. We will tell my Mom and dh's parents soon. I'm not sure exactly when.

[sharianni32]

I've only told dh and some business colleagues and online friends. Not really in a hurry to tell anyone else yet.

[CObaby]

Because we've been dealing with infertility so long, I only wanted to tell people who I knew I could talk to if we had a loss. I told my mom and my best friend who has been pulling for me for so long, as well as another friend who has had several losses. Of course, DH told his best friend the night we took the HPT. I think it was his way of coping. And he wanted to tell his parents.

Other than that, we'll wait until we see the heartbeat to possibly tell a few other friends and hopefully until 3 mos to tell anyone else. It may be hard to keep the secret though!

My biggest stress right now is how to tell my good friend who has been doing IUIs for longer than I did. She is preparing to do IVF in the Spring, and I know that she will be happy for me, but it will be hard for her. I hope that she will get her successful IVF and we can be pg together. I'm trying to find a way to be sensitive to her feelings and still supportive of her.

-jen

[wildfire]

two close friends.