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Old 01-22-2007, 11:59 AM   #1 (permalink)
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My Sad Story (nothing to do w/IF)

I have a beautiful Koi pond in my backyard. Not a huge pond, just an irregular shaped pond about 10'X6'. I have about 15 fish in my pond. The smallest of which is maybe 4" long and the biggest is about 6 inches. I have beautiful plants in and around the pond, and there is a wooden deck next to it. The fountain makes that beautiful falling water sound so that it is very relaxing to sit on the deck, hear the water and watch the fish. Right now, during winter there is very little vegetation in the pond so that the fish are very exposed. It's kinda cool because my den has a window seat that looks out on the pond, the kitchen has a window as well so you can see the pond from different angles in the house. During the winter the water is crystal clear and the fish are never more visible.

Saturday morning while I was making coffee (decaf) I looked out my kitchen window and there standing in the middle of my pond was a great blue heron. I was struck by the beauty and majesty of this rare visit from nature. I called to my husband in the next room, "Honey come see this, this is so cool. Theres a blue heron in the pond." As my husband comes to look out the window he say's "I hope it's not eating our fish." Those words were no more out of his mouth when my heart sunk. At that moment I just knew tragedy had befallen my lovely fish.

As soon as the bird saw us moving behind the window, it flew away. We went outside to survey the damage. My worst fears confirmed, no fish in the pond! I didn't realize how attached I was to those fish. I cried and cried.

My husband and I bought our house about 3 years ago. I didn't know anything at all about ponds, or koi, let alone how to care for them. It was so beautiful, I learned quickly. Over the last three years we have lost about 5 to 7 fish due to my ineptitude, cats or just poor health. To see the pond empty, is just heartbreaking. All the time and energy spent on it. Thinking how the poor things were like the cliche "shooting fish in a barrel" there was nothing they could do. They were friendly little fish too, they would always swim up to greet you, expecting fish food. At bedtime my DS would always climb up on the window seat, look out the window and say, "night night fishies" ****, I'm crying again. Stupid Lupron, Stupid Bird, Stupid fish! This just ... sucks!

Thank you for letting me spill my sad story,
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Old 01-22-2007, 12:03 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Oh, Trina That is so sad!! I would have cried too, so don't feel bad about that (and I haven't stated Lupron yet ).
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Old 01-22-2007, 12:20 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Robyn and Jackie, 'yall are so sweet. But because you are and your replies are so tender, I am now crying again....Stupid Tears
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Awww Trina. I am sooo sorry!
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So sorry about your fish I googled "heron deterrent" for you. Keep it humane; they are lovely birds, too.

http://www.koipondsupplyguide.com/heron.htm

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cs; Herons are protected here, not that I would do anything to the dumb thing anyway, as I am a total animal lover. The bird will probably stay away once it realizes there isn't anymore food.

On a side note, my family and I watch a show called Smallville, we are totally addicted, we even have the first five episodes on DVD. There is a character named Lana who is Clark Kent's love interest. I don't and never have liked her character. She is beautiful but mean in a selfish way. Anyway, I named the bird Lana and I will refer to her from now on as such. Mean and beautiful.

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Hilarious about Lana Lane being the bird! But completely sad and sorry that the stupid bird ate your fish.
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I'm so sorry about your poor fish. I would have been upset, Lupron or no.

Isn't it funny how the simple things in life make us so happy, and when they are gone, we feel like we are missing a part of ourselves? IMO you should get some more fish soon. Don't delay something so simple that brings you so much joy, there is so precious little of it in this world. hugs
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Bad Lana. You can still shoot her... dirty looks, that is.

MWAaaHaaHaHa!
Did I tell you that bird came back this morning? I don't think I wrote that, in my original post. The bird ate my poor fishies on Saturday but I saw it this morning just standing there, mocking me. As soon as I moved up to the window, it flew away. It is definitely female, they are more gray and kinda dull smoky colored, no crest.
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Trina -
I am so sorry to read about your loss of the fishies. That was me just a few months ago.
When DH and I bought our house 2.5 years ago, it came with a koi pond too. The previous owners had put a canopy over the pond b/c they had a blue heron attack too. We felt we were pretty protected. We also put in a ton of floating plants and potted plants. The fish all seemed very well protected. Things were fine for a long time but last Oct/Nov it was clear that something was messing with the pond. We figured the fish were hiding most of the time since there were plenty of places to hide. Well one night our dogs went crazy and we saw an opossum back by the pond. It had gone in and was tearing things apart. We put up barricades but the darn thing just kept coming back. It ate over half of our fish including three of our large beautiful koi (we also had comets in the pond). I cried for days and hated to think they suffered. Animal control lent us a humane trap and we caught it. Dh and a friend released it out in the country. How I wanted to strangle that thing.

Sorry for the long post. I just know how devastated you feel. You feel helpless and so sad for the poor fish. I hope you heal and will be able to build your pond again. It is such a special thing. I recommend a canopy.

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