Ok CIO is not for me, anyone try the no cry sleep solution

[bhstarz]

I am looking into trying this method. I let Dylan cry for 5 minutes and then picked him up. he just got over a cold and was fine then after crying it out he got his cough again and was raspy, and totally gave me a mommy how could you cry, and honestly I felt like mommy I can't.

Don't get mad CIO is totally personal and hey whatever gets you through but I can't do it.

So I am going to try the no-cry way or he will be sleeping with me until college. LOL

Here is the website if anyone is interested. She has some great advice on weaning thme off the boob, bottle, pr paci if they need it to sleep.
http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/books/0071381392.php

I pray it works.

[Sonninit]

I have the book, and like the ideas a lot. Quite a lot of her advice is relevant whatever method you are or aren't using at the moment.

We aren't doing any method religiously, if they don't go to sleep easily we put them in the sling and they drop off pretty quickly, but we are lucky in that they barely wake at night (sometimes in the early hours - 3-4am, although our regular wakeup is at about 5am). But having read the book, there are a few things I am making sure I do now so that when I do want to start them falling asleep on their own it should be easier:

- Never let them fall asleep on the bottle
- Let them fall asleep in different ways - usually in the sling, but sometimes just being held, sometimes alone in cot, sometimes being stroked in cot, sometimes in buggy, etc - this is supposed to stop baby getting hooked on a particular way to fall asleep
- Daytime sleep is in a lit room with background noise, nighttime sleep is dark and mostly quiet
- Make sure they eat well during the day, and don't let them nap too late in the afternoon

etc etc etc

I do think, though that her method takes longer to work. She recommends making a log at the beginning, and then not doing another log for 10 days because the results are so gradual it's hard to see any improvement before then.

Sorry this is so long, but I must have read that book about 5 times!

Good luck

Rachel

[twiggy]

Ok Im chicken mommy too... I cant CIO either. thanks for the solution... I taking tips from baby whisperer and they are helpful

[bhstarz]

Thanks Rachel,

He will fall asleepin the car seat and being rocked or the swing, sometimes when I am holding him facing out he even falls asleep, but the only method that always works is the boob. I put him in his cosleeper now for naps and night time sleep.

[jmjrl]

good luck on whatever method you choose. as long as it is a good fit for you..go for it!

[Nenmom]

Keep us posted!! This is such a personal decision and we support you in any way we can. Listening to the crying is so incredibly difficult and I don't blame you one bit for choosing not to do it.

[DrAussieMom]

I decided last night not to do CIO antymore, just can't do it - my DD is so hard headed she will cry until she pukes. I simply get up, feed her quickly, put her back down. It will take some time. Good luck to everybody.

[HollyB]

Hi Gwen,

I totally agree with you that there is no one right or wrong way to do this. It is a personal decision that each family makes.

With my first DS, I tried a lot of the techniques in the Pantley book and found them to be helpful, but he still woke to nurse every 4 hours until he was 14 months old. He would go right back to sleep each time, but I was exhausted from not getting any consistent sleep. Our pediatrician wanted us to let him cry it out from 4 months old, but we just didn't feel comfortable with that. I went back to work full time when he was 10 months old, and the lack of sleep was becoming dangerous. I had a few close calls behind the wheel and I decided that he needed to sleep through the night NOW! At 14 months is when we finally let him CIO. It took 3 days and worked perfectly. I was glad we waited and happy with how it worked out. We will eventually have to do something similar with Jason, but I'm not ready for that yet. He's still in bed with me so we have a long way to go before he's sleeping on his own in his crib all night!

Good luck with whatever you choose. Remember that this stage goes so quickly, and before you know it, you'll have a toddler sleeping in a big bed and the sleepless nights will just be a memory!

[sw2000]

HI Gwen,

I totally agree with HollyB. We are in the midst of doing CIO and its the right method and time for our family. Bottom line is that most children learn to sleep in their own cribs in their own way, regardless of method used. I think if you are a parent who is concious of the fact your child needs to learn some good sleep habits, that is half the battle and your child will learn to sleep on their own. You have to do whatever works for your family. I have read a few books no crysleep solution, parts of baby whisperer and Dr. Weisbluth (healthy sleep happy baby). My ped was a student of Dr. Weisbluth and when older DS when through a wake up middle of nite period, even later on I cant recall bewteen 12-18 months, he suggested it. We try it worked and he is a great sleeper.

THe bottom line is whatever method you use, it may get frustrating and you most likely will benefit from some support and we are here for you.

Good luck and keep us posted.

[bhstarz]

Thanks everyone.
He really sleeps fine, it is just that he wakes up every 2-3 hours to "eat" and he does actually eat for like 5-15 minutes, usually on one side then I put him back down in his cosleeper. I just feel it is to often for his age. He is growing great, he is in the 75% weight, and 90% height. When he was 3 months he slept at least the first stretch 4 hours, now I am lucky if he sleeps 1-2. He eats 2 jars of food and this even happens when I with him 24/7 like vacation etc. He needs to be fed to sleep for almost every nap and especially for bedtime. He will most of the time sleep in the car seat.
He only naps 2-3 times mostly 30-45 minutes.

I guess technically there is nothing wrong but I feel he gets up to often.

When he is older I would be ok with CIO but right now I am not sure if he will understand it.