xpost-pulled twins out of their preschool today-i'm really fuming

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bottom line i think--- they were happy to get a set of multis and then once their class was full to capacity they didn't care if we stayed or left. i couldn't see leaving alex in the school and keeping alaina home. too much work for me, too confusing for alaina- honestly should she be punished for the remainder of the school year while alex goes to a place that won't accomodate his sister????

[Schill]

I would be angry too, if either of my littles had to sit in urine soaked clothes for over an hour. It's unfortunate that common sense isn't that common. I know I expect my children to be treated with the same respect the teacher or principle would give their own children. I'm sorry your sweet girl was treated that way.

I think potty training is a big issue in preschools and elementry schools. I can understand why it is so important for little ones to be potty trained before they are accepted as students. It's a lot of work for us to clean up potty messes. I can only imagine having 20-30 other kids vying for my attention or trying to keep them engaged in the planned lesson while trying to clean a child that wet herself. It wouldn't make for a cohesive environment.

What lesson can be learned from this? I think that there was a bit of a communication break-down. If you decide to take her somewhere else or wait until they are in kindergarten, I would encourage you to discuss the issues your little girl has in person and then follow up with a letter. I think it is important to break everything down, your expectations of how you want your dd treated if she wets her pants, etc. I would encourage you tell them that she has clean clothes in her backpack everytime you drop her off. They have a lot on their minds and a little reminder couldn't hurt.

Good luck.

[m(or)]

Mitch and Corie's preschool has the "potty trained only" rule too. But the school has clothes to change the kids into if they have an accident. I recognized the underwear when Corie used it, because Kate had used them 3 years previously. All they ask is that you wash them and return them to the school. And Kate's elementary school has the same thing. Fortunately they do have a bathroom right next to the classroom.
I'd try to find a another program for them in the fall. Hopefully the therapies your dd receives will help her bladder too. In my opinion a few hours of structured preschool does help get them ready for kindergarten. There are several kids in Mitch and Corie's class that have benifitted so much from preschool. One boy's speech and self control are 200% better. And that is with only 3, 2.5 hour classes a week. It works as a great transition to teach classroom behavior, especially if your only option is all day K. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that our state does not go to all day K before next year.
It sure sounds like the school you found for your two, didn't turn out to be a good match, and the teachers sound pretty heartless. Hugs, and hoping you find something better for them, M

[Lois]

they didn't at least look in her bag??? Not a good match for sure.....and no way do you want one home and not the other or go two different places each day, etc. At our preschool the 3yo's must bring a change of clothes, for potty accidents or other....one time a boy slapped both hands full of paint all over S's front, so they changed her shirt, etc. I don't blame you one bit.....all of our rooms have an adjacent restroom as well. I agree with schill. Just to avoid problems, if you meet in person with someone in the future, document in writing and then give them a copy....HUGS.....

[rb1]

Wow,

I would be really mad. The pre-school has to have more than an accident every once in a while. I don't care how potty trained they are. There should be some sort of policy with regards to this.

I personally agree somewhat with regards to a communication break down. However, if I were a teacher I would have definitely asked her, or looked in the bag myself.

I think that you need to decide if the kids like the preschool sometimes we suck up our anger and allow them to continue. I think that after your hot spell ends, which I can't blame you for, you need to think about this with a cooler head then make the decision.

Good luck

rb1

[jlquilts]

Maybe I'm spoiled with the girls Preschool daycare but no bathroom in the room would be too hard for my girls who wait until the last moment to go. Good luck.

jeanne

[dmbucky7]

I'm really sorry that you had to go through this, and that your dd was subjected to it all too. HUGS!!

[LBWP]

This wouldn't happen at my twins school because all primary students are required to have (2) sets of full clothing changes for warm months & cold months = (4) sets of clothing directly at the beginning of the school yr. that is kept in the childs cubby whether they get used or not. Each set must be marked w/specific checklist details & enclosed in an individual ziploc baggie. If a child has a potty accident or gets their clothes too dirty/wet from something else (their works or play) to be appropriate for wear at school, the child is handed a change of clothes & must change in the bathroom BY THEMSELVES. The children are supposed to be potty trained & know how to dress themselves b-4 entering/being accepted to Montessori primary class but they do address the fact that there can & will always be accidents to occur. Once clothes are soiled, the teachers put them into the ziploc baggie & place them in the childs backback w/a note of incident along w/instructions to resend another clean set of clothing the very next day in their backback. If they don't receive another set of clothes change in a reasonable timeframe, the reminder notes start coming everyday!

One would almost think that this all sounds like common sense for a toddler school

I'm sorry to hear that this happened w/your twins. Hopefully you will find a school that addresses this issue up front & you won't have any more miscommunicated episodes.

L (43)
K&E=4.9

[KellyL]

I'm sorry this happened, I would be mad too!! In our pre-K class they have to carry a big ziploc bag with a change of clothes in it with their name written on the outside. They carry it in their backpack every day to and from school. In the newsletter at the change of seasons the teacher reminds the parents to switch the clothes for the new season.

Good luck!
KellyL

[3monkeys]

That is horrible that they made A sit in her wet clothes! I'm glad you pulled them out, sorry that A&A have to go through more changes but if they do not accomodate such a "small" thing, then you really don't want your kids there anyway. Our DC requires all kids to have a change of clothes that they leave in a big plastic bin (each child has their own ziploc) and a note goes home to send more clothes if they need to change them. The kids in the 3's and 4's classes are encouraged to change their own clothes but will be helped if necessary. We also have extra clothes (unclaimed or donated) that are kept in case someone does not have clothes to change into.