weird/strange thoughts about upcoming cycle

coyne9167 · 03-18-2005, 10:53 AM

Hi,
As most of you guys know I am going for try # 4.
I am feeling different about this cycle. Normal I get all scared and start thnking about what I will do after it fails... you know, try again, give up or go back to work.
This cycle ( drugs start Sunday) I keep picturing myself preggo, thinking mm, will it be a christmas baby, picturing myself sitting in a rocker with a baby !! I am almost invisioning a little red haired girl.
What the heck is this.. I am so surprised at myself.
I'll take it though, it sure beats the sad & yuckies I normally get.
I almost feel as if I can't fail this cycle.
Do you think i am setting myself up for heartache, should I try to push these thoughts a side?
Thanks for your input
Kelly

Scout · 03-18-2005, 11:16 AM

I think you are onto something!!!

I really think that positive thoughts can only help you and nothing else. I think that envisioning what you want can help you get there (even if it's only a tiny bit more).

I hope you are able to keep the positive thoughts up, and make them a reality.

Worst case scenario, you really aren't going to feel any worse at the end if it does not happen (we all feel terrible at that point anyway).

Many ++++ thoughts to you!

-Scout

**BC-KarenS-MI** · 03-18-2005, 09:49 PM

I had those same feelings (not the little red haired girl part) with my last cycle. I had to keep reminding myself that it could fail, but I was just SO sure that it was going to work. I was afraid that I was setting myself for the biggest fall ever, but I didn't fall at all!!

You just keep thinking positive & get ready to kick that IF beast this time around!!

Karen

Lisa555 · 03-19-2005, 03:06 PM

Kelly,

My dh keeps telling me that if you want something to act as if you already have it and it will come to you...

Unfortunately for me, I'm having a hard time doing that, but you seem to have the right attitude!!!

I envy your optimism about your cycle! Don't question it, just go with it - sounds a lot less painful than the alternative.

Best of luck!

Lisa

mchen · 03-19-2005, 06:03 PM

I don't believe in setting yourself up, either it is a heartbreak or not, so you might as well enjoy the time up until you find out. Someone once told me that "to worry today does not ensure the success of tommorrow, it only sucks the strength out of today". I say what the heck, be an optimist. Besides the studies show staying possitive releases good things (hormones, seratonin...) in the body can only help the process.

03-18-2005, 10:53 AM	#1 (permalink)
coyne9167 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 408	weird/strange thoughts about upcoming cycle Hi, As most of you guys know I am going for try # 4. I am feeling different about this cycle. Normal I get all scared and start thnking about what I will do after it fails... you know, try again, give up or go back to work. This cycle ( drugs start Sunday) I keep picturing myself preggo, thinking mm, will it be a christmas baby, picturing myself sitting in a rocker with a baby !! I am almost invisioning a little red haired girl. What the heck is this.. I am so surprised at myself. I'll take it though, it sure beats the sad & yuckies I normally get. I almost feel as if I can't fail this cycle. Do you think i am setting myself up for heartache, should I try to push these thoughts a side? Thanks for your input Kelly __________________ me 36 dh 35 ttc 1/04 IVF may 04 BFP low beta's praying for a miracle

03-18-2005, 09:49 PM	#3 (permalink)
BC-KarenS-MI Board Coordinator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Michigan Posts: 28,057	I had those same feelings (not the little red haired girl part) with my last cycle. I had to keep reminding myself that it could fail, but I was just SO sure that it was going to work. I was afraid that I was setting myself for the biggest fall ever, but I didn't fall at all!! You just keep thinking positive & get ready to kick that IF beast this time around!! Karen __________________ ttc #1 for 7 1/2 years ~ IVF #1, 6-93, cancelled; IVF#2/rescue ICSI- 7-99, failed ~(switched RE's) ZIFT/ICSI- 1-00, successful w/twins, lost 1 at 8w ~ ZIFT/ICSI #2, to try for #2- March '03- successful ~ GS- IVF #1, 7-05 failed. FET 10-05- BFP, m/c 5w5d

03-19-2005, 03:06 PM	#4 (permalink)
Lisa555 500-599 post 7 of hearts Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Connecticut Posts: 585	Kelly, My dh keeps telling me that if you want something to act as if you already have it and it will come to you... Unfortunately for me, I'm having a hard time doing that, but you seem to have the right attitude!!! I envy your optimism about your cycle! Don't question it, just go with it - sounds a lot less painful than the alternative. Best of luck! Lisa __________________ Me-40/DH - 42 IVF #1-3 BFN IVF#4 -BFP Nicholas Jay born 4/22/06 TTC #2 - IVF #5 BFN IVF #6 - m/c at 8 weeks IVF#7 - BFP -Caroline Grace born 11/2/07

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03-18-2005, 11:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
Scout 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 2,934	I think you are onto something!!! I really think that positive thoughts can only help you and nothing else. I think that envisioning what you want can help you get there (even if it's only a tiny bit more). I hope you are able to keep the positive thoughts up, and make them a reality. Worst case scenario, you really aren't going to feel any worse at the end if it does not happen (we all feel terrible at that point anyway). Many ++++ thoughts to you! -Scout

03-19-2005, 06:03 PM	#5 (permalink)
mchen Registered User Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 170	I don't believe in setting yourself up, either it is a heartbreak or not, so you might as well enjoy the time up until you find out. Someone once told me that "to worry today does not ensure the success of tommorrow, it only sucks the strength out of today". I say what the heck, be an optimist. Besides the studies show staying possitive releases good things (hormones, seratonin...) in the body can only help the process.