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    Is talking to a man outside marriage cheating?

    If your having marriage troubles, and you confide in a male friend, is it considered cheating on your husband? I read that it was considered "emotional cheating". Is this a marriage breaker or something forgivable?


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    I think it depends on the circumstances. Did you just confide in him? What was the setting? (home, work, park) I think there is a fine line there. If it was just talking and nothing else, with no other motive than just venting, I think its fine.
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    I don't neccessarily think it is cheating. Sometimes it is good to get a male's opinion on a situation that can includes your spouse. Men think differently than we do, so I don't think it's a bad thing to get a guy's opinion. I agree with Robin though. There is a fine line. If you are continually confiding in your male friend instead of your DH, then I would say some lines are being crossed. I would ask myself this, if I knew my DH had a female friend he was confiding in, how would that make me feel?
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    I agree with Cat Mom, I think it can be very beneficial to get an opinion from someone who may understand your DHs point of view. I also think that if you're feeling guilty or not so good about it, that might be your indicator right there. Confiding in another man does not mean you are emotionally cheating.
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    What if the other man wanted you in his life? Nothing physical happened. Just talking on line and nothing about sex? You leave the marriage (because of the problems not for the male friend), go stay with the male friend (as just friends) because you need a place to stay. Nothing happens physically, not even a hug. You share a queen bed with a divider between you and seperate blankets. After a week, or so, you decide to work things out with your husband and go home. Does the husband consider this cheating, even though there was no sex, touching, thinking about it or even talking about it. It was all just friends and nothing more than a place to stay and someone to listen?


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    Hell yes. That would be cheating to me, no doubt. Just put the shoe on the other foot and imagine your husband asking you to believe it meant nothing when he confided in another woman, left you and stayed with and slept in the same bed as the other woman - but it was "just friends".

    I wouldn't buy that for a second.

    And unless your friend is flaming gay (and even then), don't YOU believe for a minute there was no "thinking about it."
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    Yes, I would consider that cheating. Seriously, isn't there somewhere to stay besides with a male friend? And if not, certainly one of you could sleep on the couch!!!!

    As far as talking to another guy, it depends. Would you say what you are saying with DH standing next to you? And are you getting something from this other guy that you should be getting from DH?

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    I agree with Nance....total cheating.....no ifs ands or buts....
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    If ur male friend kows more about ur feelings than dh then yes it's cheating. If you repeatedly turn to him 4 comfort instead of dh, it's cheating. Even if it didn't include sex. Like mentioned above, if u found out dh was doing this instead of coming 2 u...how would u feel? Having a convo every once in a while may b ok, but watch that line.
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