September Optimists - October 2009

[hkbuck]

I don't think an educational program a little bit each day is a problem. We're talking about normal adult TV and it sounds like krb is worried about having it on all day. I don't get the baby learning channel...never heard of it! I wish I did!!

[krb]

Jessi -there is some thought that early tv exposure can increase problems with concentration and delay language. It has to do with the rapid imaging across the screen and how immature brains receive it. Not the actual content i.e G rated vs adult themed. Commercial programming is the worst. Commercial-free is better or dvds.

here are some articles that kind of address it.

AAP - TV AND TODDLERS

Australia: ban TV for under-twos - Telegraph

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worl...er-threes.html

[hkbuck]

Ok...the separation anxiety just got worse. Even though Leah won't take a bottle or stay with anyone else without screaming, she would always take a bottle from DH without any problem. Well, he couldn't feed her the last 3 nights because he had so much work to do and now tonight she won't take a bottle from him. He's so frustrated right now but he's not giving up. He told her (not that she can understand of course) that she can either eat from him or cry until she goes to sleep. We'll see how it goes. She needs to get over this really soon since I go back to work in 4 weeks. Is anyone else experiencing it this badly?

[optimistic2]

Heather--We aren't experiencing it that bad. They aren't crying with dh...but when others some over and try to hold them, they cry. They look for me and then cry. It is SO cute because they want me, but I sure hope they get over this soon.

[mandamay28]

Heather... We are experiencing the same thing... except Logan has never stayed with DH. He is very attached to me and hasn't stayed with anyone for more that 10 minutes. I'm a SAHM so I don't have to worry about returning to work thank God! I'm satill nursing too... but I do give him a bottle at night w/ cereal in it and so far he will only take it from me. I'm at a loss at what to do or how to stop it. I have a DD at home too that needs and wants my attention so we do have to figure something out.

As far as TV goes... my DD was abour 16 months when we started letting her watch SOME TV. I can tell you she has NO speech delays! She was speaking more than 50 words at her 15 month appt. her pedi wants me to have her tested for gifted. She now speaks so many words and very clearly. She can hold a vety intense conversation and asks lots of interesting questions. I personally think it's a matter of how much time you spend teaching your LO. I wouldn't, and still don't let her watch TOO much TV but up to a couple of hours a day works for us.
To fill our days we do a lot of arts and crafts, walks, playgrounds, and we belong to several moms/kids meet up groups. If you don't have friends or family around meetup.com is the way to go! We have made so many great friends and do lots of great activities!

[kerigolightly]

We aren't experiencing the separation anxiety yet, but I'm sure it's coming...

Quick question: So what do you do when you put your baby to sleep on his back but he turns over on his tummy in the middle of the night? I mean, besides the obvious, which is to flip him over. But then, he just goes right back on his tummy. How dangerous is this?

[hkbuck]

Ok, I don't know what I'm going to do when I go back to work. For the past week I have been getting so upset every time I think about it. I cry several times a day and I still have 4 weeks left! I just can't stop thinking about it. I just stare at Leah and can't imagine not seeing her all day every day. I'm sure the pregnancy hormones are not helping at all and I'm hoping that is what's making me cry all the time but if this keeps up I don't know what I'm going to do when I go back. I was just feeding her and when she fell asleep I just sat there and cried as I watched her sleep. This HAS to get better.

By the way...she let DH feed her twice today with no problems so maybe it's just a bedtime thing or maybe it was just a one night thing. We'll find out tomorrow night.

[optimistic2]

Keri--First off, that'a awesome that he rolls over so much! My boys did it a few times but I think they are lazy and don't want to anymore. My pedi told me that once they start rolling over there isn't much you can do. She said it is fine if they end up on their tummy just as long as you start them on their back. The risk of suffocation goes way down once they can flip themselves over.

[2biscuitsplz]

Hi. Been busy. We moved into our house last monday. Its not quite home. Our things shoud be here next week sometime, we hope. Dh's job has been hectic. We hardly see him. This friday night/saturday morning there was a death in one of his groups. A young mother gave birth vaginally and then with in an hour after started bleeding, it got worse and they took her to the OR to investigate and just as they transfered her to the operating table she passed out and they couldn't revive her. She left behind the new baby and a toddler and a dh that ADORED her. This community LOVED them very much and is having a hard time dealing with it. My dh is in charge of the memorial. He is taxed very hard emotionally and every other way possible. He has not had a day off since our first week here and tue will be 6 weeks here. I hardly see him and when I do, I can't spend my time with him telling him how I feel. I just miss him. I wish I could have some time with him. Sophia has been sick and its REALLY cold here, compared to Texas, so we have been home A LOT. I know it won't stay like this, I am just ready to have friends and to go and do. Even if just to have a cup of coffee. My parents will be here for a day or two this saturday night late, but at least I will have someone to talk to. Its tough being the pastors wife sometimes. I will be fine in a few days. That and my dh is dying tohave some bms, and I am scared to death, af was 12 days ago! I love you Heather, but not quite ready to follow in your shoes. Sophia is NOT sleeping through the night, she wakes every 1.5-2 hours ALL night to eat. I can't let her cry, cause DH HAS to sleep! Hes been working 14 hour days, with no days off. We had plans to go and see our town this tue but now with this memorial on top of one for next month for a helicopter crash, he can't take it off. So, I hope soon.
I thank you for letting me vent. If its too much let me know. I really love reading about everyones progress. Sophia is not doing all of that stuff yet. She weighed 12lb 9oz and 24 inches long on friday, which was 5 mo 2 days. She is in the 10/25th percentile for 5 mo olds. For 4 mo olds she is in the 25-50th. She is happy to be a tiny baby. She is finding her hands. She laughed at the sink last week, while I was on the potty, holding her. THE SINK! Now she won't laugh at ANYTHING!
Well, its late. Night, I will check in tomorrow. the cable/telephone man is coming. I won't need to 'borrow' my nieghbors signal anymore! Ciao!

[hkbuck]

Christina - Glad to hear you're getting settled in a bit and that your stuff will be arriving soon. So nice that your mom is coming to visit! That will be so nice for you to have someone to keep you company. How long will she be staying for. So heartbreaking to read about the woman who passed after childbirth. Stories like that scare me so much.

Keri - Wow! Liam is rolling over a lot! Leah has never rolled over from back to stomach, only stomach to back and even that she hasn't done in like 2 months! What did you pedi say about the sleep thing?

Leah discovered her tongue yesterday and now all day long she sticks it out and spits. It's soooo cute!!! She's starting to do a little better with her oatmeal and will eat about 4-5 spoonfuls. I only give it to her once a day and some days we don't even get to it. Has anyone tried any veggies or fruits? I have some but we haven't tried them yet.