April IUI Cycle Buddies Apr 29th-May 12th

[Faithlove687]

Thsnks. I will have to look in to it. It's definately worth a try.

[BC-frewtygal]

Tuesday, May 1, 2012


Waiting for

Hoping4bb
BC-Heartoooangel11
Madie
Anusha
KDS83 - BCPs until 4/29/12

Grow, Follies, Grow!

Sanrio - cd5
FrewtyGal - cd8
wannabebe - cd9
hokiegirl - cd9
ohiogirl - cd10
drsquid - cd11
barbersdaughter - cd19
mountainme - cd20
Mom2BSmeday - cd27

IUI Time // 2WW

Nyssanyc - IUI today
Faithlove - IUI today
Hopeful in MA - 7dpiui
blueberry - 8dpiui
Baby2012 - 12dpiui
impala - 13dpo
hoping&trying - 13dpiui
iheartreading - 28dpiui

BFP

whenismyturn - +HPT @ 14dpiui; beta #1 @ 15dpiui: 675; beta #2 @ 17dpiui: over 2000; U/S #1 @ 7wks
summer - +HPT @ 10dpiui; beta #1 (12dpiui/13dpiui) 83.8; beta #2 @ 15dpiui: 252; beta #3: 1338; U/S #1 (5/1/12): confirmed twins w/fetal poles, possibly quads!!; U/S #2 (5/7/12):
pangolin - +HPT @ 11dpiui; beta #1 @ 18dpiui: 1359; beta #2 @ 21dpiui: 3689;
vicky2bmom - beta #1 @ 17dpiui: 297; beta @ 19dpiui: 728; U/S #1 @ 25dpiui:
jenNICUnp - +HPT @ 11dpiui; beta #1 @ 13dpiui: 147; beta #2 @ 15dpiui: 343; U/S #1 @ 29dpiui (4/20/12): 6w1d - 2 sacs seen
Mrs - +HPT @ 11dpiui; beta #1 @ 13dpiui:
angelady - beta #1 @ 2/16/2012: 96; beta #2: 796; beta #3: 8000+; beta #4: 12000+; beta #5: 36000+; U/S #1 (3/7/12): 1 baby, HB 125; U/S #2 (3/14/12): HB 144
rlo - HPT taken @ 2/12/12 (+); beta #1 @ 2/13/12: 11,563; U/S #1 @ 2/16/12: Saw a speck!!; U/S #2 @ 2/23/12: 140bpm;
waiting4babies - HPT taken @ 11dpiui (+); beta #1: 240 (13dpiui); beta #2: 610 (15dpiui);
KeniBoo - 1st HPT taken @ 14dpiui (+); 2nd HPT taken @ 15dpiui (+); U/S #1 (1/2/12): HB seen
Lolaloo – beta #2: 238 (15dpiui); U/S #1 (7w2d): 163bpm; U/S #2: 177bpm
dant - 1st HPT taken @ 13dpiui (+); beta #1 (16dpiui): 658; beta #2 (23dpiui): 6476 – 2 heartbeats; pregnancy @ 2/23/12: 27wks w/twin boys!!

Cheerleaders!

Madie - naturally cycling until after Vegas trip
bbluesky - will update us
BiancaPup - will update us
RRaider - having Lap 5/11/12, and recuping
Felicia - taking a cycle off as per RE
stine - waiting for RE appt 5/10/12
Hozzi - waiting to hear from RE about injectibles
Missfireemt - starting BCP 4/2/12
clairity - TTC again when RE ok's it
Tonya - waiting for results
AngiLara - on break until June
bumpenvy - sitting out next cycle and deciding on which treatment to move forward with
MommaA - on break until she can get a referral to an RE
wantingBB2 - taking time off until Jan/Feb
LoveALotBear - DH's issues being assessed before moving on
39&trying - waiting until Christmas when DH is on leave
jkmommy - taking time off to live and possibly use DE's at some point
ajeanine - concentrating on school before deciding when to cycle again
bbhopes - taking time off to re-balance life and get back into a better head space
gingaly - getting ready for IVF in May
DandJ - getting ready for IVF in January
Kit Kat - IVFing
Julsxoxo - going to get ready to IVF
Impatient - IVFing but still sharing all her great knowledge! [FET #1 beta #1 @ 15dpo: 241; beta #1 @ 17dpo: 699; U/S #1 (3/30/12): 1 bean @ 6w3d, HB: 124]
margaret - going to move on to adoption
blu_sky - always cheering us on and answering our questions!
trevorsmommy
MBS
MariahBeth
webbabelpn
Vegan Princess

Waiting To Here From

roundtwo
BeeRok
Trytryagain
Rida
MBeaupre
AngnShaun
ts009
MLNY
aeon
IshaSerene
Jossie.D.
hoping2be
Teosmom
Jilld
mary
MCJ

[Hozzi24]

Frewty – I don’t think we have an asian market around us that serves sushi. We do have a local market (similar to a whole foods) that makes sushi…I have gotten it from them and it was really good. I will have to try it take out for DH and I to see how it compares price-wise to going out to eat. I have never had Turkish food – what sort of entrees do they serve?

Stine – My SIL gave me a few IF books after she had already conceived. I tried reading them and just couldn’t really get into them. The book I am reading now is pretty interesting and it deals with the emotional aspect of infertility and how to find a way to relax (stress can cause infertility and infertility can cause stress – it’s a vicious cycle). Plus she really hits the nail on the head in terms of how I feel as an infertile, especially the effects it can have on a marriage. I think I have said it before, but if I were you I would probably move on to IVF. The success rate is higher and since you are looking into financing for IF at this point you might as well go for what will give you the biggest bang for your buck.

Wannabebe2 – That video is a good one. Although I still like the video that Faith shared during the last thread Tears and Hope - the infertility awareness project - it is truly amazing.

Impatient – Safeway did not have almond bark so I ended up using white chocolate instead. They actually turned out great and were super easy since I melted the chocolate in the microwave. DH brought some of them to work and the coworkers loved them too. Regarding supplements: Why exactly do you think they are sketchy (besides the fact that they are only partially regulated by the FDA)? As part of my job I have to inspect a local supplement manufacturer – and try to buy their products as much as I can. They are pretty legit in my book.

Baby2012 – Or as an alternate choice to being a crack whore, you can pretend that you are 16 years old and have sex in the back of your car…that usually brings on pregnancy 100% of the time. Ahh the irony of life. Before I became an infertile I used to say that IVF was us (humans) playing gods…and it didn’t conform with survival of the fittest blah blah blah. But seriously – some of the people that get pregnant are such losers that they can’t truly be more fit than me. So I am officially retracting every statement I ever made regarding the subject (I can rationalize anything). For your sake I hope the blood test was wrong – but if you do take a break then enjoy it.

Hyperiongp – I think the talking to you as an intelligent human being is huge in terms of importance. I have hated that Kaiser didn’t really give me any information (let alone choices) regarding my treatment plan. One hundred miles is still quite a ways to travel especially in traffic. I think that most local government employees don’t get short term disability…but at least I’ll have my great pension when I retire (assuming the general public puts down their torches and pitchforks and decides not to vote for pension reform…otherwise my statement will be modified to “at least I have a job”). Glad you had a nice weekend with the fam – this weather is amazing. I love springtime.

Madie – I hadn’t heard of that book series – looks like just the sort of mindless reading that I love. I seriously am going to buy it for my Nook. But beware – when I have my head stuck in a book for the next few weeks and my DH starts whining about me ignoring him I am going to full on blame you. Have you been to SSU lately? If not I bet you wouldn’t even recognize some of the changes they have made – it really has grown.

Faith – Thinking of you today and I hope that all goes well for you. Okay in the process of me writing this I see that you have already done the procedure…good luck and fingers crossed for you.

MrsJenny – Hello and welcome. Major bummer about your first RE – he sounds really insensitive. I swear I don’t understand how or why some of these doctors picked their fields. IF is an extremely emotional time, and all of the jerk face doctors out there are not helping to ease the pain in any way. Glad you were finally able to find a doctor that you liked.

Nyssanyc – I loved your last post btw. Hooray for being a government employee…always under the watchful eye of the local taxpayer. I actually really really love my job. And yes, they are super flexible when it comes to time off or leaving early. What’s even better is that they don’t ask why I have been having so many doctors’ appointments…that is really not a conversation I want to have with my supervisor. As for why we finally decided on IVF. It just seemed like everything was pushing us in that direction. I produce a crapload of eggs (seriously – so many antral follicles), and I worry that with injectables I will have to cancel my cycle, get OHSS or conceive with twins (or more but let’s not go there)…DH does NOT want twins. No way no how – he will do anything for us to not have them. With IVF we will be able to use my egg factory to our advantage and we will be able to control the number of eggs that we transfer (which will most likely be one unless anyone can guarantee to me that we will only conceive 1 child by transferring two eggs). So in our quest to avoid Kaiser treatment out of town (which I have bit**ed incessantly about already so I will spare you) and to avoid the possibility of twins, we have decided to do IVF. Hooray to your known donor for making the decision for you and your DH….even if it wasn’t the decision that your husband was hoping for. I hope that they can find a solution to your rash problem – sounds like a pain in the a**.

Drsquid – I don’t know if every clinic offers the 2 IVF insurance package – mine doesn’t. I have a feeling that you are going to the same clinic that my BIL/SIL went to last year. You might want to explain to everyone what the options are if you want some input. I do know that my BIL/SIL chose to go for the package where you pay a little bit extra but you get an extra ER if needed. I remember them thinking that it was a bit of a gamble since if you conceive with eggs from the first retrieval than you are out that extra $$$. In the end they went with it (but didn’t end up needing it as they got their BFP with their first FET). Also, you’re not a failure – you’re just practical and this sounds like it is the right decision for you.

AFM – DH had a nice long talk with his Mom last night and when he got off the phone he was 100% ready to move forward with IVF. Pretty much everything that he has been fighting me on as to why we shouldn’t do IVF, his mother was on my side of the argument. Yippee for my wonderful MIL, but blah that it required her input for DH to make a decision….can we say momma’s boy. So once AF arrives I will start BCP and then go on from there.
On a non IF related subject. Does anyone else do a veggie garden? I had a case of the Monday’s yesterday so I took off ½ day and went home to plant all of my veggie starts. So far I have 3 different types of heirloom tomatoes, 1 tomatillo, 2 squash (patty pan and crookneck), and 2 cucumber (Armenian and lemon)…plus herbs. I am so excited about it – I put aviary netting over the garden beds so hopefully that will keep the **** chickens away from the starts.

[Madie2011]

Nyssanyc – Oh I’m sure you went to Nobu in NY! Now I’m jealous, as I hear that’s where all the celebs go. There were zero in SD. We had some rolls and then the seabass and it was very good. Mind you, it was only like $26, compared to our favorite seabass at a local restaurant ($39), so we had to try that instead of ordering hoards of sushi. Hoping that the IUI turns out to be all that you needed, and not drunk DS CHUNK of your elbow? How absolutely painful . I hope it turns out to be nothing.

Heartoooangel – The remodel is due to end by Fri, May 11. DH and I went there after work to check the progress and the kitchen is a shell, all the cabinets and counters are removed. It was surreal. I’m really looking forward to the end result.

Faith – glad everything went good this morning. One or two will find where they need to go!

Hozzi – I’m surprised you haven’t heard of the book, it is the book club read for a few of my friends around town. I haven’t downloaded it to my kindle yet, was trying to decide on that or #2 of hunger games. I have not been to SSU in years! Was in the area a few years ago for wine tasting, but we didn’t go by. Oh and my favorite (and a number of family members too) pizza ever is Old Chicago. OMG, double crust is to die for. I love that place. Glad that your DH is convinced IVF is what you need to do, and hoping that you’ll stick around here for a bit to let us know how things go.

AFM – AF kind of started late evening yesterday. I have a phone consult with the RE on Thursday and then we’ll have an actual appt later this month. He was gone 2 weeks for the death in his family, so his schedule is terrible. Fine for me, since we can’t make any decisions with Vegas already planned mid-month. Oh, already mentioned above, but the kitchen is empty. All our stuff is covered with plastic and h/w floors are as well. Hopefully the 2 weeks will go by quick and things go well, though I am liking being 1 mile from work in the apt

[Nyssanyc]

The comedy of errors that is our fertility "plan" this month continues unabated. Seriously, I should get a screenwriting gig out of this. And, no, no lectures or judgments, please. This is for entertainment purposes only.

Because of the cold/flu/fever last week, and the stress of the house sale, and the ^%(#@! rash, D "Kaiser" H wondered whether we should just skip this month entirely (well, he would have done the known donor, had the known donor not slutted out on us), on the theory that my eggs this month would be little ticking time bombs of typhoid-infused cortisol. Against my better judgment, I asked the RE her opinion. (Note to self: you took "obey" out of the vows for a reason; get with it.) She responded that the fever was some concern, which "might" reduce the chances a little this month, and it "wouldn't be a bad idea" to not use frozen donor sperm this month. DH was totally comfortable with that . . . and, post-biopsy last night, when I was bleeding through my bandages and really felt like having a glass of wine, I grumpily said I would be fine with it, too. So no POAS for me to check for the surge between 2 p.m. yesterday and 7 a.m. today.

But at 7 a.m. this morning, there on my trusty CBE fertility monitor, was the telltale egg. And I got to thinking: it really is such a waste to not try this month given that by now I must have some seriously mature eggs all ready to go; I mean, on Friday (CD10) the follicles were 18, 18, and 20, and so by today (CD14) they must be approaching the size of a mac truck, right? So I called the RE's nurse and--in my continuing quest to be the WORST. PATIENT. EVER.--asked her how strong the doc's recommendation was, i.e., whether she really thought it was better to wait, or whether she was just trying to support what she thought our (read: DH's) decision was. Turns out, she was mostly just trying to be supportive. And for some reason I'm just feeling really strongly it would be a mistake not to try this month . . .

So now we are going forward with the IUI, with no clear idea of when I surged other than sometime in a 17-hour window yesterday afternoon through this morning, and the knowledge that I surge at night ~80% of the time, and the statitistical chance that I ovulate on the very early end post-surge because I'm, you know, old, and the fact that, frankly, it's amazing those follicles have lasted this long. We've planned it for 4:00 p.m. today.

I feel the chances of any eggs meeting any sperms this month are about as good as me meeting George Clooney in my gym locker room. But there you go.

Let this be your example of how you don't want to manage your lady parts, and feel safe and secure in your superior planning. Namaste.

[Hozzi24]

Madie - Since I am a Hunger Games junkie I suggest you get book #2 of that series. I have read that series 3 times so far (I am a major re-reader of books). And I think it was discussed before but I still recommend the Outlander series to anyone that is looking for a few good reads. Mmmmm...Old Chicago! When I first got out of college I worked in Petaluma, but now I don't get down that way very often. DH and I are in walking distance to downtown SR so that is usually where we head when we are going out to eat (both of us will lose our jobs if we get a DUI so if we are walking downtown then we don't have to stress about splitting a bottle of wine at dinner).

[Hozzi24]

Quick question ladies (not IF related...sorry) -

I don't know if it is stress or something else but I am so tense in my shoulders (only the left side) that it is radiating down my back and towards my boob. So I decided that I deserve a massage and was looking at the menu for Coldwater Creek - an 80 minute hot stone massage caught my eye but I am nervous to book it since I haven't ever done one.

Have any of you ladies ever had one and do you recommend it for tense muscles?

[bbluesky]

rraider - I wish and pray that your surgery goes well and help you get your BFP soon.Well that
would mean a dream come true,for you and all of us here.

Hyperiongp - little while ago,i read one of your posts whereby you had mentioned that we should never
have blind faith with RE and the treatment he is giving.You had recommended people in that post,saying
although RE recommends certain set of medications,its WE who needs to analyse and think what is good for us.
Little did i know,when i read that post that it would impact me.But i am here to THANK YOU FROM BOTTOM OF MY HEART.
Because the DH and I (long story short)after several contemplations decided to move on to new RE since the old one was
not putting me on any different meds or almost was pushing me for an IVF.
Now the new RE i visited,has found out that the surgery i had earlier last year 2011 to resect my septum
in the uterus was not done well and that he is now gonna do another sonogram to find out the real
status of my uterus.He also suspects that could have been a possible reason for my last m/c.
*****Child ment*****
I read your other posts too,how are you doing? I am sorry to hear about the stress you are going through
with your daughter,its a lot to deal with.Sending all my prayers,well wishes and hugs your way.I strongly
admire the fact,that amidst so much you are going thro,that you still make time for all of us and motivate
us time and again.Amen!!!

Whenismyturn:Just like how i mentioned in one of our chats,see ya beta count looks so excellent.Do
keep us posted on your u/s visit.I am really happy for you.

****End Ment*******

AFM: I had my first visit to the new clinic today and the current RE seemed to be more precise.
He recommended me to take another Sonogram to see if my septum was removed well from the last surgery i had
with my prev RE,since he suspects that it wasnt fixed well from last surgery and could be the potential
reason for my last miscarriage.Its horrible feeling to have another surgery,but then,if that is what it is
meant to take to make my dreams come true,then i would have to go through it.My heart is so broken,that i find
it difficult at the moment to write more,but hoping i am making sense in my post here.
And as usual,i would have to repeat all the bloodworks and stuff before moving on to the treatments.
The only sad part that quite a bit depressed me today was,the RE said'If we would have to do another surgery,
then you would have to wait for four months before trying again and heal well before the treatments".
I know he made sense in conveying this and he is right logically.but my heart is aching to
know that this hard journey still needs more travel.

I want to thank each and everyone of you here,who has been supporting me so much so far and hope will
do the same in future for me.
Sorry,i havent been on the track yet to do personals,but soon will gather more courage and be back.

I sincerely pray and wish BFP's for to those who are all TTC.

[impala]

Newbie here - completed first IUI in April. Am 13dp and pg test tomorrow - am terrified. NO symptoms. Nothing. Not even sore boobs from prog. I can't even confuse prog side effects with pg symptoms as I have nothing - no way of knowing anything. I hate this end of the 2WW. I was doing so well before, the last few days are agonizing...

[Hyperiongp]

CHILD MENTIONED

Hozzi- I am glad that you are going for IVF and DH is on the same page. You makes tons of follies so your response to medication should be really good. As for getting just one baby, then I would recommend that you transfer one at a time noting that research shows that transferring one reduces overall success rates; however no one can guarantee that if you transfer two that they both won't take. Twins isn't all that bad...okay...it is a lot of work and I know some people are overwhelmed by the thought. I guess it is all that I know. Good luck to you.

NYS- You have a great sense of humor. Your predicament is why I love using a trigger shot, because there is no guessing when ovulation occured. I wish you the best of luck this month and you never know...sometimes the quirkiest, most seemingly untimely months are the ones that finally work...

AFM - DH and I talked a long time last night. Getting men to tell you how they really feel takes the act of God, but I was able to pry things out of DH. DH lacks an emotional voice, although he is a loving, caring family man. Anyway I know things have changed and been overwhelming since DD got diagnosed. It has been hard on us, and everything has suffered. I am an independent contractor and I didn't work for 2 weeks, that is the financial end, then having to get up and check on DD every two hours makes everyone tired, not to mention that it interferes with DH and my personal time (which is limited because he works in Los Angeles ... 90 miles... and works in an Emergency Room...bossing around residents and doing trauma surgeries... working some 80 hours a week). We really talked for like 2 hours just about things. Both of us have always wanted the big family and it hasn't been easy or cheap getting to that point. The question becomes how bad do we want another baby or babies. After talking for a long time, we decided that we are going to go ahead with baby in June, so I am on AF now, so when she starts again at the end of this month we will start cycling. I know that I want another baby, I have that baby need again in the pit of my stomach, but the decision to go forward was harder for me. Harder decision because my children that are here now, must come first. Funny, but having another child to care for or even another set of twins doesn't really stress me. What stresses me is being pregnant. I carried both my sets of twins full term, and never served a single day of bed rest, but pregnancy is hard on me especially the first and last trimester (First pregnancy was less discomfort than second, and what was the hardest was I had hyperemisis during the second pregnancy). I sort of feel like it is now or never as I will be 41 in June. We are still holding fast to the 3 cycles, and if after 3 cycles if there is no BFP, then we are done with IF treatments. Seems so final to me. Since 2007 IF treatments has been my life.

Now saying that I just went over DD's numbers with her diabetic counselor and she said they are looking great. Sure we have had a couple high's and a few lows, but overall really good. We are staying in our target blood glucose area about 70% of the time (which is 180-80 for a 3 year old).

I counsel people all day almost everyday, and I tell people to deal with the here and now, take one day at a time. You know it is easy to say, but it is hard to follow your own advice sometimes.