my 2nd u/s - not so good...

[BC-NanceLee]

Honey, I'm so sorry. I have been in your exact position more times than I care to remember.

The first 2 m/cs I had D&Cs. The rest were natural (I have been pregnant 13 times and have two children; you can do the math).

I FAR prefer natural. I like my privacy. The pain helps me process; helps me stay in the moment and let it all go. I have never had anything that did not come out, no infections - in fact with the last 4 I did not even have a follow up exam. My body did what it needed to do, and I was spared the antiseptic coldness of the medical field as well as more $$ and more time away from work.

((hugs)). I hope you and marybeth both get your miracles.

NL

[dutchgirl]

Ladies, I want to thank you so much for the heartfelt support and sharing in what must be very painful memories for some of you in order to help me through this difficult time. I am grateful beyond words. Hugs to all and I will keep you posted.

[rchatter]

Lisa,

I just wanted to say don't lose hope!! Think positive for your next ultrasound.

[LandJ]

[GingerIL]

Oh Lisa-I 've been off the boards all week-end and I just saw this post--pm-ing you now sweetie!

(((((HUGS))))) GingerIL

[Ellie Mae]

I went through something similar. When I lost one of my twins last year, the second one ALWAYS measured a week behind. They gave me all the talks and wanted to give me methotrexate to end the pregnancy. well, we DID get a heart beat (a week after it SHOULD have been there. I was almost 8 weeks, my RE doesn't even EXPECT to see a hb for usre until 7w1d!)

Anyhow...we did end up losing that baby, but totally unrelated to it's development. We lost it because I had an intrauterine hemmorhage that forced the sac from baby B to detach.

Hold on there, and know, that the babies growth can vary REMARKABLY from week to week. My friend had one twin that measured a week behind all the time from the first u/s, until 12 weeks, at which she was only 1 day behind.

Things which the RE's do not understand, they give a grim prognosis too. Keep your chin up and don't even think of throwing the towell in yet!

Hugs,
Heather
6w5d

[mathgeek]

Lisa,
First off, I am sorry you are going through all this!! I hope your next u/s shows a nice strong h/b and that this whole ordeal will end up a distant memory.
You asked about D&C vs. natural and I pray that you won't need to think about either. I personally did the D&C but only b/c I had a 2nd opinion about the no h/b and also was measuring behind (and since I did IVF there was no question as to dates). I had figured that if it hadn't resolved on it's own at that point how much longer would it be? Also I wanted to try again as soon as possible. I also couldn't personally stand the thought of continuing to carry a life that stopped. I wanted to mentally and physically move on without prolonging the emotional toll. Plus I had heard that having a D&C increases your chances of getting pg b/c it's like having a clean slate. Not sure if that is true or not or if someone was blowing smoke up my butt.
Again I hope you don't even have to deal with chosing. I hope things work out for the best for you.

PS- Your son is so cute! I don't know if you remember me from the Jan boards or not. It's fun to see how much he's grown!

[aimee02]

LWA - I am so sorry you are going through this. You will be in my prayers that everything works out. As for d&c or natural, I have had both and would choose natural. The first time I was too far along but the second time I was about where you are.
Aimee

[stacy-ann]

Oh LWA I am so sorry you are going through this ordeal. I pray you will neither need the D&C or the "natural". With DS we didn't get a hb until 7wks and my doc didn't make me feel like my pg was over before the 7wk mark. With my 3 losses I had no hb at 7wks and I had the 1st 2 D&C. The 3rd was natural. So I was more than excited when I had the hb at 7wks. With my DD they found one at 6wks. So you never know sweetie. I know it is difficult but try and hang in there ok.

Sending tons of +++++++++thoughts and prayers for your little one.

((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

[PBW]

Hi Lisa,

I am not sure if you remember me but I think we were on the January pg boards together. I dropped off after John was born, I find the lack a sleep a killer. It takes me about 9 mos to get back on track.

Anyway..

I am so sorry about what you are going through . Unfortunatly I have been down that road before. It is good you are getting another us just to be sure. Hang in there.

In terms of mc vs d/c. I have had both and neither are a treat but I found the d/c was easier than I thought. Over with in a couple minutes with minimal bleeding afterward. The m/c (about <6wks) had very heavy bleeding and of course lasted a couple of days.

Thinking of you

PBW