Waiting, waiting, waiting...........

[TripletMommy]

I am in serious need of some tips here on how to handle all of this waiting. I'm about to drive myself insane with thinking, worrying, and waiting. This transfer isn't till June which seems like forever away. I keep wondering if it will work or not. It doesn't help that work has been super stressful lately and I've been dealing with ex-husband problems either. So what do you guys do to occupy your minds during all this waiting?????? I feel like I'm so wound tight right now I can hardly stand myself. Any ideas?

[Lisa555]

The waiting is just terrible, I know. I obsess, worry and drive my dh crazy sometimes. I actually went to see a psychologist who specializes in women's infertiltity and she told me to walk, listen to soothing music, do yoga and do breathing exercises. This worked a little for me, but this is just a really big deal and it's hard not to think about it ALL the time.

I'm also thinking about taking a class for fun (an art class or something) and voice lessons...

Best of luck to you!!

[srourke]

I am right there with you! My cycle isn't until June and it feels like the days are dragging! That could also be because it seems like everyone around me is getting pregnant! I am trying to keep busy, but I do find myself obsessing, will it work? Will I get another stupid negative? If I do get a negative what the heck am I going to do then? And so on and so on, I am literally driving myself nuts. So I also could use some tips to get through the next month of waiting and watching the clock!
Stacey

[TripletMommy]

srouke.............Yes, the days are dragging. I have this stupid calendar hanging in my bathroom so every time I go in there I see how many days in April are left. I'm dreading turning the calender and seeing all those days of May! Maybe I should take the thing down and not torture myself so much!!!!

Lisa...........my DH thinks I'm a basket case! He keeps telling me that I've got to get rid of this stress if we want this cycle to work. Oh, if only it were so easy. And the bad thing is, now that he's said that he's got me worrying that the worrying is going to make it not work!!!!!

I swear it's a never ending cycle!

[JennJoe]

I'm taking three months off between cycles to get my body in optimum shape. I'm doing yoga, walking, eating an alkaline diet, taking supplements, meditating/deep breathing and doing acupressure with DH's help (three-month plan from "The Infertility Cure"). So I'm kind of happy to have time off from bruises, dr. appts, and uncontrollable hormones.

[SomedayMommy]

WOW, I am certainly not one to give advice because I am the least patient person I know. I want something, and I want it NOW!!! But I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone...

[srourke]

I have a little desk calender on my make up table at home where I mark off the days until my cycle begins. Now that I think about it that is probably making things worse instead of better. However I did realize that it makes me feel better to think my cyle is 36 days away instead of over a month away. Yes, I know I am a dork to have counted but hey, I admitted I was obsessing!
Angelia, we are Juners together right?
Stacey

[Jen213]

Great question! I've been waiting for my cycle for 4.5 months now! Yes - I'm a little obsessed about it too. My IVF consult was in the beginning of Jan. & i finally start injections on Thurs. I've been on bcp's for 41 days!!!!! UGH!!!!!

I bought several books on getting ready for pregancy (through diet, exercise, etc.) & pregnancy books. I've read up to the point where they describe 6 weeks on. I've been working on my diet & have been exercising. I've actually lost 20 lbs. over the last 6 months in preperation for pregnancy.

So I've been keeping myself busy by getting ready to be pg! A way of obsessing over pregnancy - but being productive at the same time!

:-) Jen

[TripletMommy]

Stacey....yes, I'm a June Butterfly with you. I finally couldn't stand it anymore last week and called the RE's office on Friday to see what the plan was. I was secretly hoping they'd say, hey, we're glad you called. Come on in now! Of course, that didn't happen. But they did say they're setting me up with an appointment at Balboa Naval Hospital for mid-May to get all my meds ordered. So at least it's a start! Maybe I should start counting the days like you are instead of just looking at as seeming so far away!

Jen........that's awesome that you were able to lose weight! I have started back exercising again because I've turned into complete slacker lately. I ran 2 miles at lunch today and I will admit that I feel better now than I did this morning when I was all blah and down.

[BC-KarenS-MI]

I'm glad that you're going to have something to look forward to in May now!! And hey, it's MID May, so that makes it even closer!!!! If it would make you feel better, count how many days instead of looking at in months. Months seem so much farther away than days do for some reason!!

If you can swing it, how about treating yourself to a nice massage every week? Do something that you really enjoy but don't really find time to do on a regular basis. Take this time to do things for yourself & allow yourself to just TRY to unwind & relax.

Don't worry about what might happen. I know, I know.... it's SO much easier to say than do, but TRY at least!! Try to look at the positive side of things. By getting through each day, you're one day closer to making all of your dreams come true.

Hang in there!! We're all in this together!!!

Karen