TTC Soon & Overweight

want2beamommy · 03-26-2008, 05:40 AM

[FONT=Fixedsys][SIZE=3][COLOR=RoyalBlue]Hello everyone! I was so glad to have found this forum last night. Over the past couple of months I've joined a couple of different forums, but I do more reading than posting by FAR!

I'm 25 y/o. I'm 5'11 and weigh about 312lbs. I must carry it well because my docs never think it is right and tell me that I carry it well. DH is 29 and he's a big guy as well. 6'5 and 350lbs. We've been talking about TTC for a while now. Hubby was kinda' shocked when I told him last week that we were down to 6 wks. of BC left. In the past he's always told me I need to lose weight before getting PG, etc. My sister was very quick to set him straight on that one.

I know I am overweight, but I am a very healthy person. I've tried losing weight before. We are working on making major lifestyle changes right now as well. I think getting PG would also help motivate me to change my eating habits and lifestyle as well. Especially since I want to breastfeed our child no matter what. I know that definately requires a good balanced diet.

I have always been sensitive about my weight. I'm looking forward to Spring getting here. (If it ever does!) So that I can begin getting out and walking and exercising a LOT more.

I have about 5 weeks of BC left, but I really don't even want to use the last month. When I take my ring out on Monday, I want to be done. I want to see if my body will go back to ovulating on it's own. I never had regular periods or anything until I went on BC about 6 years ago. So I don't know what to expect at all from my body. Before going on BC I never had regular cycles at all. I want to start charting and seeing if my body is going to cooperate. I'm not really sure where to begin.

Our other dilema, that I've hesitated talking about in ANY forum, is the fact that we do not have health insurance. We have been looking around and such, but we would be stuck waiting around for over another year, plus paying really high premiums to get a package that would cover the "maternity rider". Please no negative comments about the lack of insurance and wanting a child. I've heard nothing but rude & negative things in chat rooms about it and I need some positive, encouraging stories or thoughts.

I hate to rely on state aid, and not even sure if we would qualify for anything like that. I've talked to a couple of hospitals in the area who offer a payment plan & a 17% discount if most of the bill is paid by the time of delivery. I've also applied for my tribal card in OK, where I am originally from. However, it doesn't appear that it will help much because I live out of the area now. Unless I were to pay out of pocket for all prenatal stuff here and hope everything went normally and tried to go down there for delivery, but I don't think that's very likely. Babies work on their own schedule. Any ideas, suggestions, etc? I guess we are ready to pay out of pocket if that is necessary.

Any advice? Any encouraging stories? Just looking for support and guidance. DH isn't one I feel I can really talk to about all my fears and concerns right now. He's so busy with work and all. I know he supports me and stands behind me. But I need support outside of just what he can give me.

want2beamommy · 03-26-2008, 08:08 PM

Talked to DH tonight and Sunday is officially our LAST day of BC!! Can I start charting with my period that will be starting early next week? I want to be sure and chart temps and such because my cycles were so irregular before I went on BC 6 years ago!

Please give me any tips, advice, etc. that you have!

zakia · 03-27-2008, 07:12 PM

Just wanted to wish you a quick journey on the road of ttc! As for insurance if your employer offers a group health insurance will that cover your pregnancy? Also there's no shame in using state aid if you need it, that's what it is for. If your part Native American, IHS is countrywide and it shouldnt matter where you were born vs where you reside - at least that's what I think.

alms · 04-01-2008, 04:53 PM

I also had problems conceiving because of irregular periods. It got to the point where I was not getting them at all. My Dr had to give me Provera to start my period then put me on BC pills to regulate my cycle. For years that was the only way I could get my period. When I finally stopped the BC pills in order to conceive, things seemed fine at first. And my Dr did say that there was a chance that the hormones from the BC could've fixed any problems that I had. After 2 months, however, things started to slowly deteriorate and I stopped getting my period again. I guess that was when the BC was out of my system??? Who knows. But despite the irregular periods, being overweight & having PCOS, I was still able to conceive. It just took a little longer. You'll get there.

I tried to chart my temp too, but got frustrated and gave up because it was hard to find a pattern because of the irregular periods. I went to fertilityfriend.com and found lots of info there. I also think that changing your diet now can help. I have no medical proof of this, but hubby & I changed our diet about 3 months before I conceived. We didn't do it because of infertility, but because we are both overweight (in our 30's) and scared of having heart attacks. It could all be just a coincidence, but honestly after over 2 years of TTC that was the only thing I changed about my lifestyle and bam...pregnant. I've also read several books that say you should start taking a multi-vitamin and folic acid while TTC.

I didn't have insurance for 3 years myself. So I know what it is like. I don't think it's a horrible thing to TTC without insurance. Medical insurance in this country is expensive. But I do think you should try to look for something you can afford or get help from the state. You may be able to get by now without it but once you do conceive, you'll be glad you have something. I live in IL and the average cost for delivery is $10,000. My friend had gestational diabetes and her delivery cost $30,000. And that's just for the delivery. That doesn't include any prenatal care or the cost of the pediatrician once the baby is born. So if you can find something, even public aid, I think it would be better than nothing. I'm not trying to discourage you or make you feel like a bad person. Believe me I'm not passing judgment. Just do what you got to do. Don't wait until you are pregnant to try to get insurance.

4boys4us · 04-03-2008, 04:59 AM

Hi. I'm new to this site. I don't want to discourage you in anyway from getting pregnant. You ultimately do what you think is right for you. But I thought I would share my experience because it's a little similar. I started out my pregnancy at 225lbs. I too thought I would not gain any weight and possibly lose some. I was wrong. Not everyone does, though I know girls that have managed it. I'm up to 246lbs and I have 6 or so weeks left to go. Thinking that getting pregnant will change the way you eat might work, but it might not. I'm an emotional eater and feeding 3 boys, thinking I could lose or maintain this weight while pregnant was not realistic. I have a lot of aches and pains and people barely notice I'm pregnant at 8 months. You also have a big chance of getting gestational diabetes, that would definitely make you eat right.
I don't know, I just look back and wish I would have lost at least 25lbs before getting pregnant. If you are already pregnant, something that has worked for me in the past with being overweight and pregnant is cutting out as much bread and starches as possible. Eat lots of fruit, veggies, skim milk, salads, and protein, like white breast chicken. If you do eat bread try eating whole wheat. Good luck to you what ever you decide. I hope you have a safe pregnancy.

jhall232005 · 04-05-2008, 04:00 AM

Hey want! I completely understand what your going through. Im 25 and Im overweight. I have to take Aygestin just to have regular periods. Me and My Dh been trying for a child really since we have been married for 5yrs now. Its so fustrating. Thinking its my weight. Well I see a RE and he has put me on letrozole to stimulate my ovaries. I hope that it will work. I will start that with my next cycle.

As far as having no INS. It doesnt matter. If you want a baby do what you can. God will take care of the rest. Everything will fall into place. Try and find some kind of INS anything will be better than paying out of pocket. I mean i dont know the cost.

I wish you the very best. I know what its like and Im around if you need to talk. Its nice to have people who know what your going through.

Good luck
Jamie

KNITWIT · 04-06-2008, 07:58 AM

Want,

I totally understand your desire to get pg. But, you really need to consider the risk for your future child by not having insurance. Do you qualify for state aid? I am over weight and pg. I now have gestational diabetes which requires an insulin pump. That pump and supplies costs about $8,000. My insurance covers it all. If I wasn't on the pump I'd be exposing my children to great risks. I have also worked with special needs children for the past 17yrs - you just never know how a pg will work out.
Just make sure that you've looked at all the possibilities as you make your decisions moving forward because it's not just delivery you're going to have to pay for...I never would have thought that I would need this pump....I couldn't have afforded it without ins....
If you feel you're ready to be responsible for a baby - then you need to consider these risks and weigh them against your desires.

KW
YO

03-26-2008, 05:40 AM	#1 (permalink)
want2beamommy Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Northern Michigan Posts: 10	TTC Soon & Overweight [FONT=Fixedsys][SIZE=3][COLOR=RoyalBlue]Hello everyone! I was so glad to have found this forum last night. Over the past couple of months I've joined a couple of different forums, but I do more reading than posting by FAR! I'm 25 y/o. I'm 5'11 and weigh about 312lbs. I must carry it well because my docs never think it is right and tell me that I carry it well. DH is 29 and he's a big guy as well. 6'5 and 350lbs. We've been talking about TTC for a while now. Hubby was kinda' shocked when I told him last week that we were down to 6 wks. of BC left. In the past he's always told me I need to lose weight before getting PG, etc. My sister was very quick to set him straight on that one. I know I am overweight, but I am a very healthy person. I've tried losing weight before. We are working on making major lifestyle changes right now as well. I think getting PG would also help motivate me to change my eating habits and lifestyle as well. Especially since I want to breastfeed our child no matter what. I know that definately requires a good balanced diet. I have always been sensitive about my weight. I'm looking forward to Spring getting here. (If it ever does!) So that I can begin getting out and walking and exercising a LOT more. I have about 5 weeks of BC left, but I really don't even want to use the last month. When I take my ring out on Monday, I want to be done. I want to see if my body will go back to ovulating on it's own. I never had regular periods or anything until I went on BC about 6 years ago. So I don't know what to expect at all from my body. Before going on BC I never had regular cycles at all. I want to start charting and seeing if my body is going to cooperate. I'm not really sure where to begin. Our other dilema, that I've hesitated talking about in ANY forum, is the fact that we do not have health insurance. We have been looking around and such, but we would be stuck waiting around for over another year, plus paying really high premiums to get a package that would cover the "maternity rider". Please no negative comments about the lack of insurance and wanting a child. I've heard nothing but rude & negative things in chat rooms about it and I need some positive, encouraging stories or thoughts. I hate to rely on state aid, and not even sure if we would qualify for anything like that. I've talked to a couple of hospitals in the area who offer a payment plan & a 17% discount if most of the bill is paid by the time of delivery. I've also applied for my tribal card in OK, where I am originally from. However, it doesn't appear that it will help much because I live out of the area now. Unless I were to pay out of pocket for all prenatal stuff here and hope everything went normally and tried to go down there for delivery, but I don't think that's very likely. Babies work on their own schedule. Any ideas, suggestions, etc? I guess we are ready to pay out of pocket if that is necessary. Any advice? Any encouraging stories? Just looking for support and guidance. DH isn't one I feel I can really talk to about all my fears and concerns right now. He's so busy with work and all. I know he supports me and stands behind me. But I need support outside of just what he can give me.

03-26-2008, 08:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
want2beamommy Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Northern Michigan Posts: 10	Talked to DH Tonight! Talked to DH tonight and Sunday is officially our LAST day of BC!! Can I start charting with my period that will be starting early next week? I want to be sure and chart temps and such because my cycles were so irregular before I went on BC 6 years ago! Please give me any tips, advice, etc. that you have!

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03-27-2008, 07:12 PM	#3 (permalink)
zakia Registered User Join Date: May 2003 Location: ARIZONA Posts: 84	Just wanted to wish you a quick journey on the road of ttc! As for insurance if your employer offers a group health insurance will that cover your pregnancy? Also there's no shame in using state aid if you need it, that's what it is for. If your part Native American, IHS is countrywide and it shouldnt matter where you were born vs where you reside - at least that's what I think.

04-01-2008, 04:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
alms 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Chicago Posts: 56	I also had problems conceiving because of irregular periods. It got to the point where I was not getting them at all. My Dr had to give me Provera to start my period then put me on BC pills to regulate my cycle. For years that was the only way I could get my period. When I finally stopped the BC pills in order to conceive, things seemed fine at first. And my Dr did say that there was a chance that the hormones from the BC could've fixed any problems that I had. After 2 months, however, things started to slowly deteriorate and I stopped getting my period again. I guess that was when the BC was out of my system??? Who knows. But despite the irregular periods, being overweight & having PCOS, I was still able to conceive. It just took a little longer. You'll get there. I tried to chart my temp too, but got frustrated and gave up because it was hard to find a pattern because of the irregular periods. I went to fertilityfriend.com and found lots of info there. I also think that changing your diet now can help. I have no medical proof of this, but hubby & I changed our diet about 3 months before I conceived. We didn't do it because of infertility, but because we are both overweight (in our 30's) and scared of having heart attacks. It could all be just a coincidence, but honestly after over 2 years of TTC that was the only thing I changed about my lifestyle and bam...pregnant. I've also read several books that say you should start taking a multi-vitamin and folic acid while TTC. I didn't have insurance for 3 years myself. So I know what it is like. I don't think it's a horrible thing to TTC without insurance. Medical insurance in this country is expensive. But I do think you should try to look for something you can afford or get help from the state. You may be able to get by now without it but once you do conceive, you'll be glad you have something. I live in IL and the average cost for delivery is $10,000. My friend had gestational diabetes and her delivery cost $30,000. And that's just for the delivery. That doesn't include any prenatal care or the cost of the pediatrician once the baby is born. So if you can find something, even public aid, I think it would be better than nothing. I'm not trying to discourage you or make you feel like a bad person. Believe me I'm not passing judgment. Just do what you got to do. Don't wait until you are pregnant to try to get insurance.

04-03-2008, 04:59 AM	#5 (permalink)
4boys4us Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 2	Hi. I'm new to this site. I don't want to discourage you in anyway from getting pregnant. You ultimately do what you think is right for you. But I thought I would share my experience because it's a little similar. I started out my pregnancy at 225lbs. I too thought I would not gain any weight and possibly lose some. I was wrong. Not everyone does, though I know girls that have managed it. I'm up to 246lbs and I have 6 or so weeks left to go. Thinking that getting pregnant will change the way you eat might work, but it might not. I'm an emotional eater and feeding 3 boys, thinking I could lose or maintain this weight while pregnant was not realistic. I have a lot of aches and pains and people barely notice I'm pregnant at 8 months. You also have a big chance of getting gestational diabetes, that would definitely make you eat right. I don't know, I just look back and wish I would have lost at least 25lbs before getting pregnant. If you are already pregnant, something that has worked for me in the past with being overweight and pregnant is cutting out as much bread and starches as possible. Eat lots of fruit, veggies, skim milk, salads, and protein, like white breast chicken. If you do eat bread try eating whole wheat. Good luck to you what ever you decide. I hope you have a safe pregnancy.

04-05-2008, 04:00 AM	#6 (permalink)
jhall232005 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 57	Hey want! I completely understand what your going through. Im 25 and Im overweight. I have to take Aygestin just to have regular periods. Me and My Dh been trying for a child really since we have been married for 5yrs now. Its so fustrating. Thinking its my weight. Well I see a RE and he has put me on letrozole to stimulate my ovaries. I hope that it will work. I will start that with my next cycle. As far as having no INS. It doesnt matter. If you want a baby do what you can. God will take care of the rest. Everything will fall into place. Try and find some kind of INS anything will be better than paying out of pocket. I mean i dont know the cost. I wish you the very best. I know what its like and Im around if you need to talk. Its nice to have people who know what your going through. Good luck Jamie

04-06-2008, 07:58 AM	#7 (permalink)
KNITWIT Registered User Join Date: May 2006 Location: GEORGIA Posts: 155	Want, I totally understand your desire to get pg. But, you really need to consider the risk for your future child by not having insurance. Do you qualify for state aid? I am over weight and pg. I now have gestational diabetes which requires an insulin pump. That pump and supplies costs about $8,000. My insurance covers it all. If I wasn't on the pump I'd be exposing my children to great risks. I have also worked with special needs children for the past 17yrs - you just never know how a pg will work out. Just make sure that you've looked at all the possibilities as you make your decisions moving forward because it's not just delivery you're going to have to pay for...I never would have thought that I would need this pump....I couldn't have afforded it without ins.... If you feel you're ready to be responsible for a baby - then you need to consider these risks and weigh them against your desires. KW YO