Pregnant with twins again!!

[masstwins]

Hello ladies, I am new to this board and hope to draw strength from all of you as we do this again. I have a set of 3yr.old twin girls and my pregnancy was very hard and high risk, but they arrived a month early and we nursed them back to health. This summer my husband and I started thinking about trying again and hoping for a boy. I have PCOS and never ovulate so we used clomid and after 3 attempts and the longest cycle ever I became pregnant. Early on the first u/s showed one sac and I was happy but as my 2nd month drew closer the morning sickness was nasty just like before and I Kept thinking it should be easier, why do I feel so bad. Then I had my first doctor visit on friday and we joked about how casual the doctor was about letting me know I was pregnant with twins. And then he started my u/s and everyone started smiling and he turned the monitor and counted the sacs for me. I could not believe it could happen to me again I was honestly in denial and numb for a while. I knew using fertility drugs can increase your chances for multiples but I just thought it wouldn't/couldn't happen again. I can still remember my pregnancy and how hard the first year was for us, and I was scared all over again.. The first time we were pregnant we wanted children so badly that it was great we were having twins, we had been trying for a while and whatever came our way we just dealt with it. Now I'm just filled with worry about getting sick like last time( iwas in and out of the hospital) and taking care of my girls, or being out of work( in the end i lost my job) and not really having family close to us for help. All of this may seem selfish but it is on my mind all the time right know and my husband is still floating on a cloud and I can't talk the truth with him.

[Sunshine81]

Congratulations!

How far along are you?

I just have one set so I am not even sure what to tell you. But theres a reason why things happen to people, and you are never given more then you can handle. I am sure thats what you want to hear...lol!

This is a great place for support. And there are several ladies around that have 2 sets of twins. Maybe check out the parenting multiples board. We don't mind if you ask early questions there!

Just wanted to say Congratulations x2! And that we are all here for you!

~Mommy to
Grace and Ethan-12 months old

[Monica2]

Hey hon -- Don't feel bad about having mixed feelings. Or even having mostly -- feelings right now. I can imagine how overwhelmed you must feel. I had sort of the same feeling because I had a very high risk pg with my DD and borderline PPD with her even though she was "just" a singleton. When I found out I was pg with twins . . . well my feelings were at best mixed. It's hard to feel like that especially when other people keep saying how excited you must be when you're thinking "well that's one word for it I guess." Give it a little while to sink in. What we ended up doing was hiring a nanny. In my first trimester even I had complications (from the IVF) that put me in the hospital for 2-6 days. Plus I am likely to be on full bed rest any day now (24 wks at this point). So if DH was going to keep working (I'm an SAHM) we were going to need a lot of help! If that's an option, get started on it early if you can. We ended up firing our first person.

If you didn't get Dr. Luke's book "When you're expecting twins etc." the first time around, you might want to try it. There's a good section in there on the mixed feelings a lot of people have. Especially when there are no illusions about what you're getting into -- as in your case -- it's totally normal and understandable.

Also on the hopeful side -- even with twins, each pg is different, right? So you never know. I had IC and PTL with my DD and was on pretty full bed rest starting at 21 wks after an emergency cerclage. I was sure my peri would strangle me when he found out I was pg with twins. Actually he was totally fine of course -- how I adore him. Anyway, here we are at 24 wks and I am still getting out a little, my cervix (with prophylactic cerclage) is holding at 3 cm, no funnelling, and I can still play with DD a little (calmly). So maybe things will be better this time for you! Best of luck hon and stay in touch.

[BrookeC]

Congrats - you are very blessed!! You might pop over to the parenting multies board -Here There are a few other mom's that have been twice blessed with multies, the moderator there has both a set of twins and triplets. She, as well as the others there could probably offer you some great insight & advice. I really look forward to reading your posts & getting to know you!!

Let me know your due date & I'll add you to the due date list!!



Brooke

[SammysMom]

Your worries are why I probably won't try again because my chances are high with IVF for twins. However, if I were you, my happiness would be enough to overcome the worries. I wish I were pregnant again and just think about how lucky you are. Try to remember the good things about the pregnancy because honestly when I told my DH that I wanted to try again he thought I was nuts because like you I was on bedrest, in the hospital numerous times, sick all the time, but all that went out the door when I saw my two little ones and missed carrying them at the same time. You are truly blessed and besides, this board is here to help you through the rough times. Congratulations!!!!

[bebe]

First of all Congratulations!!!

Secondly....Oh MY GOD! Two sets of twins. I can only imagine how you feel. I am struggling with one 3 year old DS and twin 7 month old DD's. I will say that my DH and I keep saying it might be easier if DS was a twin as he would have someone to play with while we are attending to the needs of two newborns.

I think people who have not parented twins have no idea how overwhelmed you may feel right now. Join us on the parenting multiples board as there are a few women with two sets of twins and even one with twins and them trips (beth2x3).

Congratulations again.

bebe

[Blsed4Life]

I have no advice to offer...but I wanted to tell you that you are totally justified with your worries....I am sure everything will work out just fine....it's very overwhelming news when it hits you...Sending tons of prayers and +++++ thoughts your way....you will find a way to cope and handle all of this. Blessings!!!