Anyone over 40 with using their own eggs? - Page 5

GG Wally · 02-11-2006, 05:19 PM

Hi Barbara, Adelaidegal and all,

Thank you for your kind words of empathy and support. It truly helps so much to know others can relate to you. I know the people in my life care and love me, but they just don't get it and it only leaves me feeling more frustrated.

I go between beating myself up for being weak, then, beating myself up for not giving myself credit for going through IVF, working a full time job and being a wife, friend, daughter, sister, running a household, etc...

I'm so scared to do research, it seems like the more I do, the worse news I get. I know I've been told my FSH level was high, another strike against fertility. I've read some doctors won't even treat women with high FSH levels...

Adelaidegal, Congratulations! How far along are you? I bet getting through each day is a triumph! In our shoes, getting a "BFP" is only the beginning. I wish you a healthy, full term pregnancy and healthy baby. Please, keep us posted, if you feel up to sharing.

Thank you too, Barbara, for understanding that it is a grieving process. Even though they were 3 6-celled embryoes, they were my babies and I loved them, as weird as that may send. And thanks for pointing that out about the statistics.

I got for another set of bloodwork this Monday. Hopefully my HCG levels are down enough so I don't need a D&C. I am doubting that since I had a pretty rough period last weekend. I'm hoping to start my next cycle in March or April the latest.

Thank you again for your support. Let's keep in touch. I'll keep you in my prayers!

Love,
GG Wally

lovindan · 02-15-2006, 05:06 AM

Thank you Barbara and Adelaidegal for your kind words. I am now waiting for my next cycle. My last AF was supposed to start Jan. 15th but instead had a miscarriage starting on Jan. 22nd. So I don't know when to expect AF again. Anxious for it to happen so I can get on with the new plan of using Prometrium. Anyone have any ideas? Does AF come at same time as usual after a M/S done naturally (without D&C) or is my cycle off kilter now? Had D&Cs with other 2 M/Ss. I can't remember what happened before

I'm just too impatient

Lori

Chanteuse · 02-15-2006, 08:00 AM

Lori,

(((Hugs))). WHen I had the m/c, I had only about a week or so delay in when I "would" have normally started af. It wasnt far off, but the Dr said it could take even a month longer.

Be patient, let your body heal. Your mind too.

eldev · 03-04-2006, 02:52 PM

Adelaidegal

Would you mind sharing the UK website for over 40 moms
thanks

eldev

adelaidegal · 03-06-2006, 08:02 AM

Hi Eldev,

just search for: www.mothersover40.com. Obviously, lots of the support links listed are based in the UK, but not all. I just found an MSN "Older Moms" group. I really don't know anything about it, but worth a look . . .

SunshineGrl · 03-21-2006, 05:15 PM

I'm over 40 and 10 weeks pg today with my own eggs. I have had a m/c last year and I'm praying that all will be okay this time. We haven't told anyone yet, I guess sooner or later we will. I just want to get passed 12 weeks, maybe then I'll feel OK about sharing teh big news with others.

Thanks for listening.

oldermama · 03-21-2006, 05:27 PM

Hi Sunshinegirl:

I am over 40 and pregnant by surprise at 43! I am 25 weeks along now. I think I am one of the oldest preggies on this list. We never told anyone either until after the amnio actually.

Anyway, 'hello' and congratulations.

Barbara

SunshineGrl · 03-21-2006, 05:34 PM

Hey Barbara!

Awesome and congrats to you, too!!! I am not planning to do an amnio, just feel very strongly about going through this pg as naturally as possible. Were you really nervous in the beginning, too? Has your pg been going fine with no difficulties? Is this your first? It's nice to have others around in my age group who are aslo pg. Congrats once again!!!

oldermama · 03-21-2006, 05:59 PM

Hi Sunshine

Yes, I was really nervous and anxious in the beginning - 3 years prior I had a miscarriage. Plus due to my age and all the doom/gloom you can read about older mothers didn't help me (sometimes I had to turn the computer off). I was really scared - scared to get attached (as the miscarriage I had I never in a million years thought it would happen - and I was really depressed after).

I just kept saying that I would take it one day at a time - dh and I choose not tell anyone as we didn't want to go through re-telling in case of miscarriage. EVerytime I went to the bathroom I would check for blood - I know I know TMI. But I kept trying to stay positive as much as possible. I got a yoga dvd and found this really helped for the stress.

The pregnancy has been blessedly uneventful

- feeling quite well actually - had the usual emotional ups/downs (hormones) - the usual achy stuff as the uterus was stretching but nothing really. Other than that - no - I have been feeling really wonderful especially after I hit the 2nd trimester. Now I feel the baby kicking/pushing and it's truly magical - I am really trying to appreciate every moment as this will be my last pregnancy no doubt. People tell me I look healthy and I feel healthy. My bp is great and my energy level is pretty good. I just had my GTT (apparently older moms have a great chance of gestational diabetes) so will get those results next week and let you know.

I have another child (son) he's 11 and he has autism. We tried to have more kids but after my miscarriage - wasn't able to get pregnant again and then we were told that there was no chance I would get pregnant naturally so we gave up last spring. Then this October noticed I was late! Thought I was going into early menopause actually

But nope just a little miracle.

10 weeks is great! How are you feeling? Is this your first?

Congratulations again to you!

Barbara

SunshineGrl · 03-21-2006, 06:26 PM

Barbara,

Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience. It's wonderful to read your progress and all. I can sense the happiness and joy in your post. As for me I am 10 weeks today, for me I find it to be a milestone and pray that I will continue to have an uneventful pregnancy.

As I read your experience in the beginning of your pregnancy, I can relate to so much, especially the trips to the bathroom to check and make everything's OK. I still do that. It's worrysome, esp. when you've already had a m/c. Seems like that stays with you. I try and relax and give each day to the Lord and trust Him for this baby. Of course, prayers help!

I have 2 teen children from my previous marriage. I also feel pretty good physically and emotionally. I try and eat well and rest often so I don't get too exhausted. The one thing I notice now is that I get tired much faster now than when I was in the 20's and pregnant. Guess that's normal.

Have to get going. Hope you have a great night. Nice to get to know you better. Let's keep in touch, please.

02-11-2006, 05:19 PM	#41 (permalink)
GG Wally 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NJ Posts: 47	Thank you for your support Hi Barbara, Adelaidegal and all, Thank you for your kind words of empathy and support. It truly helps so much to know others can relate to you. I know the people in my life care and love me, but they just don't get it and it only leaves me feeling more frustrated. I go between beating myself up for being weak, then, beating myself up for not giving myself credit for going through IVF, working a full time job and being a wife, friend, daughter, sister, running a household, etc... I'm so scared to do research, it seems like the more I do, the worse news I get. I know I've been told my FSH level was high, another strike against fertility. I've read some doctors won't even treat women with high FSH levels... Adelaidegal, Congratulations! How far along are you? I bet getting through each day is a triumph! In our shoes, getting a "BFP" is only the beginning. I wish you a healthy, full term pregnancy and healthy baby. Please, keep us posted, if you feel up to sharing. Thank you too, Barbara, for understanding that it is a grieving process. Even though they were 3 6-celled embryoes, they were my babies and I loved them, as weird as that may send. And thanks for pointing that out about the statistics. I got for another set of bloodwork this Monday. Hopefully my HCG levels are down enough so I don't need a D&C. I am doubting that since I had a pretty rough period last weekend. I'm hoping to start my next cycle in March or April the latest. Thank you again for your support. Let's keep in touch. I'll keep you in my prayers! Love, GG Wally

02-15-2006, 05:06 AM	#42 (permalink)
lovindan Registered User Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Anderson, California Posts: 6	Still waiting Thank you Barbara and Adelaidegal for your kind words. I am now waiting for my next cycle. My last AF was supposed to start Jan. 15th but instead had a miscarriage starting on Jan. 22nd. So I don't know when to expect AF again. Anxious for it to happen so I can get on with the new plan of using Prometrium. Anyone have any ideas? Does AF come at same time as usual after a M/S done naturally (without D&C) or is my cycle off kilter now? Had D&Cs with other 2 M/Ss. I can't remember what happened before I'm just too impatient Lori

03-21-2006, 05:15 PM	#46 (permalink)
SunshineGrl Registered User Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 5	Hi Older Mums I'm over 40 and 10 weeks pg today with my own eggs. I have had a m/c last year and I'm praying that all will be okay this time. We haven't told anyone yet, I guess sooner or later we will. I just want to get passed 12 weeks, maybe then I'll feel OK about sharing teh big news with others. Thanks for listening. Last edited by SunshineGrl; 03-21-2006 at 05:18 PM.

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02-15-2006, 08:00 AM	#43 (permalink)
Chanteuse 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 1,610	Lori, (((Hugs))). WHen I had the m/c, I had only about a week or so delay in when I "would" have normally started af. It wasnt far off, but the Dr said it could take even a month longer. Be patient, let your body heal. Your mind too.

03-04-2006, 02:52 PM	#44 (permalink)
eldev Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: West Indies Posts: 87	Adelaidegal Would you mind sharing the UK website for over 40 moms thanks eldev

03-06-2006, 08:02 AM	#45 (permalink)
adelaidegal Registered User Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: MA Posts: 30	Hi Eldev, just search for: www.mothersover40.com. Obviously, lots of the support links listed are based in the UK, but not all. I just found an MSN "Older Moms" group. I really don't know anything about it, but worth a look . . .

03-21-2006, 05:27 PM	#47 (permalink)
oldermama Registered User Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,375	Hi Sunshinegirl: I am over 40 and pregnant by surprise at 43! I am 25 weeks along now. I think I am one of the oldest preggies on this list. We never told anyone either until after the amnio actually. Anyway, 'hello' and congratulations. Barbara

03-21-2006, 05:34 PM	#48 (permalink)
SunshineGrl Registered User Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 5	Hey Barbara! Awesome and congrats to you, too!!! I am not planning to do an amnio, just feel very strongly about going through this pg as naturally as possible. Were you really nervous in the beginning, too? Has your pg been going fine with no difficulties? Is this your first? It's nice to have others around in my age group who are aslo pg. Congrats once again!!!

03-21-2006, 05:59 PM	#49 (permalink)
oldermama Registered User Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,375	Hi Sunshine Yes, I was really nervous and anxious in the beginning - 3 years prior I had a miscarriage. Plus due to my age and all the doom/gloom you can read about older mothers didn't help me (sometimes I had to turn the computer off). I was really scared - scared to get attached (as the miscarriage I had I never in a million years thought it would happen - and I was really depressed after). I just kept saying that I would take it one day at a time - dh and I choose not tell anyone as we didn't want to go through re-telling in case of miscarriage. EVerytime I went to the bathroom I would check for blood - I know I know TMI. But I kept trying to stay positive as much as possible. I got a yoga dvd and found this really helped for the stress. The pregnancy has been blessedly uneventful - feeling quite well actually - had the usual emotional ups/downs (hormones) - the usual achy stuff as the uterus was stretching but nothing really. Other than that - no - I have been feeling really wonderful especially after I hit the 2nd trimester. Now I feel the baby kicking/pushing and it's truly magical - I am really trying to appreciate every moment as this will be my last pregnancy no doubt. People tell me I look healthy and I feel healthy. My bp is great and my energy level is pretty good. I just had my GTT (apparently older moms have a great chance of gestational diabetes) so will get those results next week and let you know. I have another child (son) he's 11 and he has autism. We tried to have more kids but after my miscarriage - wasn't able to get pregnant again and then we were told that there was no chance I would get pregnant naturally so we gave up last spring. Then this October noticed I was late! Thought I was going into early menopause actually But nope just a little miracle. 10 weeks is great! How are you feeling? Is this your first? Congratulations again to you! Barbara

03-21-2006, 06:26 PM	#50 (permalink)
SunshineGrl Registered User Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 5	Barbara, Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience. It's wonderful to read your progress and all. I can sense the happiness and joy in your post. As for me I am 10 weeks today, for me I find it to be a milestone and pray that I will continue to have an uneventful pregnancy. As I read your experience in the beginning of your pregnancy, I can relate to so much, especially the trips to the bathroom to check and make everything's OK. I still do that. It's worrysome, esp. when you've already had a m/c. Seems like that stays with you. I try and relax and give each day to the Lord and trust Him for this baby. Of course, prayers help! I have 2 teen children from my previous marriage. I also feel pretty good physically and emotionally. I try and eat well and rest often so I don't get too exhausted. The one thing I notice now is that I get tired much faster now than when I was in the 20's and pregnant. Guess that's normal. Have to get going. Hope you have a great night. Nice to get to know you better. Let's keep in touch, please.