Ok CIO is not for me, anyone try the no cry sleep solution

[lablover2]

Gwen, like everyone else said, you have to do what's best for YOU! Go with your gut no matter what all the "experts" say, family members say, or friends say (real and virtual ). I think everyone in our group would agree that we are a nonjudgmental group and we are here for each other to offer support, regardless if it's a situation we can relate to, agree with, etc. etc. So don't hesitate to lean on us - we're here for you!! Hang in there and I hope Dylan gets on a better routine soon so you can get some shut eye.

[Minxy3]

bh - how's it going? I got the Pantley book from the library last week because I just can't do CIO either. I got heck from the P.A. at the peds. today that basically I've created this non-sleeping monster (The child who last two weeks slept from 8 pm until at least 5:30 a.m.) because I nurse her to sleep.

So this week, I went in for gallbladder surgery, so DP had her and it was a rough night (I got a call in my hospital room at 12:30 a.m. saying baby won't sleep ... um, ok ....) Kristiana is starting her 6 month growth spurt (she's been early on every one of them) AND I found the first teeth this morning. Could THIS be why she's waking (she's up around 1 or 2, eats like a horse,then up at 5:30, again, eats, eats, eats)? Not that I'm a terrible mom?

DP and I got in a fight about it, I'm being too soft (I just want her to understand before I do a CIO) and I walked out of Peds. having to restrain myself from SLAMMING the exam door. Now, the rest of the day I just want to cry myself.

Just feeling so frustrated from the pressure everywhere to have her CIO. I just don't feel it's right for THIS baby at THIS moment in time. Sigh.
Susan

[Nenmom]

Susan,
This is your decision to make, not the peds. Not everyone can handle the CIO method. While I have done it, there are still times that I can't let A-man go for very long. Take this evening, for instance. I did Race for the Cure this morning, and he didn't have a nap all day. Needless to say, he was just screaming his little head off when it was time to put him down to sleep for the night. I finally had to pick him up and take him outside on the porch to get him to calm down enough so that he could fall asleep.

You do what's right for you. If DP can't understand why you won't CIO, let her deal with K for ONE night without picking her up. She just may change her tune!!

[bhstarz]

Susan,
I am peeved for ypu and how dare the PA say that to you. There are specialist on both sides of the fence. http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T051200.asp#T051205
Bottom line is you know what is best for you and your baby. If you need proof for DH this is what Dr. Sears says.

You will know when the time is right be well and enjoy your baby.

[bhstarz]

Are you feeling better? You really have had it rough. Hang in there.

[lablover2]

Hey Gwen and Susan. Just checking on you gals...how's it going with your LO's? Are they sleeping any better?? CIO is indeed very hard. I tried to let DD cry it out late this afternoon for her last nap and she was NOT having it - so I caved! I say follow your instincts -- that's all any of us can do. It's so easy for others to give their thoughts about raising OUR children. Every child is different. I have a friend who loves to pass judgment -- yet she has one of those "perfect"/"easy" kids -- she has no idea what she would do if she was raising my DD. I try to remind myself that I'm a good mom and am doing the best I can do (though there are plenty of times I doubt myself). Go with your gut!

Hope you're doing well and getting some sleep.

[bhstarz]

Hey Lab,
To be honest I haven't done a thing. I really feel like he is so distracted during the day that he is not eating well and hence up all night eating. He eats and goes back down for like 2 hours and eats again. I tried giving him an extra bottle the other night and he vomited on me. I am to tired to try anything. I feel like once he gets past this stage perhaps I can work on it again. He is gaining weight fine so IM sure he is okay but he sure is not an easy child.

As far as what you said about your friend I totally agree. I also feel that god doesn't give us more then we can handle so those who can't usually get na easy baby, so we are strong

[Minxy3]

Last night was rough ... DD napped for about 30 minutes from 6:15 - 6:45 and she'd pretty much dropped that nap. Well. At 8 pm, she had drained both sides and was still fussy and awake. (and ripping herself off of me! Bad enough before, but with a tooth, eeeeks!) So got up, fed her cereal and tried again at about 8:30. She's taken to slamming herself in the head with her arm and fist when she's not getting enough. Got up, went to the rocking chair and rocked and rocked 'til she was sound asleep. Put her down and went to bed. About 11ish, she was up and crying, but this time I handed her to DP 'cause I needed the bathroom, and about 60 seconds later she was no longer crying and DP put her down. I think she lasted til 4:30 (I'm so dazed these days I don't even know if I was up at 2!!! LOL). She just seemed not right, like something was hurting, so we'd given tylenol at 8 also. I think feeding her the solids at 8 was a mistake, opinions? My plan for tonight is for DP to feed her dinner solids while I pump at 5. Then when 8 comes around for bed time I'll still have milk available for her, plus extra if we need it.

This is probably the most frustrating part of having to nurse her to sleep, the times I run out. On the positive, she is learning different ways to go to sleep, like the fact she allowed me to rock her down, and at day care, she is just put in her pack & play (I don't wanna know what the day care lady's idea of "fussing" is ... I suspect it's more than my idea of "fussing"). The really crazy thing is I'm all for cosleeping and nursing her down right now, and am having to cave to pressures to make her sleep in her own room etc. My gut tells me this is what she needs at this time, but I'm still worried that I'm making it harder for her in the future. I just know that whenever we insist on her going to sleep on her own if it's not HER idea, it's going to be awful.

Susan

[HollyB]

The really crazy thing is I'm all for cosleeping and nursing her down right now, and am having to cave to pressures to make her sleep in her own room etc.

Susan, for what it's worth, this is what we are doing. I just have the baby in bed with me every night. We all sleep through the night, and I *think* he wakes about 2-3 times to nurse, but he latches back on and we go right back to sleep.

When I tell this to people IRL, some are supportive, but others are just horrified! The pressure to get them to sleep on their own is truly immense like you said!! I'm not trying to derail your plans for getting her to sleep on her own, and I AM VERY ENVIOUS of you gals who have the babies sleeping through the night in their cribs. But, since mine won't sleep on his own without CIO, I am very satisfied with my decision to keep him in bed with me. He looks so peaceful and content cuddled up to me or DH under the blankets. I know the askdrsears.com website has tons of info about how to co-sleep safely if you decide to pursue that route. It also has a lot of info you could share with people who are pressuring you to have her sleep on her own.

Again, I applaud your efforts to get her to sleep on her own!! I just wanted to give you my perspective from the co-sleeping side of the fence.

Good luck!!

[bhstarz]

Still co-sleeping here. I hate when IRL people are negative like that. I stopped telling people about how often ds wakes because they have tons of advice sometimes it makes me feel inadequate. Each baby is unique when Dylan and I are ready for CIO or whatever we will do it.

I wanted to try the no cry sleep solution but i am so exhausted that i don't want to even put the effort into it.

Susan hang in there u have been through so much this to shall pass.