Why are some people so insensitive? (stupid comments ment)

[hbby]

I am sure by the subject on this thread that you can tell there is going to be some venting here. Well, after telling some friends about our wonderful news I got some weird comments. The first and my favorite is one of DH's friends made the comment, "look at her now, she'll never look like that again!" The next, "I thought you looked chunky" The last one I will share and the most insensitive and hurtful....."not everyone that gets pregnant with twins has twins, so don't be disappointed if one doesn't make it" Does she think that I don't know the risks?

Whew, I feel so much better! Thanks for listening! Feel free to share any stupid comments. If no one does I will just take it as a sign that I need to find new friends!

[DonnaR]

HI

We still haven't "announced" being pregnant yet so I will get back to you in a couple of weeks. I'm sure I'm going to get some weird comments.

As for the comment you got about twins.......OMG some people are so dumb, do they really think you need to be told something like that

[JMTINNY]

I swear people are so CLUELESS!!!
I had my massage therapist (mind you someone I go to to relax) ask me how far along I was, and when I told her she was like, oh well almost every woman in my entire family had a miscarrige with her first baby in the 1st trimester. EXACTLY what I wanted to hear, right? I no longer go to her because she is such a complete moron.
I think people speak before they think. None of us want to hear the stupidity that ensues, but it is important to chalk it up to just that. It is hard not to dwell on it though.
Sorry your friends are so insensitive. Hopefully those are the last comments they make!!

[raytw]

when i told my brother (my brother mind you) that i was pregnant he did not act excited and proceeded to tell me all the things that could go wrong. people truely are insensitive!!! which really caused me stress. looking back i should have just ignored him because his comments were REALLY insensitive.

[MyraVA]

When I got PG with my twin boys my sister (who has always wanted twins since my mom was a twin and can't have anymore children) says to me "well you know that they aren't real twins". Hello, when you are PG with two babies at one time, aren't they called twins?!

I'm sorry that someone would actually make that comment about one twin not surviving. Very insensitive!

[Shellg76]

Whoa, I would have been like... look lady... I'm not stupid, but apparently you are with a comment like that coming out of your mouth.
The only thing that really annoys me, is that you know how times are different now, and we realize a lot more reasons why we are tired, and why we feel this way and that way, well my Dad's girlfriend and MIL were laughing at me because I said I was tired, and how I felt... Of course they NEVER felt that way.... churrrrrrrrrre.
I'm really sorry you had to deal with that... People can be so crude.

[Butterfli]

Gosh, I am so sorry that someone said those mean things to you, as if you don't have enough on your mind anyway!!

Gosh, I wonder why people are like that. Take comfort in knowing that your real friends would never say anything like that.

Take care...

Kate

[Scout]

Some people.....geesh!!!!

Sorry you have to hear such things now...especially when we are overly emotional anyway!

Anyway...please write it off to ignorance!!

-Scout

[Camel01]

I am just irritable enough to actually put people into their places right now. Thank God no one has been that insensitive to me. I feel for you!
Only 6ish months left until you can say "I GUESS YOU WERE WRONG WEREN'T YOU?!?!?!"

LeighAnn