How to get through the first couple of weeks??

[shel76]

So I just found out yesterday I am PG for the third time in under a year. The first loss was at 5w4d and four months later another at 4w5d. I know if we can get a heartbeat the odds are good, which leaves me with 2 weeks of worrying. Any advice on how to cope and be positive without setting myself up for another heartbreak?? This is already driving me crazy and it's just been 2 days.

Thanks

[2007momtobe]

Hi,

First of all, I would like to congratulate you on your pregnancy.

When I became pregnant after experiencing my miscarriage several months earlier, I was terrified! I was so worried and paranoid, afraid to exercise, have sex, eat anything non-organic, etc.

My husband and I did a lot of research and the thing that helped me most was knowing that my chances of carrying the baby to full-term were much higher than my chances of miscarrying a second time. I know it must be even harder for you with an extra miscarriage under your belt, but please remember that statistics are in your favor!!!

This is really all I can suggest - as I am an Atheist, I did not have faith to carry me through. I do know this helps tremendously for some women though. The only other thing you can do is to try to go about your life as normally as you can and hope that the next 2 weeks go fast!!! Could your OB get you in sooner? Even if you can't see the heartbeat yet, at least seeing the pregnancy progressing may help. I had 4 ultrasounds before I hit 13 weeks because I was so paranoid and my OB was so compassionate.

I will be thinking about you. Keep us posted!

[shel76]

I got my bloodwork results back and beta was 60 @ 11 dpo and prog was 85.5. the high P4 relieves quite a bit of anxiety because the first pg it was 17.3 and the second it was 9.5. I bought a good novel on the way home and we are going to go shopping and stuff this weekend to try to pass the time. Thanks for the advice!

[bhoban]

I did IVF following my 2 losses, but my RE only did 1 beta & then released me to my OB. I requested my OB order a second beta 4 days later to make sure my numbers were rising appropriately. I scheduled my first u/s at 6w5d & was sooooooo nervous to see that little heartbeat, but all turned out well. I continued to do u/s often after that to help ease my nerves. I really took it easy those first 2 weeks & just counted down the days. After 2 m/c, our odds are only slightly higher than the general population - after 3 is when the odds start to get scarier. So, odds are still on your side that this little one is just fine. Congrats!

[smiley]

Congratulations on your pg!!!!! I know how scary this time is for you, but it is the only way to get where you want to go!!!!!! It's a 'one day at a time' attitude you need to take. Try your best to think positive (I know...I really know how hard that is!). I have given this advice a million times...and it works if only for a minute...
When any negative thoughts enter your head, smile, place your hand on your belly and say "But right now, today, this minute, I'm pregnant." You can not help but smile and know that this is the way to your dream. I had so many m/c's that once I started doing that, sometimes those were my only happy times....and I remember them and they mean the world to me. So, take a deep breath and repeat after me...
"Today, I am pregnant!!!!!!!!"
+++++++++++ growing thoughts to you!!!!!
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