Anyone else suffered a Missed Miscarriage?

[linden]

Hi triciaism--Thanks for checking in and asking how I'm doing. I am on an emotional rollercoaster. This morning I went for a u/s to comfirm fetal death prior to the D&C tomorrow. To everyone's shock, there was a very weak, abnormal heartbeat. The baby has still not developed past approx. 6 week, and I am 8w2d. The yolk sac is abnormally large and the hb was only 85. In addition, my HCG levels are abnormally low and have not risen appropriately. So all of these things combined are indicative of severe chromosomal abnormality and impending miscarriage. However, my RE cancelled the D&C for tomorrow b/c she won't conduct a D&C in the presence of a fetal hearbeat, no matter how slow or abnormal it is.

So now I have to wait until next Tues. for another u/s to see if the baby has officially died yet. I feel like this could go on and on for several more weeks or months and it's so horrible. There is a less than 5% chance of this being a viable pregnancy, and even if it is, the fetus is thought to have significant chromosomal abnormalities and would probably not survive after birth.

I never thought I could get through something like this, but I'm realizing that I have no choice but to keep going and take it day by day.

[triciaism]

Hi Linden,
I am so sorry you are going through this. Do check the site that tia recommended. www misdiagnosedmisccariage com (add the dots) I looked at it but in my case it was after m/c & d&c. For me it was a little to many questions and what if's that I could not do anything about. But what you are going through maybe something that someone there has also gone through. Some with success and some without but it may give you some more information and support. The pregnancy site here may also have a thread on whats happening to you. I know they have a beta thread so maybe another one that fits your circumstances will be there or can be started also.
Again,
I am so sorry, I will keep you in my prayers and feel free to keep writing if you need/want to (either here or PM me).
Tricia

[andiandrea]

I am so sorry, Linden.

[kaytee38]

Linden, my heart goes out to you! I'm so very sorry for what you are going through right now.

[Stevi]

On June 17th, I had my first prenatal visit. I should've been 7 wks along, but as the doc was doing my US, the baby was only 6 wks in size.....with NO heartbeat. This would've been my second child (I have a beautiful 8yr old girl), that I have tried for for about 5 yrs. We were so happy to finally have our baby, so when I recieved the news that there was no fetal heartbeat, my heart broke into a billion pieces. My D&C will be performed on the 23rd of June. Is it normal for docs to wait so long before doing a D&C? At the time of my doc visit, I was barely spotting, but as of today(22nd), I'm bleeding alot more. Will this have any affect on the D&C? I can't take the emotional turmoil of "letting nature take it's course". Everyone keeps telling me that "everything hapens for a reason", but when I'm feeling like this, that's the last thing I wanna hear!!! I'm just hurt deeply by my loss & hoping I'll be able to cope one day.

[Wishing2BMom]

Stevi- I'm so very sorry for what you are going through. It is awful and it isn't made any better by the things people say about it being meant to happen, etc. There isn't anything that can be done to make you feel better, but just know that you aren't alone. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Mommy2Rae]

Same happened to me, and I had a d & C and now I am just waiting to start my period so we can start trying again, I am so sorry this is happening to you... I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

[FWaters]

Hi, I had a missed miscarriage last week or who really knows since there weren't any symptoms and at 7 weeks everything looked great at 9 weeks no heartbeat and barely anything left in my uterus. I thought I was fine until my husband went back to work and I am left alone to just think about it. I feel so ripped off, I would have preferred cramping and bleeding in some ways so I could have at least felt something instead, I'm just empty. My doctor said there isn't any reason why I can't conceive as soon as I have a normal period and I really can't wait for that, but once again another mystery. I may not need a d&c and my body is just taking care of it. What made us so mad even though we know people were trying to help was the statement "This happens all the time" Really??? Not to us! And I hope it doesn't happen all the time to us again. Keeping our fingers crossed that the next time will be a better outcome and I also wish the same for all of you here on this thread.