Cures to not want more children

[Caro2]

Hi Guys,

I am really take big steps forward on that department. I had a nice friend that came for lunch with her 2 months old, I did not know how I would react but I was ready. Her lovely son cried for 3 hours almost straight, the baby cried more in 3 hours than dd in a year. Ouf no thank you However I did enjoy the child sleep in my arms but I was very ok to give the child back.

I had a cousin yesterday, with her 3 lovely girls (age 2.5, 1.5, 2 months), the made a huge mess a lunch time, my house what a reck after they where gone, and dd was upset they left a crayons all open to dry, now I don't think dd will be asking for a sibling anything soon

And the best part was that I saw the lovely girls with dd's clothing (I gave dd's clothing ) and I was very please to see they were using it

And I must confess too, there was a thread on the GP board about siblings being at each other throat, there were so many post living the war at home, boy I was so happy to see how peacefull our home is.

And now that dd is older (6.10) if we had a baby, we would have like 2 families me and the baby and DH and our DD, no thank you I love our little unit.

I really never thought one day I would get there, I felt a year ago I would want children for the rest of my life but I guess not and I am enjoying our family just the way is

Caro

[BC-Shelli]

There are somedays when all I have to do is walk thru Walmart and see all the screaming kiddos and wonder why I want another one.....

[Just Today]

Originally Posted by Caro2

Hi Guys,

And now that dd is older (6.10) if we had a baby, we would have like 2 families me and the baby and DH and our DD, no thank you I love our little unit.

I really never thought one day I would get there, I felt a year ago I would want children for the rest of my life but I guess not and I am enjoying our family just the way is

Caro

Yep, it was right about the time ds was 6-7 that I felt the exact same way--2 families/generations--nah! Loved our family the way it is!

All of the reasons that you listed brought me to the same conclusion--I am happy and the stirrings I used to feel every time I saw/held a newborn were gone---it's a great feeling, isn't it?

[peako]

There are times when having only one seems like a good thing.

That episode of ER the other week made me think, I'll never go through that. The younger daughter out of jealousy and mental health issues I guess hurt and tried to kill her older sister.

[LSteele]

Originally Posted by Just Today

All of the reasons that you listed brought me to the same conclusion--I am happy and the stirrings I used to feel every time I saw/held a newborn were gone---it's a great feeling, isn't it?

Wish I were at that point already -- babies under 1 year make me sad and wistful, still. I try to avoid them. People observing me would guess that I don't like babies, because I can't comment on them and I stay away...

Sorry, just feeling kind of blue tonight.

[Caro2]

Originally Posted by LSteele

Wish I were at that point already -- babies under 1 year make me sad and wistful, still. I try to avoid them. People observing me would guess that I don't like babies, because I can't comment on them and I stay away...

Sorry, just feeling kind of blue tonight.

(((((HUGS)))))

That is ok, we all go through some blue moments, and we all progress at difference pace. And to be honest I actually never thought that feeling would go away. Be gentle and patient with yourself, it is ok to feel blue.

Caro

[LSteele]

Thanks.

[dd123]

Laura,

I could have written your post! I am trying to decide between one more last ditch effort at IVF (ds is now 7) and leaving our family as is, enjoying what I have, and not having to worry about sibling rivalry, essentially raising two families (as Caro said). I would love another baby but then I see those around me with a 2 year old that they constantly have to watch with never a moment's peace while my big ds is playing nicely and entertaining himself. Then there is the financial aspect of it all - we have a great life with one and we are able to give him everything. BUT I just turned 44 and I feel that it is my last chance - dh is on board with whatever I choose but what a decision!

dd123
ds 7