5 weeks and thrilled, how do I stop the worry?

lizal · 03-25-2005, 02:04 PM

Hi,
Two weeks after my 40th bday, I just found out I am 5 weeks pregnant after miscarrying last month. That pregnancy was a natural cycle miracle after years of trying and 2 failed FET. This is ANOTHER MIRACLE, the beta numbers are great, unlike last time and are now 567 to 1308 in 2 days, but my progesterone dipped from 35 to 27 which the DR said is ok, it will flucuate and didn't feel the need to see me again til my u/s in one week. (anyone go through this as well?)
I am sooooo nervous! How do I calm down and not fear every moment this will m/c too? I don't "feel" anything yet except sore bb's and occassional cramps (like I'll be gettting a period). I am still shocked and thankful we got lucky two months in a row after all we've been through but worry that all this worrying will hurt the baby.
Any advice???

SuzCa · 03-26-2005, 12:25 AM

I'm thrilled for you too! I realize that a m/c is going to put a scare into the next pregnancy, but history does not neccesarily need to repeat itself. I hope this is the start of eight more months of pregnancy. I don't have much advice at this stage except try to be as positive as you can, this can work!

Congratulations!

Suz
Alumnus, over 35pg, grad 3/18/02

wintak · 03-28-2005, 06:54 AM

Hi

I have no words to help you NOT worry...I worried the whole first trimester. People would tell me to stop worrying because it was not good for the baby...but several months later, the baby looks good, so I don't think I did anything bad to the baby by worrying.

We did IVF so I know we had to wait until 6w3d before having the u/s to see the heartbeat etc. I assume that's what you'll be doing...going to see the heartbeat etc?

Good Luck to you!

Amy

Jerseygirl0218 · 03-29-2005, 12:23 PM

I wish I had the solution for you, because I would then take my own advice!!!!! I am 35 as of last month TTC for 16 months, Mama to a 3 year old conceived while on BC. 3 cycles of Clomid, 2 IUI's and now a BFP!!!!! RE hcg tested and doubled. So I am just so worried that it's not true or there's something wrong, then I started thinking uhhhh what's wrong with me? I have seen lots of people in our situation that are worried. Maybe we should just take the advice and not worry. Easier said than done!!! Congrats!!!

Colleen

almost there! · 03-29-2005, 05:11 PM

Congrats!!!!
I am in the same boat....28 weeks tomorrow ...success on 5th IVF and still worrying. I suppose we cant help it but try
Best of luck.
Almost there!

**BC-GoMom** · 04-10-2005, 11:49 AM

Great to see you here! Post an update when you can...
JenC

momthisyear · 04-12-2005, 09:24 AM

Unfortunately the worrying never stops!!! It's called being a mom!!! I too know the devestation of a m/c, I was scared all the way through even in delivery. Once they are born you still worry about your baby!!!! Just remember you are doing everything right and this is your little miracle!!

lizal · 04-13-2005, 01:19 PM

Thanks for all the thoughts, can't believe I'm over 7 weeks already, tomorrow's u/s should show the heartbeat and I'm counting the minutes. Maybe then I'll relax???? Course now that the morning sickness and fatigue have taken over there's not much else I can do!
I guess part of me is afraid to really accept that this miracle happened, (gun-shy from the m/c I guess.)
I'd be interested to hear anyone else's over 40 first trimester symptoms (if I can get my head off the pillow long enough to listen...)
Thanks!

AthenaD · 07-07-2005, 04:01 PM

My doctor actually mentioned to me that progesterone levels fluctuate and anything over 15 is fine. I'm four weeks today and just got my first beta numbers yesterday -- 157 at day 13.

I told my doctor that I'm worried and he said he worries about all of the babies. He told me "keep worrying...then worry when the kid gets his driver's license...it's part of being a mom". I felt a little better, but I can't help but worry because I'm still in shock that the IUI worked.

Wishing you all happy and healthy pregnancies!!!

babyluv · 07-10-2005, 07:26 AM

Every day you are not bleeding you are pg. Just try to enjoy and take it one day at a time...........the worrying lasts the whole 40 plus darn weeks. It's our prep for motherhood.

Today I am pg..........that's always been my mantra. We had IF for 8 years and did all the treatments in the book. and then got a natural surprise at age 38. Life is weird, wild and wonderful. Enjoy!

03-25-2005, 02:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
lizal Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Nasville, TN Posts: 12	5 weeks and thrilled, how do I stop the worry? Hi, Two weeks after my 40th bday, I just found out I am 5 weeks pregnant after miscarrying last month. That pregnancy was a natural cycle miracle after years of trying and 2 failed FET. This is ANOTHER MIRACLE, the beta numbers are great, unlike last time and are now 567 to 1308 in 2 days, but my progesterone dipped from 35 to 27 which the DR said is ok, it will flucuate and didn't feel the need to see me again til my u/s in one week. (anyone go through this as well?) I am sooooo nervous! How do I calm down and not fear every moment this will m/c too? I don't "feel" anything yet except sore bb's and occassional cramps (like I'll be gettting a period). I am still shocked and thankful we got lucky two months in a row after all we've been through but worry that all this worrying will hurt the baby. Any advice???

04-10-2005, 11:49 AM	#6 (permalink)
BC-GoMom BC:Preg+35/Gaming/Webkinz Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Down South Posts: 4,917	Great to see you here! Post an update when you can... JenC __________________ Mom of 6: DS - 10 yrs (IVF) DD - 8.5 yrs (IVF) DD - 7 yrs (Natural Surprise) DD/DS twins b/d 12/9/97 @22.5wks IC/PROM/GBS DS- 18.8 years -died Easter Sunday 2005 multiple disabilities since birth Mommy loves you all!

04-13-2005, 01:19 PM	#8 (permalink)
lizal Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Nasville, TN Posts: 12	thanks, 7 weeks, fingers crossed Thanks for all the thoughts, can't believe I'm over 7 weeks already, tomorrow's u/s should show the heartbeat and I'm counting the minutes. Maybe then I'll relax???? Course now that the morning sickness and fatigue have taken over there's not much else I can do! I guess part of me is afraid to really accept that this miracle happened, (gun-shy from the m/c I guess.) I'd be interested to hear anyone else's over 40 first trimester symptoms (if I can get my head off the pillow long enough to listen...) Thanks!

07-07-2005, 04:01 PM	#9 (permalink)
AthenaD 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: NY Posts: 6,952	Worrying here too! My doctor actually mentioned to me that progesterone levels fluctuate and anything over 15 is fine. I'm four weeks today and just got my first beta numbers yesterday -- 157 at day 13. I told my doctor that I'm worried and he said he worries about all of the babies. He told me "keep worrying...then worry when the kid gets his driver's license...it's part of being a mom". I felt a little better, but I can't help but worry because I'm still in shock that the IUI worked. Wishing you all happy and healthy pregnancies!!!

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03-26-2005, 12:25 AM	#2 (permalink)
SuzCa 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: So Cal Posts: 4,331 Blog Entries: 74	I'm thrilled for you too! I realize that a m/c is going to put a scare into the next pregnancy, but history does not neccesarily need to repeat itself. I hope this is the start of eight more months of pregnancy. I don't have much advice at this stage except try to be as positive as you can, this can work! Congratulations! Suz Alumnus, over 35pg, grad 3/18/02

03-28-2005, 06:54 AM	#3 (permalink)
wintak 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Denver, CO Posts: 4,043	Hi I have no words to help you NOT worry...I worried the whole first trimester. People would tell me to stop worrying because it was not good for the baby...but several months later, the baby looks good, so I don't think I did anything bad to the baby by worrying. We did IVF so I know we had to wait until 6w3d before having the u/s to see the heartbeat etc. I assume that's what you'll be doing...going to see the heartbeat etc? Good Luck to you! Amy

03-29-2005, 12:23 PM	#4 (permalink)
Jerseygirl0218 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: NJ Posts: 9	I wish I had the solution for you, because I would then take my own advice!!!!! I am 35 as of last month TTC for 16 months, Mama to a 3 year old conceived while on BC. 3 cycles of Clomid, 2 IUI's and now a BFP!!!!! RE hcg tested and doubled. So I am just so worried that it's not true or there's something wrong, then I started thinking uhhhh what's wrong with me? I have seen lots of people in our situation that are worried. Maybe we should just take the advice and not worry. Easier said than done!!! Congrats!!! Colleen

03-29-2005, 05:11 PM	#5 (permalink)
almost there! Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 18	Congrats!!!! I am in the same boat....28 weeks tomorrow ...success on 5th IVF and still worrying. I suppose we cant help it but try Best of luck. Almost there!

04-12-2005, 09:24 AM	#7 (permalink)
momthisyear 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: CA Posts: 1,446	Unfortunately the worrying never stops!!! It's called being a mom!!! I too know the devestation of a m/c, I was scared all the way through even in delivery. Once they are born you still worry about your baby!!!! Just remember you are doing everything right and this is your little miracle!!

07-10-2005, 07:26 AM	#10 (permalink)
babyluv 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 2,779	Every day you are not bleeding you are pg. Just try to enjoy and take it one day at a time...........the worrying lasts the whole 40 plus darn weeks. It's our prep for motherhood. Today I am pg..........that's always been my mantra. We had IF for 8 years and did all the treatments in the book. and then got a natural surprise at age 38. Life is weird, wild and wonderful. Enjoy!