Things people say

[IWantToBeAMommy]

It is the most annoying thing (well not most annoying but it gets old after a while) when someone asks what sex the twins are and people will say. "Oh, I would have girl/boy" or "I want girl/girl twins".

Uh, you don't get a choice. Well maybe if you did PGD, but sometimes it drives me up the wall.

I love my boys and I wouldn't trade them for anything

I am in the middle of moving and it makes me laugh (not in front of them but in private) when they (the movers are men) are giving me advice. Hmm... when's the last time either one of them has been pregnant?! I know they mean well but it is just too funny sometimes.

The one that really gets me is my OB/GYN when I saw him a few weeks ago and mentioned I get tired these days. And he goes, it's too early. You shouldn't be tired until later in the pregnancy. Uh hello, when's the last time you been pregnant with twins? I think he's going from what he reads in his textbooks!

What are some things people say that just drive you up a wall?

[kandm]

Ha, just wait until the LOs are born! Infant twins attract A LOT of attention and a lot of inane comments from people. I guess don't mind the individual comments, but the sheer volume and sameness of the comments can get really tiresome.

The worst was last week when I was at the grocery store and having a minor panic attack about one of my girls breaking out in hives. I was trying to have a conversation with the pharmacist about whether to give her benadryl when this incredibly annoying woman came up to me and started babbling about the girls - "oh, twins, how cute. A boy and a girl? Are they identical? Do twins run in your family, etc." (all the same old comments). I was trying to be polite, but I finally had to tell her to back off because I was busy and trying to have a conversation. Some people are so clueless.

Oh, and I wonder about your OB saying you shouldn't be tired yet. That's such a wierd thing to say - why is he telling you how you should feel? Do you like your OB otherwise?

[dmbucky7]

I agree with kandm - just wait til they are here! Oh boy, the comments will be NON-STOP Some are just innocent but most are so annoying! I had a list of things people commonly say,etc but I'll have to track it down and post it again...

[TwoQTs]

The best are the ones who ask you if you did tx. I didn't get many of those, but as I was about to make a terse reply in the first couple cases, those asking quickly said they were also going through tx about to go through tx, or had a daughter going through tx; one had a daughter who was also expecting twins who had gone to the same clinic & she just wondered if I'd gone to that clinic as well. But, all the stupid questions will drive you nuts.

'Oh, better you than me' said so many when they realized it was twins.
My response: I'm with you there!

OH!! About the fatigue: my very experienced & much-beloved OB told me I would likely be more tired & start to slow down with fatigue much quicker than with a singleton. He said not every twin mom got that tired, but that more fatigue than normal & much earlier was very common. I had to quit my retail job in a garden centre by 26 weeks as I was on my feet on cobblestones all day, so utterly exhausted (although by that time I could sit at the till as it was thankfully slow in summer/early fall) & starting to get more Braxton-hicks. So, no offence but your dr should know better.

[rb1]

After my girls were born my sil's mother said well it should have been b/g twins then it would have been perfect. I was very insulted as it took 13+ years getting pg, with much$$$ and emotional turmoil to have these two angels.

Some people will never get it. Boys are precious. I know because 2 yrs after I had my gg twins I got a natural miracle. He is too sweet.

rb1

[NicoleH]

Ugh...some people just don't think. I think is so adorable that you said you love your boys and wouldn't trade them for anything and you haven't even met them yet.

That is an odd thing for your dr to say - does he have experience with multiples?

rb1 - what a rotten thing for your sister's mil to say! I'm sorry she said that. I love that you had a natural miracle.

[about2bmom3]

I have to agree 100% that the comments only get wierder and more often once they are born. Yesterday DH and i were at the bank with the boys sitting down with the branch manager (a guy) signing papers to refinance our car loan and he says...oh twins. i am a twin. So i say really? do you have a sister or brother. He looks at me like i am CRAZY and says "i told you i am a twin so i have a brother"...ok buddy. Then he says the ever popular

Do twins run in your family?
-well, actually they do
Oh, so yours are natural then?
-no dumba** they are artificial! WTF?

Just wait until a random stranger tells you..oh, wow god bless you..or wow, thats a lot of work. Or my fav...how much did it cost to have them???

Crazy people. The moral is, they are your precious babies no matter what abyone says

[jan21]

Yep the comments only get WAY worse once theey're here!

As for the fatigue - that is ridiculous that your OB said that. Has he treated multiples before - I would be nervous and think about getting a new doc. I was totally exhausted by 28 weeks and had to cut down my work hours.

Janice
L&E 11/00

[triciaism]

Just got this in a forwarded e-mail with other things but wanted to share - it reminded me of other conversations here.
Opps the picture wouldn't attach because it's a bite map but . . . it is just a little sign that hangs from the toy ring on the carrier that says - please don't touch the baby. Great idea.

[sheryl]

Just get ready. When they are born, you will have everyone and their brother approach you. Many with incredibly idiotic things they say. What I learned (very important!) is that most people want to be part of your miracle. The only way they can do this is by approaching you with a comment. Even if it seems like a stupid or rude comment, just take it as them trying to share your blessings. But it does start before they are born. Remember, they are just trying to share the joy of your miracles...

Also, I just always replied, "yes, twins do run in our family" and "yes, I am twice blessed"... A bit of a lie on the first one, and just keeping it positive on the second one when I got silly remarks...