Facing SR after bad CVS

[jlm924]

Hi everyone,
Well, this pregnancy has been a rollercoaster of emotions. I am already the mother of 2 beautiful girls and my husband and I decided to try to add another baby to our family. I am 35 and felt I was at my window of where I wanted to be age-wise for another. After an ectopic that required emergency surgery and several miscarriages, I decided to head back to our RE for the best shot of conceiving within my self-imposed 6 mth window. Truth be told, had my husband not pushed for another, I could have been done, but I could see where I felt that I may have regrets in the future if I didn't try for another. Fast forward to a clomid challenge test that left me with a very thin lining that did not bode well for conception, we tried even as I told my doc no meds after this cycle, since I did NOT want multiples, I felt twins would push me over my edge, considering we already have 2 children. But twins it was and from my first high beta test, I've read this board and grappled with the decision. After meeting with Dr. Craparo at 10 weeks, I decided I personally could not do the 2 to 1 just for my reasons and I needed to know both were healthy and I would push forward. One of the twins had developed late, had a polyp in the sac and slow initial heartbeat and I was freaked about that one. We did CVS testing on both and unfortunately, got one sample only, the other was a hard one to get and only yielded maternal tissue. FISH was ok and revealed another girl and I settled myself with having both and we told people as I was very much showing at 12 weeks, well today, they called me with mosaic Turner results and I am just crushed. There is a 1-2% chance it's confined to the placenta, but I suspect not. Turners has a high likelihood of heart issues and I suspect that may be why this baby's heartrate of late has been over 180, since it has heart problems. How much I had hoped that something would be "wrong" to justify my initial thoughts of selfishly having only one and now that I get that, it does not make this process any easier. I am doing amnio on both in several weeks and god willing that twin a is healthy, we will reduce twin b at 17 weeks. I am just not comfortable bringing a baby into the world not knowing the extent of the issues she would face with this disorder. My husband and I have always done all the testing offered to us with each pregnancy since we had agreed on not having chromosomally abnormal babies, but it truly does not make this decision one bit easier at all. I have found such reassurance with everyone's stories in this time and I commend all of you for being strong women since this is such a difficult path to take. I am very much an emotional mess right now and hope to find some peace in the coming weeks to get me through.

[reichling]

Hi jlm,
I just read your post. I am so sorry you are going thru this. This stuff is not for the faint of heart. I hope you got the answers and the peace you were looking for 4 weeks ago when you posted. I'm not sure why there are no replies...did people reply to another thread somewhere? My situation is different--i just did CVS yesterday on our triplets (2 identicals and 1 single). It was the worst, most painful thing I have been thru thus far in this adventure. I am scheduled for reduction based on CVS results in two weeks and I am scared to death because the CVS hurt so much. I'd love to know how your pregnancy is going. I hope you and your baby/babies are well.

[dustpuppy]

jlm, I also apologize for not responding to your post before. I hope you have reached a more peaceful place in your journey and you have found some more answers. I lost a baby due to Turner's at 8 weeks (didn't find out until 12 weeks) --most Turner's babies do not survive to birth. My next pregnancy I ended up with triplets so underwent a 3-2 SR and now have healthy 7 month old twins. Please let us know how you are doing, and once again I'm sorry for not responding earlier.

[jlm924]

Thanks ladies! I am almost 2 weeks out from the reduction and we found out the other baby is healthy as per the amnio. I went ahead with the reduction when they were able to tell the other
baby was a boy and the dr 's fear of contamination of the samples became a non issue. I just needed to try to move on, i had been trapped in a hell of stress and anxiety from 12 weeks til the 15 1/2 weeks and I felt that I could deal with the wait after the sr and the amnio results wait better if they occurred at the same time. I needed to minimize my risk to the other baby as
best as possible by doing it sooner rather than later. Everyone really was right that getting on the other side of the reduction, it is much better. We did a one week follow up ultrasound last Friday and they were very compassionate and kept the screen off. I think I'll be ok to watch the next one in 2 weeks now that I feel I can finally begin to bond with the pregnancy. It really will get better for anyone reading this who is not yet on the other side of it.

[WhitneyAtFertilityAuthority]

Jlm: I'm so glad that the worst of it is behind you. SR is never an easy decision or experience. Im glad that you are now in a place to bond with you baby within. All positive thoughts your way.