Horrible Evening

[sw2000]

What a day...I just need to vent..sorry! I was cooking dinner when all of a sudden, I was finishing up I turned with pot of hot gravy to put on top of the roast and I bumped into my five year old. THe hot gravy went all down his neck and back....it was so bad. I was hysterical and he was screaming from the pain. We threw him in the shower to get some cool water on and then decided to take him to the ER. I was hysterical talking with the pediatrician, he probably thought I was a crazy mother....

Three hours later, he has huge burn on his neck and back.....they have referred us to a plastic surgeon ....it looks awful. I could not even look at it. I just feel so bad.....he seems fine now but I know that when the pain meds wear off-he is going to be in such pain...I hope it does not leave a terrible scar. I know I should think it could have been worse but I just keep thinking if I just would have been more aware.....or something. Okay I vented and cried...I know I have to stop....

Thanks for listening....

[MarchBaby]

Oh Evelyn I'm so sorry. That IS a horrible day!! I'm sure you have given yourself a pretty good beating over it. Try, as hard as it may be, to remind yourself that it was an accident and we are all prone to them. What would you say to any of us had the shoe been on the other foot? Those then are the words that you need to tell yourself right now. I'm sure your son and you will come out of this just fine. Your outpour of love that you show him during this event and everyday will wash away any accident and injury. Big hugs again. Please keep us updated!

[jmjrl]

Oh No Ev! I am so sorry to hear about that. I know you feel guilty about that, but it was an accident so try not to beat yourself up over it. Easier said that done, I know. I did the same thing when Brayden busted his teeth. Why did I rearrange the toys like that? If I only wouldn't have put that toy next to the fireplace, etc. And I kept replaying the incident in my head. Probably what you are going through too.
Hopefully your son will end up fine & not need any surgery. Please keep us updated.

[Hopeful2006]

Oh my goodness Evelyn, I am so sorry for both you and DS. It was an accident, but I do understand your feelings. I smashed my 18 YO's finger in the door of my blazer when he was 5. Went to the doctor, to make sure nothing was broken. They assured me that I was more traumatized over it than he was. I found that hard to believe, but he really doesn't even remember the incident now. I pray that his burns heal fast and the pain is minimal. FYI, I was burned down the right side of my body when I was 3 years old (sparklers on 4th of July). I don't have any memory of it whatsoever. So I will pray too, that his memory of this incident is very vague, if not nonexistent. Hugs to you my friend. Vent anytime.

[Sonninit]

Gosh Evelyn - what a horrible thing to happen to you and him!
And from my experiences at ER, at least here, they ask questions that make you feel like it's all your fault (I know they are just covering themselves, but I must have been asked about seven times if E's shoulder pain could have been b/c I picked him up by his arm when I was holding R already).
Tricia has a good point though - all the things that you would say to someone else who had posted that story, apply to you as well, even if it's hard to see through the mother-guilt.
R got his finger trapped in the elevator door this morning and was hysterical (I think more because he couldn't get it out than that it was hurting). I wanted to vomit I felt so bad, and the carer (who came to her door when she heard him crying) said something like "some things are so dangerous that you can't even let children go near", which of course made me feel even worse...
As time passes you will be able to put it into perspective, but I understand that this is hard, especially as you are still waiting to see how it heals, if it will hurt, if it will scar, etc.
Do let us know how you get on, and vent again if you need
R

[jmjrl]

How is he doing today?

[peanut8]

I am so sorry to hear that. I sure hope it ends up just healing on its own. It was an accident and I am sure your DS knows that too.

[Tess914]

Oh gosh, I am so sorry I really hope he will heel quickly and not need any surgery. I can't tell you not to feel bad, because I'm sure I would too - but of course, as you already know, it was an accident. Your son has a loving mom who will comfort him now for sure.

[HollyB]

Oh my gosh..... I'm so sorry to hear about this! Please update how he is doing today. I hope he heals up quickly and this will all just be a bad memory (for you... hopefully he won't even remember this like others have said.) Hang in there!

[sw2000]

DS is doing well today....he has been talking up a storm and running around the house...I think its a side effect from the ibuprofen. My MIL said she has not seen him talk this much his whole life...

We are all doing much better today....the pediatrician said he doubts he will need surgery but wants us to still get the surgeons opinion. We go tomorrow am and I think if he is well enough he can go to school tomorrow.

Thank you so much for the support ladies, its funny I think this is the only place you really can let your feelings out and not feel bad about it. Your support is greatly appreciated.

I am really worried about one thing though....I dont want the kids to tease him, so I am hesitant to send him to school tomorrow.he still is bandaged up and the blisters are visible a little...my dh disagrees and says its best to go back to a normal routine. He said they are in KIndergarten???? Am I worrying for nothing?????