IVF #4- scared to death

onegoodegg · 06-09-2006, 01:42 PM

i cant believe i even wrote the words " ivf #4". i never thought i would even consider it ,but here we are. i have scheduled a consult with a new Dr. he comes highly recommended. I am 41 yr old and really ready to give up and adopt , but DH will not consider adoption. I am so scared and nervous to try again. Another BFN would crush me. I am just wondering if anyone one else felt this nervous and will it hurt my chances of success to be so scared
of it not working.

mouse123 · 06-09-2006, 01:47 PM

yes I am right there with you- I did 3 fresh 1 fet and now this is fresh #4 (in my 2ww now) I did donor egg though (just gave up on mine- and I am still terrified- I am 36.5 years old and you think using 25 year old eggs would calm me down! NOT! I do have some embryos in the freezer now too- left over from donor- so we shall see- I'll keep my fingers crossed for you-

**BC-KarenS-MI** · 06-09-2006, 01:58 PM

You're not alone. It's always scary to think of how far we go but you just find the strength to dig down deep & before you know it, you're cycling again. I'm glad that you're switching RE's. Sometimes you need a fresh set of eyes to look over your history & see just what changes can be made.

When is your consult set for?

No, being scared isn't going to have a negative impact on your chances for success.

Karen

jeppy · 06-09-2006, 02:04 PM

It is like no matter how many you do....I'm sure you are still jsut as nervous and anxious. I wish you both the best on your cycles and hope this is it for you.....Try and think of things that make you happy, cause smiling is good medicine. Even though sometimes I can't even take my own advise

06-09-2006, 01:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
onegoodegg Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 72	IVF #4- scared to death i cant believe i even wrote the words " ivf #4". i never thought i would even consider it ,but here we are. i have scheduled a consult with a new Dr. he comes highly recommended. I am 41 yr old and really ready to give up and adopt , but DH will not consider adoption. I am so scared and nervous to try again. Another BFN would crush me. I am just wondering if anyone one else felt this nervous and will it hurt my chances of success to be so scared of it not working.

06-09-2006, 01:58 PM	#3 (permalink)
BC-KarenS-MI Board Coordinator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Michigan Posts: 28,057	You're not alone. It's always scary to think of how far we go but you just find the strength to dig down deep & before you know it, you're cycling again. I'm glad that you're switching RE's. Sometimes you need a fresh set of eyes to look over your history & see just what changes can be made. When is your consult set for? No, being scared isn't going to have a negative impact on your chances for success. Karen __________________ ttc #1 for 7 1/2 years ~ IVF #1, 6-93, cancelled; IVF#2/rescue ICSI- 7-99, failed ~(switched RE's) ZIFT/ICSI- 1-00, successful w/twins, lost 1 at 8w ~ ZIFT/ICSI #2, to try for #2- March '03- successful ~ GS- IVF #1, 7-05 failed. FET 10-05- BFP, m/c 5w5d

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06-09-2006, 01:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
mouse123 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 139	yes I am right there with you- I did 3 fresh 1 fet and now this is fresh #4 (in my 2ww now) I did donor egg though (just gave up on mine- and I am still terrified- I am 36.5 years old and you think using 25 year old eggs would calm me down! NOT! I do have some embryos in the freezer now too- left over from donor- so we shall see- I'll keep my fingers crossed for you-

06-09-2006, 02:04 PM	#4 (permalink)
jeppy 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Alaska Posts: 2,990	It is like no matter how many you do....I'm sure you are still jsut as nervous and anxious. I wish you both the best on your cycles and hope this is it for you.....Try and think of things that make you happy, cause smiling is good medicine. Even though sometimes I can't even take my own advise