they think im a bad mother

[caridd]

Hey Im new to this thread...doesnt look like there is much action here but thought I would just post this to get it off my chest.

My DS is 6 yrs old. His bio father is AA/white. So he is pretty light skinned and has blond hair and blue eyes. most people dont realize he is bi-racial. But when the warm wind blows his skin tans very easily. People always come up and say to him "you must have been out in the sun a lot" or ask "do you go swimming often" and look at me like I have been baking my kid in the sun without any sun block or something. The way they say it is so accusing, like I am being a bad mom for letting him get so tan. Its way to exhausting and complicated to try to explain to them that he is bi-racial and his skin is naturally dark, plus I dont want to make my son feel like I am talking about him when he is standing right there. I just smile and go on...but it makes me mad when they look at me like I'm a bad mother.

[Ferret Mommy]

Hi and Welcome!

Ian tans very easliy and I swear half the time he hasnt even been in the sun! Our pedi makes comments about using sunscreen, seeing I am white white... but at least she sees DH and he is a nice shade of tan! lol

I know you are not a bad mother for baking your child to get a tan... lmao!!

How about next time you say something like: I am thankful he has his dads tanning genes, or I wish I could tan so easily... he didnt get it from me, thats for sure!

I dont know the relationship between you and the bio dad... but with your son going to be 6, I am surprised he doesnt come out and say it himself!! lol

Hang in there! I am sure they are just jealous!!

[jillgalindo]

Hi,

My daughter is mixed mexican/white. We were at the river for a week and I went through 3 can's of sunblock with her. I sprayed her before I put her bathing suite on while we were inside and all through out the day. Guess what she still tanned the most beautiful golden tan ever. I tried to protect her but I guess it didn't matter how much sunblock I put on her she still tanned.

[Ferret Mommy]

mzsk... lol... I am laughing with you! Some people dont get it!!

I went shopping the other night alone with Ian and I had a bunch of looks... I dont know if its because he doesnt look 100% white... or hes just too cute..

[soccermom]

I hear you. I have two light skinned children with red hair and dd who is AA/caucasian. We get looks everywhere we go and some comments too. DD keeps a tan all year (with tan lines) and I get comments too. I agree, some people just don't get it.