First IUI, big disappointment

07-25-2006, 05:54 PM

Failed first Clomid+IUI today. DH and I were both crushed, maybe because the numbers looked so good for the last two weeks. I'm new to this stuff and don't know all the acronyms, but sperm count, follicle # (5) progesterone, etc. all were said to be good. Though I notice how careful RE's staff is not to build up hopes with too much enthusiasm.

Maybe my numbers weren't as hot as I thought they were.

How long do you plow through IUIs before moving on? I don't know that I can handle upping the ante to IVF. Adoption may be a better fit for us.

I am so SICK of envying people with beautiful babies. I try to be happy for my pg friends, but boy does it wear you down.

This IF stuff is incredibly isolating. Glad to find this board.

DianaNJ · 07-26-2006, 07:25 AM

Hi,

Sorry it didn't work out for you this time - I've been there - everything seems picture perfect and then nothing. My husband and I decided to give IUI a try twice before moving on to IVF, mostly due to insurance coverage running out and also because we have male factor (low everything)...success rates for IUIs are lower the worse the male factor is.

You didn't mention what your diagnosis is...but if your sperm numbers/morph/motility are good and you don't have anything major going on with you, then I would try IUI again before moving on to IVF. IVF will involve a whole assortment of injectable medications, more office visits for bloodwork and ultrasounds, and generally a day or two off of work around the time of your egg retrieval.

It's tough making that decision, but whatever you decide, this board is a GREAT source for support, questions, and sharing overall experiences. Good luck and welcome!!

Red Raider · 07-26-2006, 09:14 AM

So sorry to hear about your failed cycle. I know it's tough seeing pg women and to have friends who are pg or have children. We are diagnosed with mf as well. We tried three IUI's with clomid before moving on to IVF. I think deciding on how many to try is a very personal decision, one that can be guided by your doctor. Good luck with the decision and remember the ladies on this board are great support and filled with knowledge.

**BC-KarenS-MI** · 07-26-2006, 11:23 AM

I'm sorry to hear your news DC.

I never did any IUI's because they wouldn't have worked for me because of my IF issues. However, I wouldn't recommend doing too many IUI's before moving on to IVF. I know you said you're not sure if it's something that you want to do, but may I ask why you feel that way? Perhaps we can help you with your fears?

With IUI's you have NO clue if there are any further MF issues that you're not aware of right now. With IUI you have NO idea if your eggs ever even make it to be fertilized. With IVF, you would know if your eggs have fertilized. You'd (well not you personally, but your RE) have the ability to choose which ones are put back due to how they look quality wise. There are SO many more positive factors to doing an IVF over an IUI. I'm not saying that I wouldn't do an IUI if it can work for you, but I just wouldn't waste too much time/money/emotions on IUI's. By the time you do several medicated IUI's you could've done an IVF, with better chances of success.

Let us know how else we can help you, ok?

Karen

07-26-2006, 02:16 PM

DianaNJ, I think another IUI *is* in the cards. Knock on wood, Clomid has not hit me hard--yet. I see a lot of info on these boards about its nasty side effects. DH's numbers are good, and my HSG last month didn't reveal any problems. I guess there are a million variables like 'hostile mucus,' a phrase that is just unforgettable.

IVF kinda wigs me out--don't know that we have the $ or the emotional stamina to go there. We have been to three adoption meetings, OTOH, and met and talked to a number of adoptive parents. Something about adoption has always drawn me very strongly.

At any rate, I appreciate your support and good wishes so much!

07-26-2006, 02:19 PM

Hey Karen, thank you too for the pep talk! Like I said to DianaNJ, I bet I have one more IUI in me. Whether DH and I will go down IVF Road--or make a right turn onto Adoption Avenue--remains to be seen.

Your comments were really clear and supportive and helped me understand better what might come next. Thanks for being there!

07-25-2006, 05:54 PM	#1 (permalink)
DCgal Guest Posts: n/a	First IUI, big disappointment Failed first Clomid+IUI today. DH and I were both crushed, maybe because the numbers looked so good for the last two weeks. I'm new to this stuff and don't know all the acronyms, but sperm count, follicle # (5) progesterone, etc. all were said to be good. Though I notice how careful RE's staff is not to build up hopes with too much enthusiasm. Maybe my numbers weren't as hot as I thought they were. How long do you plow through IUIs before moving on? I don't know that I can handle upping the ante to IVF. Adoption may be a better fit for us. I am so SICK of envying people with beautiful babies. I try to be happy for my pg friends, but boy does it wear you down. This IF stuff is incredibly isolating. Glad to find this board.

07-26-2006, 07:25 AM	#2 (permalink)
DianaNJ 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: May 2006 Location: New Jersey Posts: 6,490	Hi, Sorry it didn't work out for you this time - I've been there - everything seems picture perfect and then nothing. My husband and I decided to give IUI a try twice before moving on to IVF, mostly due to insurance coverage running out and also because we have male factor (low everything)...success rates for IUIs are lower the worse the male factor is. You didn't mention what your diagnosis is...but if your sperm numbers/morph/motility are good and you don't have anything major going on with you, then I would try IUI again before moving on to IVF. IVF will involve a whole assortment of injectable medications, more office visits for bloodwork and ultrasounds, and generally a day or two off of work around the time of your egg retrieval. It's tough making that decision, but whatever you decide, this board is a GREAT source for support, questions, and sharing overall experiences. Good luck and welcome!! __________________ Mommy to 6 years old 1 year old due February

07-26-2006, 11:23 AM	#4 (permalink)
BC-KarenS-MI Board Coordinator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Michigan Posts: 28,057	I'm sorry to hear your news DC. I never did any IUI's because they wouldn't have worked for me because of my IF issues. However, I wouldn't recommend doing too many IUI's before moving on to IVF. I know you said you're not sure if it's something that you want to do, but may I ask why you feel that way? Perhaps we can help you with your fears? With IUI's you have NO clue if there are any further MF issues that you're not aware of right now. With IUI you have NO idea if your eggs ever even make it to be fertilized. With IVF, you would know if your eggs have fertilized. You'd (well not you personally, but your RE) have the ability to choose which ones are put back due to how they look quality wise. There are SO many more positive factors to doing an IVF over an IUI. I'm not saying that I wouldn't do an IUI if it can work for you, but I just wouldn't waste too much time/money/emotions on IUI's. By the time you do several medicated IUI's you could've done an IVF, with better chances of success. Let us know how else we can help you, ok? Karen __________________ ttc #1 for 7 1/2 years ~ IVF #1, 6-93, cancelled; IVF#2/rescue ICSI- 7-99, failed ~(switched RE's) ZIFT/ICSI- 1-00, successful w/twins, lost 1 at 8w ~ ZIFT/ICSI #2, to try for #2- March '03- successful ~ GS- IVF #1, 7-05 failed. FET 10-05- BFP, m/c 5w5d

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07-26-2006, 09:14 AM	#3 (permalink)
Red Raider 300-399 post 5 of hearts Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 359	So sorry to hear about your failed cycle. I know it's tough seeing pg women and to have friends who are pg or have children. We are diagnosed with mf as well. We tried three IUI's with clomid before moving on to IVF. I think deciding on how many to try is a very personal decision, one that can be guided by your doctor. Good luck with the decision and remember the ladies on this board are great support and filled with knowledge.

07-26-2006, 02:16 PM	#5 (permalink)
DCgal Guest Posts: n/a	DianaNJ, I think another IUI is in the cards. Knock on wood, Clomid has not hit me hard--yet. I see a lot of info on these boards about its nasty side effects. DH's numbers are good, and my HSG last month didn't reveal any problems. I guess there are a million variables like 'hostile mucus,' a phrase that is just unforgettable. IVF kinda wigs me out--don't know that we have the $ or the emotional stamina to go there. We have been to three adoption meetings, OTOH, and met and talked to a number of adoptive parents. Something about adoption has always drawn me very strongly. At any rate, I appreciate your support and good wishes so much!

07-26-2006, 02:19 PM	#6 (permalink)
DCgal Guest Posts: n/a	Hey Karen, thank you too for the pep talk! Like I said to DianaNJ, I bet I have one more IUI in me. Whether DH and I will go down IVF Road--or make a right turn onto Adoption Avenue--remains to be seen. Your comments were really clear and supportive and helped me understand better what might come next. Thanks for being there!