Do you ever get tired of this?

[Sunshine81]

I went to Walmart today, and I always get the stupidest comments there. So I tend to avoid the store! Anyways...

I always get the "I wish/hope I have twins" then "because then I'd get it over all at once and be done!" "Especially if I have what you have" and "twins run in my family"

I always say that it doesn't look as easy as it is etc. But yes I am very blessed to have 2. And so on...

Today it really bothered me, not really sure why, probably because I was hit with 2 cashiers at the same time, saying the same thing over and over! The one even said that if she could have twins she would then get her tubes tied!???

I guess I just needed to vent a little! I have learned to let some things go, I guess I just need to do more of it!

They have NO clue what it is like, what the pg is like, what having them is like, what having 2 newborns are like...etc! I just look at them like they are crazy and walk on usually but today...was a different story!

Thanks for listening!

~Mommy to
Grace and Ethan-12 months old

[DiIP]

I don't know what it is about Walmart... I always get the comment "boy, you sure have your hands full" practically every time I go there. Nowhere else, just at Walmart.

The comments you got today just go to show that most non-multiple parents just don't really get it.

[scoute]

If I only had a dime for every time someone said "you sure have your hands full". I also get comments from younger women wanting twins. I think its just like before I had kids I wanted them so bad and other mom's probably got annoyed by my comments too. I think people just dont understand what it is really like having multiples. I have to say I get many more nice comments than rude ones but it gets annoying when you get a comment every time you leave the house. To me having twins is so normal but to most people its like a huge phenomenon. There are so many multi's in our area now (due to fertility tx) so its not such a big deal to me.

[KellyL]

I know, some days it is easier to take than others!

We went to Wal-Mart this morning and even with L in her pink/white coat, pink/navy boots, pink hat and pink mittens AND J in his red/navy blue coat, navy boots, blue hat and blue mittens I STILL got an "are they twins...are they identical??"

My friend who is pg with twins is starting to get the questions (she's 21-22 weeks) about if twins run in the family and if they had help getting pg...I told her to be ready, it's gets MUCH worse!! She's already got her standard answer that yes they run in her dh's family (she did clomid but agrees it's nobody's business!).

BTW--we don't usually wear ALL pink and ALL blue...just turned out that way today!

KellyL

[teresab]

Wal Mart is our worst place too! I am now getting sick of the "Surely you are done" comments. Well yes my tubes are tied but I do not want to be done

[ALISA]

I truly believe that some people are just darn clueless. I had a woman the other day say "why anyone would want to do that to themselves" as she walked by. I just ignored her, but I was tired and I wanted to slug her. I worry that now that the girls are 3 they will understand what people are saying..

[GalaxyGirl]

It's absurd isn't it? It doesn't bother me; I expect it most of the time. Here's an amusing story. Last Saturday we were driving back from NC and stopped for lunch at a Cracker Barrel. DH held both of the girls while I rushed into the lav. When I returned he had an audience of 3 elderly people. One man, in his 70s, said he was a triplet. The woman said she had 2 pairs of twin siblings. They were being very inquisitive and kind to DH. He was beaming - Daddy doesn't get the twin audience as often as Mommy.

We were seated... and we're helping the girls with cups of milk & straws (a new trick for DDs). Another waitress stops at our table to admire. She asks the typical "Do they run in either of your families?" I smiled and said a simple No. She IMMEDIATELY says "Oh did you do IVF?" :bugeye I smiled again and said Yes. (I was acting nonchalant but was shocked inside.) I told DH that since she was so direct in her question, I figured she deserved a direct answer, but I'm really not in the habit of sharing such details. It was bizarre.

J

[MomNC]

I too wish I had a dime for every "you have your hands full" comment...and they don't even know the half of it (both kids are special needs). My favorite response is "yes, I have my hands full of love."

And what is with people assuming that A) because you had multiples, you must not want more kids, B) they have the right to ask about your fertility, and C) that they can comment at all!

Amy

[Sunshine81]

Oh, I feel better already!! Thanks ladies! Its nice to know that I am not alone!

People sure do think that once you have twins you can and should answer any question and that you are done having kids!! I, too get that one!

Why is walmart so bad???! I go barely once a month because I find the people there so nosy! I go meijer where everybody knows me and nobody askes questions anymore! The door greeters know us almost by name and always keep the babies busy while I get their coats off.

I guess we have to grin and bare it. As somebody said some days are better than others. I hardly ever spout off at anybody but today I was ready! lol!!

Thanks again ladies! You are all such a great bunch!

~Mommy to
Grace and Ethan-12 months old

[bebe72]

Those kind of comments used to bug me too. So many people don't have the slightest clue how hard/rewarding being a parent to multiples can be. I have learned to just smile the smile that clearly says "you are a clueless dumbass".. and I move on.

((HUG))