Forum: Living Childfree after infertility and/or loss

I haunt this board but it receives very little activity. I don't know where else to post. I've tried other boards but everyone either still has hope of having their own child or they've made the decision to adopt or use DE and are intent on convincing me that all my issues with these two choices...

Aside from all the obvious answers.......... :( I looked after my friends two small daughters last week - we went for a walk along the shoreline into the park next door to where we live........we came back and they were hungry so I made them jacket potatoes with cheese.... Both girls are...

My wife and I met later in life. Dated a long time, broke up, got back together and married. Got pregnant on the night of our honeymoon, but it ended in the first of three miscarriages over the last four years. Took almost a year to get into our HMO's fertility program, and that would have...

Hello, DH and I just had to have our 13 yr old dog put down due to kidney failure yesterday. Our dog got sick and within a week and half, he was so sick he had to be put down. I know animals aren't children, but since DH and I don't have children, our dog was a special part of our lives. ...

To stimulate some discussion here, please finish the following sentences: Currently, I am finding fulfillment in... In the future, I hope to find some fulfillment in... Please keep your discussion limited to child-free living- (for example, don't discuss TTC or alternate ways to find a...

Okay, so it's been a year of Tuesdays since I've checked in. I've just been too overwhelmed by everything to write--I don't even have the gumption to do Twitter & that's not even real writing. Anyway, in a nutshell... I had a boy back in July 1986--totally a miracle cuz I have PCOS so bad that I...

Well, here goes. I only quite by accident figured out that Fertile Thoughts had a LCF Board. I haven't gone through IVF in five and a half years now, but I still haven't gotten over the pain and grief of IF and childlessness. Has anyone else here my age been able to do this? I am in my mid-40's...

my name is michelle, im a nurse in a long term care facility, 31 years old, married for 4 years in november. Dh is also a nurse. i have three cats, maemae , darth meow, and lucy. we own our condo. were dieting and going to the gym 4 days a week and ive lost 20 lbs so far. i love coffee and tea, and...

Hi. I am trying to come to terms with being childless. My husband and I have tried so many treatments and none have worked. We are just financially drained. Besides that, I am tired of feeling sorry for myself and constantly worrying about getting pregnant. I think I am ready to just accept the...

Has anyone had problems with getting stupid or seemingly rude comments about LCF? I've been told things like "Life is not worth living unless you have children", or "who will take care of you when you are old?". Me:28 Dh:33

It is so hard to make the decision to live childfree, even if it's just for a little while. Right now, DH and I are at a crossroads, because tx hasn't been working (we've been TTC 4 yrs). I had trouble ovulating, so was doing cycles of IUI w/injectibles, and I was a very poor responder to the...

Hello All! On this day I'll try to focus on what I do have- a DH (whom I waited soo long to marry), my own mother, a neice and nephew and friends - like you and me- who are childless- I mean childfree. I celebrate all you strong, brave, loving women- like myself- who have not been blest with...

DH and I went thru 1 IVF BFN and 1 FET m/c. He already has 3 kids previous wife. He is 9 years older than I. Me (33) he ( 42) he has told me that he feels that he is in a different place in his life now and wants to think about retirement and getting out of responsibility such as car payments,...

Hi everyone, I notice that this section of the board is not very active. Probably because of the depressing nature of the subject. I was hoping that there are some women out there who would be willing to talk and try to help each other.... I feel so alone. Everyone around me is pregnant...

Hi, I suppose many people that visit this forum have thought about adoption. I know I have, and still have not completely disconnected that probability for the future. I'm curious about people LCF after infertility that have chosen NOT to adopt. DH and I want to finish school before...

Just looking at your signature on your post here, I can see so much of what you have been through - I just wanted to give you some warm and gentle (((HUGS))). Hope you have a good weekend........we all deserve that! :)

.....sucks. IMHO. How many millions of people tell us "Christmas is for the kids, its about seeing their happy little faces, its about family"? Its also about conception, fertility, pg, childbirth.......all those images of "mother with child". Talk about rubbing salt into an open wound. ...

Maybe it would be good to list some of the things we can appreciate about the child-free lifestyle. This thread is not intended to turn into a bashing fest of the lifestyle of families with children. It is meant for a way to appreciate the things/time/opportunities we have as child-free people. ...

Hi All, I wanted to introduce myself to this group. I hope and pray I can come to some peace around this topic. I am 48 and currently working with a surrogate. We have had 4 failed attempts so far. This reason I found out was b/c my husband was put on testosterone treatments and the side effect...

One oddly positive thing about LCF is that we hold a strange, disappointing thing over our parent(s) head.....NO GRANDBABIES! You might think it odd that I would express this as a POSITIVE. But sometimes I'm secretly GLAD to be a dissapointment to my parents.:D I always want to see my...

i never wanted children, I thought I was a career girl, I started to get a nasty niggle when I realised I didn't have the option any more, but still maintained to all those who mattered, myself included that I was happier that way. Now the clock has started with a vengeance...I have advanced...

Hi everybody! A rather ironic situation has recently hit me right in the face. I've always had irregular, terrible menstrual cycles. I was diagnosed and had a lap due to endometriosis 10 months ago. I may have mild pcos, and I have recently developed symptoms that may be adenomyosis (endo in...

Why ARE some people sooo **** lucky???? I was at a meeting for work this week and there were tons of baby pics all over the walls of this woman's office......... Once I realised they weren't (any of them) loss pics.....no dead babies amongst them..... (???!!!).........I said (with a fake-ish...

You can read my whole story by digging up old posts. It is just too hurtful to repeat it all right now. 2 days ago I lost my last hope of having a baby with DH at 6wks0d. With the 1st signs of spotting, RE said to come right over. During u/s, they showed me the sac and the yolk sac, and what was...

I have been posting on this BB sporadically for quite some time now - I'd very much like to post here more but I have this nagging *feeling* that this BB doesn't quite have its own unique identity established yet - and therefore I don't always feel "safe" here. I feel sort of 'exposed'. It feels...