Help - Job Advice

[Gemini2]

Okay Ladies - I need some help here. As many of you know I am in my 6th week, and it appears that we are having twins (2nd u/s tomorrow to see if we can measure both hb's). The problem is that I HATE my job. I mean really, really, really HATE my job. I know this is not a good time to look for another job, but getting out of bed is hard enough with the preggo fatigue, without dreading the 9 hours that follow getting up. Any thoughts? Am I crazy to even consider looking right now?
Thanks,
Julia

[houndlover]

Can you go through a placement/temp agency to find something for now?

Trying to go to a job you hate is one of the worse things!!!!

[Gemini2]

I was thinking that might be a good idea, although I'd lose out on some money. Honestly, I don't even care about the money at this point, but we're trying to figure out if I could maybe stay home after and I was hoping to squirrel away as much as possible now.... So hard to think about stuff like this right now. I'm so foggy and tired and this place is toxic and depressing. I think you're right that if I try to do something else, I should think about it as a "for now" kind of thing. So bummed, don't want to have to deal with this right now, KWIM?

[Chanteuse]

I hate to say it, but its not a great time to look unless, you plan to keep the pregnancy a secret until you start showing. Most employers wont want to invest the time it takes to train someone they know they will be replacing for at least a short while. Depends on your skills though and if they are in high demand, a prospective employer might roll the dice on you, hoping you return from maternity leave.

Its sad and illegal, but most folks wouldnt want to hire you and if they do and you didnt tell them you were pregnant, they would be angry, when the news came out.

Its a predicament and I wish you luck!

[ANP]

Hang in there as there is "ALWAYS someone or something no matter what job your at that makes it miserable"....Just accrue as much time and money while you are there and when you go out on maternity you may not be going back.....SMILE!!!!!

[Tia38]

Julia -- this may be a cheesey (sp?) question, but will you get maternity benefits at your current place of employment? That is to say, will you get paid time off after the birth? Many places will not offer the *paid* time unless you have been there for a while (time varies). Of course some places don't offer it at all.

If you think you're going to not work after the babies, then pushing along now, as difficult as it is, might be the best choice.

What can you do to make the current job suck less? (I'd say make it better, but I know sometimes nothing is going to make it better.)

Can you go for a walk at lunch? Or even 10 minutes mid-morning and/or mid-afternoon to get some air, and a breather? Can you talk to your boss/supervisor about switching the tasks you are responsible for? Is it possible to work at home, even 1 day a week?

But in the end, if you are that unhappy, 9 months can be a very long time. But I wouldn't give up your current slot until you find a new one if you are trying to squirrel money away.

(Warning... it can take a while to find a new job, especially depending on your area.)

Hugs,
-Tia

[oldermama]

Good luck on your u/s today Julia! (was just checking the calendar ) Twins how exciting. I am tired just carrying one - you ladies with 2 or more - well hats off to you!

Good luck also with the job decision - I sort of go with the idea - can you tough it for awhile - the thing is especially with twins and depending on how the pregnancy goes - you might need to rest/leave work prior to the babies being born - so if you could say - okay I will work until I am 7 months and see the 'end' of the job in sight it might be a way to get through. Just an idea.

Barbara

[Gemini2]

The worst thing about this place (at the moment) is that their benefits for disability (which would cover bedrest) and maternity leave are non-existent. So, the upshot is that I would have to leave after going on bedrest for more than 2 weeks anyway. This makes me agree with everyone that I should stick it out, but then I look around and think about what I/we are doing and it just bums me out. I'm having a hard time rising above it and sticking it out. I imagine my tolerance is a little lower than usual as well. Thanks for all of the advice ladies. Still not totally sure what I'll do, but it's nice to get opinions from people who know what I'm talking about.

[Tia38]

I'm surprised to hear that the disability benefit is so poor. I thought that was a state (national?) mandated thing? So if someone was hospitalized or put on bed rest for something other than pg they would also lose their job in 2weeks?

I am less surprised about the maternity leave. I know that varies widely.

It's not an easy decision. Is there something else you can do for a shorter term position? Maybe a temp agency? I don't know what you do (or want to do!) so I don't have concrete suggestions.

But we're hear to listen and to act as a sounding board.

Good luck,
-Tia

[ANP]

G- Lots of smaller companies do not have a very good disability...Although your condition should fall under the FMLA...which means they can not fire you if you have time accrued. You have to take all your sick time first, then your vacation , and when that is up your time off is w/o pay. I know with the small company I worked with you had to do the following but they wanted you back ASAP...Most w/i 6 weeks which is really hard b/c the healing is slow either way you go postpardum...If you have a c/s which is most likely with having twins your healing time is double ...Hang tight and just keep accrueling time and take all of it as you are off and then make decisions as needed. Hang in there.