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[shannij]

Sorry I have been MIA for a while. Settled in with Harrison. We have been staying home so that he doesn't get sick. Landon has not seen or played with another child in TWO months. I have taken him out of his Mother's morning out program, church, mother's playgroup etc. It has been a long winter thus far BUT Harrison is doing well. He has not gotten sick and is about 15lbs already. he turns 3mths in a week !!!
Now I need some advice about what to do with Landon and the transition to his big boy room. We set up the new room about 2mths before Harrison was born but decided to wait to put Landon in it. We have been trying to get him to sleep in there and done everything but he screams hysterically. At first we had a gate and he would get up and stand there screaming. Last night we took the gate away and locked him in and he screamed for 90minutes and dh finally went in and he had thrown up standing at the door. It is normal for Landon to throw up when he cries and coughs. I have a video monitor in there so I see him in bed but not at the door. I went in to try and calm him but that didn't last. DH had started laying beside him till he fell asleep but then he wakes up in the night screaming. So last night was a try at letting him CIO.
I am considering getting a bed in the crib room to see if he is just not wanting to leave his room OR maybe just getting another crib.....??? Any thoughts? My mother says Landon has been thru a lot recently with us bringing home Harrison, with us being gone for a week in the hospital with Harrison and him not seeing us and having her here for 7 wks. She thinks he is just insecure and we need to leave him be for a few months.

[BC-MAV]

I think your DS has had a lot of changes so it may have been too early. You already gave away the crib so I don't know if you want to go and buy another $200 crib? Or perhaps borrow someone's crib? That may be an option if he is not too big for the crib.

Also you could put sides to the big boy bed to make him feel more secure. Have all his old stuffed animals, blankies, or security objects. Also we love classical music CD's after we have read stories. It is calming and a way to signal bedtime stories have ended and it's time to go to sleep. We re-assure that we are right there. We reassure that big brother is right next door. And we re-assure that everyone is going to sleep... even if we aren't! Another thing we leave the door open and he is fine... he needs it that way and not closed. DS is 2.4 years and is very agile and able on our narrow steps so we have a gate at the top but it is open I think so he can get up and out in the am.... 5 am this morning!!!!

I would do something because the screaming and throwing up is obviously upset. Let us know what you do and how it goes.

How old is he? I always look at people's signatures for the kids ages sand if it's not in the signature it's a guess... is he 2 or 2 1/2?

[OurFirst]

((((((HUGS))))))) I agree with Mav...I would try and borrow another crib or do the bedrails. That is a big adjustment all at once...and I would try to introduce it to him slowly.

I tried to CIO with dd after she was a year old and it did not work for us. I hope he adjusts soon.


Jen
Mom to MJ born 10/13/05

[Mrs.H]

Sorry - no help here - our girls transitioned to a big bed with no problems.

I hope you find a solution that makes everyone happy. It's so tough when people aren't sleeping well.

[mdvmd]

we didn't have much trouble with the big boy bed transition. i turned the locks around on his bedroom door and locked him in when we changed to the toddler bed. he cried the first night for about an hour, second night ten minutes, and then no more. when we went to a full sized bed, there was no problem (even with a move!) glad to hear that harrison is on the mend. let's get together soon!!!

[vmk15]

It is so good to hear from you. I do have to agree with BC Mav. That was great advice. He has been through so much the past few months. Keep us posted.

We have not made the plunge yet but are doing it tomorrow or the next night. I am scared to death. So we will see how it goes.

[bam0609]

So sorry it's not going well for you. I'm about to embark on the same thing. New room and new bed. Very scared! My plan is to try the big boy bed, but if he really has a problem with it, to put his crib in his big boy room. I would try the crib thing. From what I've read, a lot of little ones are just not ready to give up the crib until closer to 3. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

I'm glad Harrison has been well!

[shannij]

Update....
We got a toddler bed from our neighbour and put it in his original room. He is ok in there sleeps until about 5am and is up. He goes down for his nap (for me) with no problem. Now I need to figure do we try putting the toddler bed in the big boy room or do I just disassemble the crib and move that...??
not sure if I want to fight the battle again right now. Harrison is still in his bassinet beside my bed but he is almost 4 months. It is so easy though at night nursing him in bed with me.

[bam0609]

Let us know how it goes moving the toddler bed. It's so hard to decide to change things around when everyone is comfortable for the time being. Good luck! So, is Harrison just waking once a night to nurse?

[shannij]

LOL didn't expect to update this so fast. Today I was in the crib/toddler bed room trying to get the boys dressed. So I lay Harrison in the crib which has been adjusted for him. THen Landon goes and climbs in!!!!! Well that just got his toddler bed moved so fast into the big boy room it wasn't funny. I had visions of him climbing in the crib to sleep when I put him down for a nap - DANGEROUS. So toddler bed in the other room and i put him down for his nap and just locked the doors. He went to sleep no problem. Let's see how he does for his daddy tonight.
Harrison is up twice to nurse - well he wakes at 1am ish and then nurses and we both fall asleep. Eventually I wake up and want him out of the bed so he nurses the otherside and is put back in his bassinet. It works for us so far not sure I want to trek across the house at night.