Cupid Clubbers January Thread

[paulvalentino]

Gina,
just finishing up a documentary on Russia.

What part are you from? When did you move here to the US? Is most of your family still there? Why did you move to America?? What about DH? When did he move here?

Also, I'm surprised you guys didn't pick Russian names for your boys??

Sorry, all of these thoughts now that I've been watching this.

[Erica92]

Nap update- Well I have to say that today was a success YEAH. Madeline slept for two uniterrupted hours before waking (I think the phone woke her) so I went in and rubbed her back for a minute and she has been quiet for another 20 minutes and will prob with one interuption make her old 2.5 hour mark!

insert sigh of relief HERE

on a negative note, DH has been in the ER all afternoon due to nose bleeds Poor guy but he's on his way home now so at least he'll be home early, whoo hoo.... So it's a negative note for DH but i'm happy to have him home that's for sure---

ok thats it--

oh and you ladies have motivated me to get back into religiously brushing their teeth again... with all the sickness around here I've really been slacking-- I'm going to buy new toothbrushes this weekend

ps.. what do you all do for discipline, J has been throwing a lot of tantrums, and Madeline has started chucking her sippy cup, yes CHUCKING it it is NOT an accident off her high chair. This morning she broke one and spilled milk ALL over the floor I was Pissed. I have tried saying NO sternly, removing the sippy cup etc.. I also keep a sippy cup of water on the coffee table int he play room throughout the day and she walks over and AGAIN PURPOSELY knocks it over.

Do you all do timeouts? I don't know where I could MAKE them sit (other than a pack n play which I REALLY don;'t want permanently set up in my living room as it takes up WAY too much space) plus won't they just cry the whole time their in timeout I don't know if they'll really "Get it" that timeout is a consequence for the action you know...

Any suggestions on what you guys do.... Madeline doens't listen when you say no touch you have to always phsycially remove her hand from whatever she should NOT being touching. Jacob does listen its more his tantrums due to frustration and his whiny everytime something doesn't go exactly his way that is really bugging me-

ok anyway, love to hear what you have to say. I posted on Twinstuff forums too

[paulvalentino]

You're describing my kids ALL DAY LONG. "CHUCKING" every single item in their path when they're mad. I mean WAILING me at the Doc's office w/ the thing you hit your reflex on the knee with. Nic was pissed, picked it up and WAILED it 100 miles an hour AT ME and hit me in the throat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The Ped was AMAZED that he could do it. I was embarassed. I explained that he pretty much does that anytime he's upset (which is often.)

Purposely throwing their food off the tray AT THE WALL, cups all over, toys knocked over, pushing garbage can down... ALL WHILE LOOKING ME IN THE EYES while I say "NO!"

Nada. Gabe listens, Nicolas doesn't give a crap! He is sooo totally defiant.

I don't do time outs but I do physically have to remove him from the situation which is USUALLY kicking Gabe's ass and pulling his hair, scratching his eyes out.. all of that. I get REALLY mad about that and pick him up and put him in the corner. I did just order "1,2,3 Magic" and will start reading that as soon as these guys are feeling better.

So, I am of no help to you, Erica, other than to tell you that it must be a phase cuz mine are doing it too.. Have been tho since like 10 months.. it HAS gotten worse tho. Ugh.

Gabe did 4.5 hour nap today. Incredible, right?? He's just a mess. Sooo sick he barely moves. Pale, listless.. it's awful. I really hope he feels better tomorrow. He's def the one who takes it the hardest. Nicolas is not phased. He's one tough cookie. He falls on his head and gets right back up.. Gabe wails. Oh well.

He's in bed right now crying cuz he's probably not tired enough to go to sleep after his huge nap. I never know what to do in situations like that cuz he's sick and obviously needs the sleep IF he's still asleep BUT I do not want it to ruin his night sleep. Fortunately, it did not interrupt it last nite. Phew!

What is w/ DH's nosebleeds Erica?? Is this a new thing?? What do they do cauterize it cuz it won't stop bleeding??? Scary!! Poor dude.

I actually got 3 other parenting books too. "ScreamFree parenting" and "How to talk so your kids will listen and how to listen so your kids will talk" and one other. Hopefully I learn a lot!

[Erica92]

I have heard of 123 magic, please let me know if you think it's worth buying/reading etc... as I know alot of people who have recocmended it---

[Ginachka]

Mer--so many questions! LOL its ok i don't mind. My family moved to US in 1989 so this year it will be 20 years! I am more American then Russian at this point I was 15 when we moved. My family is actually from Kiev which is the capital of Ukraine. when we moved here we moved from Soviet Union and now its 15 different countries---totally crazy!! My family moved to US to escape religious prosecution -- we are Jewish. DH is also Russian he moved here much later from Siberia and he is not Jewish he is orthodox christian. Actually our children are named in the honer of certain people (costumery in my culture and DH just goes along with whatever i want LOL) so what we did we took 1st letter from the name and picked an American name that we liked. In our community no one gives Russian names so it was never really an option. Oh yes if you interested my Russian name is Yevgenya I have changed it legally to Gina. DH's name is Dmitri for short we call him Dima.

I will catch up on the posts a little later too tired at this point.