Anyone here after multiple losses?

[kellyjmac]

Hello, short history, I am currently 6 wk 5 day pg. 7 previous losses by 8 weeks since 12/97. Adopted DD May 2001. Last pg was March 2005. Wasnt even able to get pregnant in the past 4 years then 2 within 6 months. So far I feel fine. I am at a point in life where I figure if its meant to be, it will. I am almost tired of trying. My RE cant explain why I lose them. The only thing we have not tried is IVF but since he cant explain the losses, there is too much of a financial risk in trying. I have not even called the RE yet. He has not been able to prevent one yet so lets try without intervention and see what happens. I already know the worse that could happen. Worst part about all of this is my co-worker is pg with her first, 4 weeks ahead of me, and has pretended she did not know why she did not get her period for two months so that she could continue on with her "having a good time" life, if you know what I mean. Just looking for a light at the end of the tunnel. Good thoughts to all out there.

Kelly

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Kelly...
Congratulations on getting pg, it's the first step....I pray you get to take ALL the steps!! I'm a graduate of this bb. I had many losses, at first they thought because I had a septate uterus, but after two surgeries and contintued losses they never figured out the 'why'. Finally my RE and Peri decided to try me with heparin injections upon a new pg, and I made it (with quite a few more hurdles) to a success. My RE and OB kept telling me "we don't know if the heparin is helping or not, maybe this pg just implanted in the right spot and it has nothing to do with the heparin." I don't care about the reason, just the end result.

I know how scared you must be. And it is easier to have (pretend) this wall is around you, to keep your heart sheltered incase you suffer another loss. I pray that doesn't happen, that you make it, and know that you can turn to the girls here anytime for support!

After the 4th loss and a broken heart...I found something that did help me a bit. I would take a moment (or 5) everyday once I got a +++ to rub my belly smile and say "Today, I'm pregnant." That way I knew that I would have a few special moments of happiness surrounding that little miracle in my belly. After so many losses you have to take the magic where it is...and right now, it's there, in your belly!!! Those moments of joy are part of what helped me though to the pg that worked!!

Again...I pray this is the little magic bean that will take hold, thrive and arrive at the perfect time!!
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ thoughts!!!!!!!!!!
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[kasey g]

I have had 8 miscarriages so I know how scared you must be. This time, my ob gave me lovenox and progesterone injections. It was my first pregnancy with injections. I am 21 weeks pregnant-not in the clear yet-but I made it past the first trimester this time. I had tried prometrium and progesterone suppositories and miscarried. So maybe the injections helped. Good luck. I know it is hard to be positive but I try to do it 10 minutes at a time (I don't measure my pregnancy in months, it more like hourly and every hour is a victory)

Kasey

[kellyjmac]

I really appreciate all of the encouragement and positive thoughts this site gives. kasey g, I have sent you a message. Hopefully you can get back to me.


Thanks again,
Kelly

[kasey g]

Kelly, I sent you a message but I can not more highly reccommend the injections. I was on suppositories amd prometrium and was cramping and bleeding and within 24 hours of my first injection the bleeding stopped. My progesterone levels were in the 20's when I mc which is normal. Also, I tried some herbal things, that my doctor did not reccommend. I take black haw and cramp bark. I also take carry-on by trilight herbs. Like I said, my doctor told me it is ridiculous to take these so do it at your own risk. I had lost so many, that I was willing to try anything. I figured I would miscarry anyhow so why not try it. Carry-On has black haw, false unicorn, and wild yam. Black haw is a uterine tonic, false unicorn stabilizes hormaonal imbalances, and wild yam is a phyto-progesterone so it helps maintain your uterine lining. I read this book called "The Naturally Healthy Pregnancy" by Shonda Parker. She reccommends these and I found info on other websites about these herbs. Of course these are not FDA approved to do anything and I am just telling you I used them and made it through the first trimester. Maybe it is coincedental but I still use everything my doctor tells me too and follow all the rest of her advice. Let me know how you are doing. Hang in there. I am praying for you.


Kasey

[3rdtry]

My husband and I have an appt at 9 am at the OB tomorrow for an ultrasound to see if I have indeed miscarried. We had an appointment last Wednesday (I didn't post bc I have been mostly crying or in denial) and although the sac and fetal pole were clearly visible, and the doctor detected a heart beat, the size was not consistent with my LMP. As I am very regular in my cycle, I was very concerned, and asked what that could mean. My doctor said that it could mean that I would miscarry, but that he wanted me to come back on Monday and see how things progressed within those five days. Since I have miscarried twice in the past year, my heart sank. I had been really anxious, but I think I did allow myself to hope that this one would work out. I just couldn't believe that we could be so unlucky, since there seems no other way to explain it, as I have been tested for all possible culprits and the embryos tested normal after both D and Cs. I know many of you on this board have been through this and I thought it might help me to share with people who understand. I was supposed to be 7 weeks 1 day according to my calculation, but the ultrasound dated it at 6 weeks 2 days. A substantial enough difference that I have pretty much given up hope, based on my conversation with my doctor.

For those of you who have been here, what do we do next? I just don't know if I can go through this again. What has helped you? Do you think seeing an RE might be helpful? That is the only ray of hope for me at this point, that maybe there is something my doctor is just not picking up.

[jessicarayers]

I am 5 weeks pregnant after 3 miscarriages in the past year and a half. One due to low prog. levels and 2 unexplained (was on prog. supplements at this point.) Usually by now bleeding has started and HCG levels are low. But they were 4500 today and no bleeding. Just constantly worried and having a hard time getting excited.